Guy revealed this on phone.

[newdater32]

So I've been talking to a guy I met through an online dating app. We've been on one date and due to meet again next weekend. We've been talking everyday and have had a 2 hour phone conversation tonight. He's ticked all my boxes and seems great.

Tonight he's revealed that he has had a one on one with a guy to experiment to see if he liked it. He said he wasn't satisfied and that he's not gay, but wouldn't be against it if he was in a group situation and the other guy was bi.

This has completely turned me off him. It was like a switch turned off completely in me. I'm not homophobic, but just was not expecting this.

Am I being unreasonable here? Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong?

There's nothing wrong with either of you.

Just personal preference.

You like what you like and it completely depends upon your personal beliefs and values. I personally know various people who have experimented and it wouldn’t stop me from a relationship if I liked someone. However i know for some they would see it as a red flag and he’s telling you to test the waters

There is nothing wrong with you and it is not homophobia. You have your preferences and a bisexual man isn't one.

Of course you're not wrong. You're not attracted to men who have had sexual encounters with other men. Nor am I. Move on swiftly.

yANBu, closed minded perhaps but if you're not ok with it then you're under no obligation to continue seeing him for any reason

@Thekormachameleon

A bit harsh calling the OP closed minded. It is just her preference. I wouldn't consider dating a bisexual man.

I don't think it's harsh

He's not bisexual, he experimented and didn't like it

You’ve got the ick now. Time to move on.

This.

Also, top username!

Just before I met DH, I had a very close friendship with a very attractive man and it was on the verge of going further. Until I found out that he was bisexual, which he'd conveniently forgotten to tell me.

That was it for me, potential for a relationship totally gone. I am not homophobic in the slightest, but the fact he hadn't told me and given me the opportunity to decide based on that (it would've been a definite no, btw) crossed a line.

You're no more wrong than I was. I had my boundaries and so do you.

The fact that he’s done it wouldn’t bother me, but the way he’s spilling this after only meeting once is the major ick for me… to me it just screams that he wants to set up group sex further down the line. That’s the turn off for me, not that he’s slept with a guy.

Preference, I was in love with a suspected bi man if he told me I wouldn't care as I loved him but if he told me off the bat would have rejected him.

And group sex is vile. Yuk the disease 🤢🤢

Agree...he's testing the waters to see how you're going to react to his group sex predilection.

Erm he is bisexual. Being open to messing with as man and like women makes you bi. No such thing as experimenting this isn't a science class.

You not wanting to be in a relationship with someone who has already put the idea of group sex on the table, so reasonable to predict he would like that as part of his life, and therefore yours is you were partners, is not the same thing as thinking he shouldn't do that and is a bad person.
If you want a relationship with a guy who is not going to seek to involve additional people in your sex life that's reasonable.
You're not compatible and that's fine.

Oh fantastic, another bi bashing thread.

I've not read any "bi bashing" on this thread.

A straight woman wanting to date a straight man isn't bi bashing. I say this as a bi woman.

@Opinionwontchangeluv how strange to put everyone into neat little boxes and label them

Bisexual people are consistently attracted to both genders

He was bi curious at best, experimented and didn't like it

Some people like to try new stuff

I don't give a fuck who people want to date. But I've got the tact to not start threads like, 'Just found out the woman I'm talking to on Tinder is overweight. Am I unreasonable to find that so disgusting that it's instantly put me off her?'

I wouldn't be in the least bit unreasonable to not fancy someone for whatever reason. But I would be unreasonable to start a thread to encourage others to reassure me that they also find fat women unattractive. There's just no need for it.

Nah. I experimented one night with a woman in my younger years and didn't like it and this confirmed very definitely in my mind that although I can find women mesmerising, and indeed sexy, I don't actually want to be sexually involved with them at all. It very definitely confirmed my hetrosexuality to me and that's fine. I certainly don't identify as bisexual and I'm sure this man doesn't - he didn't like it.
I have several gay friends who tried dating the 'expected' sex in our youth before coming out and they aren't bi and would be quite offended if you tried to label them as such now- besides you don't get to choose others sexuality label for them anyway.
You are however allowed to get the ick for whatever reason you get it, reasonable or not. If this is that for you then that's ok.

I'd be the same OP. It would turn me off too.

Testing the ground to see if you'd be up for a threesome, and the guy doing you both. I mean if it's not your bag then it isn't so why the query? If you can't decide for yourself whether you're into a man and what they do or not, and have to ask 'Is there something wrong with me?' then maybe you need a break from dating for now.
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If the vast majority of replies said 'YABU, you're out of order give him a chance' is that what you'd do - really?

It would have given me the 'ick'. One date and a phone call and he is so candid about his experiences/preferences says he is testing the waters - are you up for group sex / threesomes?

In your situation, I would be walking but relieved he had let me know early on what he was into.

I’d be exactly the same. Definitely not for me and I’d shut that down straight away.