Guy revealed this on phone.

[newdater32]

So I've been talking to a guy I met through an online dating app. We've been on one date and due to meet again next weekend. We've been talking everyday and have had a 2 hour phone conversation tonight. He's ticked all my boxes and seems great.

Tonight he's revealed that he has had a one on one with a guy to experiment to see if he liked it. He said he wasn't satisfied and that he's not gay, but wouldn't be against it if he was in a group situation and the other guy was bi.

This has completely turned me off him. It was like a switch turned off completely in me. I'm not homophobic, but just was not expecting this.

Am I being unreasonable here? Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong?

I know totally agree with you, he wouldn't be for me either. I'd sack him off too OP.

I'm with this answer. It doesnt matter one jot if others would be ok with it, you arent. You arent obliged to continue dating someone.

So, move on and let both of you find someone you are compatible with. You've only been on one date, it's not like you've promised each other to be together for a life time. Sometimes people arent compatible and thats ok- better to find out now than later on.

Imagine thinking you're clever, spouting this bullshit, trying to tell a woman that her wants equal prejudice. I'm going to guess that you get more blatant further along the thread. Stop telling women to ignore their boundaries with regards to who they share their bodies with. Thanks.

Edited for shocking grammar due to the rage.

Haha can’t believe you googled it!! To ‘enhance’ your image, imagine the ‘mime-ee’ is a 56 year old, naked bloke 🤢

And they did stating I was dressing up phobic feelings as boundaries ! Oh the attempt to chastise and force guilt! Are we not allowed boundaries anymore?

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So not the ingenue he'd have you think he was !

I don't think we are anymore. I would hate dating these day's I know that. I've seen 'close minded' mentioned a few times. Sad if that's coming from other women.

I’m not telling her to ignore them. I just saying what, in my opinion, the aversion rooted in. Rage all you like.

What absolute nonsense. Are you telling me that if a black man said he wasn't attracted to white women that would be racist? That he's not allowed to only want to date black women? Or is it only racist when it's white people?

You are indeed entitled to your opinion. My opinion is that you need to have a look at why you are trying to manipulate a woman into ignoring her own wants and boundaries. There's something in that I'm sure. It's a little dark.
FYI, very simply, women and men are totally entitled, should be encouraged infact, to follow their intuition on whoever they are dating. The group aspect wouldn't bother me for example but it would raise my hackles if mentioned on the first date. No thanks. Next please.

You cannot control the ick. It can't be bargained with, there's no compromise, you can't wait it out cos it's got infinite time & patience - just accept it, move on. You can't be blamed for what you can't control.

He's just testing the water to see how far and in how many people he can stick his dick without you objecting.

I’m not talking about mentioning group sex on a first date, I’m talking about the bisexual aspect.

I also said OP is entitled to treat dating or relationships however she wishes to.

Viewing something as a homophobic cause is not manipulation, because I don’t care what OP does.

Try harder.

Men are such vile creatures.

@Didimum am confused. A woman not wanting to have sex with a bisexual man is homophobic? Can't make this choice with out being called a bigot? A gay man saying the same is he homophobic?

Jesus wept. I'll say this then i'm done cos I've got a headache from trying so hard. I don't agree with the homophobic aspect but that's what you think so that's that. It was the post I quoted I had issue with. An attempt at manipulation that was shit luckily and easily spotted. Just say what you want to say instead of looking daft.
One last time, do not (attempt to) manipulate women into ignoring their wants and boundaries. Thanks.

She’s entitled to not have sex or date anyone she doesn’t want to. If the sole reason for the switch off in attraction is someone being bisexual or having had a sexual experience with a member of the same sex, then yes, in my opinion, that is rooted in homophobia/biphobia.

Many people feel this way – I don’t particularly care that they do, but I do think it is what it is. My own DH feels this way and I also said the same to him. We were able to have a conversation about it without anyone feeling offended.

If a gay man expresses the same, then yes – heterophobia/biphobia would be the equivalent.

I’m no more interested in a man who needs to experiment with men than I am in group sex, so it would be a hard no for me.

Where's the "bi bashing"? Are people not allowed preferences? Should we be forced to date people we don't want to? What exactly is your problem?

Manipulation is trying to control or influence someone, which I’m not doing. I said I think she’s free to do whatever she likes – quite the opposite of manipulation. How she feels about my opinion is her own business.

I think he has been honest about his experiences and preferences. Was he suggesting that you join you in group sex or just sharing a fantasy? In any case, if that's not your preference, that's fine. No one is right or wrong here. No need to make a big deal out of it.

JFC! It's not fucking homophobic to not want to be with a man who is into men! People can be turned off for any reason!

I wouldn't sleep with a virgin, instant ick. Am I virginphobic? I would go near people of certain of religions. Am I religionphobic? I wouldn't sleep with another woman. Am I homophobic? I wouldn't sleep with a man who has been with men. Am I biphobic?

An attraction to the same sex isn’t something you can see or sense. You only know about it if told. If someone is a loyal and good partner who is attracted to you and you are otherwise attracted to them, then finding their past experience or future potential to be attracted to someone of the same sex suddenly an aversion, then yes, it is likely rooted in biphobia/homophobia. If they are a good and loyal partner then it effects you in no way.

Religion affects one’s lifestyle, and they do not stop practicing their religion when they are with you. You wouldn’t sleep with another woman because you do not find women aesthetically attractive.

Sounds like he's checking if you're into the idea of a 3some.