How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

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You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

Err, so he is expecting you to pay for everything? Nope. He’s a tight twat and you should be rethinking this relationship when back home op. I bet this is the tip of the iceberg. For now, get him to transfer money to you, or keep a tally and ensure he knows he’s giving it back to you. Yuck, what a turn off.

He’s lying to you 🙄

Is it shit planning or taking the pure piss?

Well I hardly ever take actual cash abroad, but I've never encountered a whole country that doesn't take Visa or Mastercard. Amex is trickier but I don't really solely on it for this reason.

Has he really got zero in his current account?

Do you really need to ask?

So have you actually asked/told him to go online and transfer money from his current account to yours, so that you take it out at an ATM for him?

Well I've come away for the weekend with just my credit card. Thought everyone did that?

But what kind of credit card doesn't work in most countries in the world?

I'd wonder how he's going to feed himself for the next week or get home from the airport. Because it certainly wouldn't be me paying for it.

We need some context. Did he want to go on the holiday? Who paid for accommodation and flights? How long have you been together and do you live together?

He would rapidly become my EX partner 😉

I'd be thinking they'll be going hungry until they sort themselves out.

I'd get the next flight home and leave him to sort himself out.

Sorry forgot to say, it's a savings account you can't access online apparently.

Even if this was true - and I doubt it, given that online/phone banking is the norm now and no one has to go into physical bank to do their basic banking - then he must have a current account and it can't be maxxed out on overdraft if he has £££ savings. It's patently BS and he expects you to pay for him. Don't. Treat him like a grown up and leave it to him to sort this out. Enjoy yourself!

I can’t imagine being with a partner who would behave like that, no!

Yeah, I'd be inclined to.see.this as a relationship ender. It's not just the stinginess. Its the casual attitude that you will fix it. I assume he hasn't promised.to.pay you back?

Unless this is a trip he didn't want and didn't agree to, this behaviour is 100% not ok.

Sorry, but what credit card doesn't work abroad? Where the hell are you? If it's a relatively normal holiday destination, and not like South Sudan or Uzbekistan, then sorry, he's pulling a fast one on you.

Some banks do put a temporary block if the card is used abroad (one of DM’s Halifax visa cards, DH’s Nationwide visa card - my Nationwide card is fine, DM has other cards which work fine).

What isn’t believable is that he has no other mechanism for either making payments or transferring money to OP, because every other penny he possesses is tied up in a fixed rate ISA (or whatever excuse he is using). As a PP pointed out, he is paying his bills, so clearly has money accessible somewhere.

YANBU . So what is his plan for spending money now then? How long have you been together? Why can't his family send some money to your bank account for you to withdraw for him?

If you do give him money, give him a round sum to pay for things as he goes as it will make it easier for him to pay you back again if its a set sum. Then you won't have to keep tally of everything you pay for him (assuming that you want to give him money).

Is he always this tight? or is this just unfortunate as he thought the card would work?

There are people who don't see the need for cash, and are then screwed when their card/phone pay doesn't work.

Whatever his reasons, he is selfish for not researching it all beforehand and causing you this problem and potentially ruining your holiday.

Tell us more about this credit card that won’t work abroad…

How long have you known this person?

Trust your gut. The fact you are asking you know deep down it doesn't sit right. He needs to find a way to get funds over to you. You can't be responsible for the both of you while away.
How long have you been together?

And for the others and their judgemental comments in this post. Not necessary. Trying be more supportive for when someone asks for help.

I would feel he was weaponising incompetence and taking me for a fool.

Does his credit card work at the airport? He can book a flight home to get some money. Cheeky bastard.

I'd tell him to get on a plane and go home if you don't trust him to pay you back if you end up covering him.

If it's a genuine mistake and I can see that he expected to pay by card but it is not working and tried his best to sort things out and promised that he will pay back on return I might accept it. Anything less and I will say oh that's a shame that you can't join me on x y or z activity. Shall we meet later? I suspect it is the latter as he didn't even pay for the trip (unless it was a present).

Ridiculous.

I would end it and tell him to go home.

So he is expecting you to pay for everything? I'd be going out without him. I bet he'd find some money pretty damn quick if you did that.

Like PP, I call bullshit that his credit card does not work and he can't get hus hands on any money.