Guy revealed this on phone.

[newdater32]

So I've been talking to a guy I met through an online dating app. We've been on one date and due to meet again next weekend. We've been talking everyday and have had a 2 hour phone conversation tonight. He's ticked all my boxes and seems great.

Tonight he's revealed that he has had a one on one with a guy to experiment to see if he liked it. He said he wasn't satisfied and that he's not gay, but wouldn't be against it if he was in a group situation and the other guy was bi.

This has completely turned me off him. It was like a switch turned off completely in me. I'm not homophobic, but just was not expecting this.

Am I being unreasonable here? Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong?

Move on as it will always be there in your mind. You can't 'unread that' as it clearly does affect you. He seems quite experimental so doubt he's the commitment type anyway.

Absolutely, all this used by those proudly advocating how they forcibly break through the cotton ceiling and force/shame lesbians into accepting sexual penetration from women Penis havers because if they don't they're evil bigoted bad people!

It’s meaningless to use those words out of the context of how they were written. You can call a spade a spade while still making it clear people can date who they want.

It’s an internet forum and OP has asked the question. People are here to give their opinion, not overly sugarcoat something.

Literally no one on this thread has said anything like that.

It should also be pointed out that on the first 4 pages of this thread there have been at least two disgusting responses to women who have had relationships with bisexual men, and two others who equated bisexual/gay men to paedophiles, people who have sex with animals or people who pay to have sex with trafficked women. Completely indefensible.

You're hard work aren't you?! Go for a brisk walk or something then revisit what I said... although you come across as being deliberately obtuse so it may not help. 🤷‍♀️

Maybe you do find me hard work … oh well. Disagreeing with you and not understanding you are two separate things.

This thread…Christ…I’ve genuinely lost my faith in people. Preference/prejudice…two different words but seemingly often confused. Like a pp said, I’m likewise out.

@newdater32
You're allowed to feel how you feel.
FWIW, it would also give me the complete ick.

What is it with your "Try again" and "Try harder" comments?

As if you are the oracle, and correct about everything, and the rest of us are mere plebs who are trying, and failing, to get one over on you. So weird.

You are name calling and labelling women as "Bi-phobic" if they don't want to sleep with bi-sexual men. That's appalling and could really make a sensitive or very young woman question the validity of her own boundaries.

And then we find out that you have only ever dated straight men. So you don't even practice what you preach.

Absolutely bonkers.

Nobody equated bisexual or gay men to paedophiles, people who have sex with animals or people who pay to have sex with trafficked women.

What was said is that you are allowed to exclude people from your dating pool for any reason, for eg. you might not want to date a man who had used prostitues. You might want to re-read the posts.

So here you say you've only dated straight white men, but in a different post you say you've dated a bi-sexual man. Hmm.

And it's not shallow to only date people that you fancy. Bearing in mind that you're not going to want sex with someone that you think is unattractive. I have known men in my life, who are funny and kind, but I don't want sex or a relationship with them, because I don't fancy them. And that's fine!

I've made 21 comments on this thread and have said 'try again' or 'try harder' twice. So that's a major exaggeration.

You're just annoyed I don't agree with you, so you'll just have to put up with it I'm afraid.

I have made it abundantly clear that OP should date who she wishes to a number of times.

I also stated very clearly above that I have dated a man who had had a sexual experience with another man, so yes I so practice what I preach, not that that has anything what to do with you or my opinion whatsoever. That man classed himself as straight. As I tend to let people self-identify their sexuality, then I will class him as straight.

Bye.

I have only dated straight men. The man I referred to had had a same-sex sexual experience 10yrs prior to us meeting. He classed himself as straight then and he still does 20yrs later. I will let the individual self-certify their own sexuality.

I didn't say it's shallow to only date people you fancy. I said it shallow to blanket reject people on one aesthetic element alone. Keep up.

Nope – it said we should have 'some standards' to where a penis has been, because it could have been in an underage girl, an animal or a prostitute. This was in reply to a woman you had dated a bisexual man, and the poster was telling the woman she should have standards. There is absolutely no reason, cause or logic to comparing a man who has has sex with another man to a man that has had sex with an underage girl, animal or prostitute, if you are comparing 'standards'.

If he'd said he tried it and hated it and it was a mistake, I could get past it. The end.
It's the fact that he went on to say he'd be open to it in a group sex situation. If group sex is on his radar I'm out, whoever is in the group.

@Moro93

we're going to have to agree to disagree.

The men are happy in straight relationships. There's no emotional or romantic attraction. It's just sexual play.

it's very common. I wouldn't like it if my partner was doing it, partly because it just doesn't do it for me, but mostly because it's 'cheating' in the same way as it would be if he was doing anything sexual with another woman, even if there wasn't an emotional connection there.

Straight men don't play with other men's penises. 🙄

"Keep up".

There you go again.

Teacher vibes. Anyway, not engaging anymore, I have a feeling that you have your fingers in your ears.

And you simply have an issue with people disagreeing with you. I'm afraid you're just going to have to cope with that the best you can.