To think friend should have reminded me?

[abrabhf]

Friend paid for hers and my ticket to see a recent gig, cost £200 each. These were bought months ago and I forgot about it, we also have barely spoken since purchase.

I never paid her back and now the gig has been and gone and she’s ignored my texts and calls.

You’re a terrible friend. You can’t afford to give her £200? So why did you agree to her buying the tickets?
pay her back £20 a month until it’s paid at least. Don’t be that person.

You sound like a pretty crap friend. shes had enough of having a crap friend. She didn’t remind you as a test, you failed the test.
shes out of pocket and the friendship is over.

You should be really ashamed of yourself OP! If you agreed to go in the first place, you must have either had the money at the time, or planned to save up for it. Why when your friend invited you round, and you weren't available at that time, didn't you suggest another date, or call her when you were free to get together?

You're basically a rubbish friend, and a flake! Pay her the money you owe her, even if it's only £10 a week. Disgraceful behaviour, and I hope she makes anyone else you know aware of it.

So when she mentioned the summer gig that you were attending with others, that didn’t jog your memory about the other one and money owed?

have you paid her back yet?

who needs enemies with friends like you

So is this an accurate summary?

You're a non-commital friend who doesn't make an effort. Your friend pays £400 for tickets to a gig that you've agreed to pay then conveniently forgot for months (yeah right).

Now you still can't afford it. What exactly did you think she'd do to get that money back, or is it ok for her to pay £400 for a night out but you pay £0 and then she's forced to go on her own.

You're a crap friend, I hope you learn from this.

Or more likely, the friend came to realise the OP was a user and she was never going to be paid back and chose to avoid conflict. Many people hate conflict and will avoid it, even at great cost to themselves.

Did you not go to the concert? I think it’s easy to forget about the payment. I only just today asked a friend if I paid her just over £100 for tickets she bought months ago bevayy it we I could remember and these days it can be hard to locate and identify payments to things. I would have had to search through many months.

Some people just don't like asking for money back.

She expected OP to pay and didn't believe that someone who couldn't afford tickets before payday would forget they owe £200 out of their wages.

That's probably why she's cut her dead, she doesn't want a friend who would behave like this.

I'm very fair on AIBU but I just don't believe that someone forgot to pay £200 back to a friend.

You're in the wrong, very much so. Please do better with others moving forward.

If you agreed to attend the event (despite the fact you forgot about it), you need to pay her back as she wouldn't have bought you a ticket if you'd said no.

You clearly set an expectation that you knew you owed the money, as you said you said you had to wait for payday.

If I was your friend I'd be pissed off too.

Why didnt you set a reminder in your phone? Written it on a calendar? Notice board?
Wow, I'd be utterly mortified if I somehow forgot to pay. Or if I couldn't afford it, go ahead and agree for my friend to buy the ticket.

You cant afford to pay it now, couldn't at the time. Seriously though, did you perhaps hope your friend would waiver the fee and take you anyway.

Come to think of it, id be deeply saddened if my daughter, out of the goodness of her heart, paid for a ticket upfront for a friend and then got screwed over and went to the gig all alone. Horrible.

Obviously you need to pay her the £200 and it's up to you to remember, but it's odd that there were no messages before the gig ie where/when are we meeting to go see the band which would've reminded you. If I were her I'd have mentioned it rather than just saying absolutely nothing and letting it go by.

You do need to make finding the £200 a priority though to reimburse her.

WTF? I'd never speak to you again either. You didn't pay the £200? And the concert had been and gone?

The one shining and delightful thing about this thread is the absolute ratio you’ve been handed, @abrabhf.
PAY THE GIRL HER £200.
And be a better person in the future, which should be relatively simple.

To have a friend, be a friend.

This, and I don't think you can call yourself a friend..

So she was the one always ready to meet. But you weren't?
I think she thinks your a shit friend, who hasn't contacted her, and she probably didn't text you as a test to see if you put in as much effort as she does.
And it looks like you didn't.
If you think of her as a close friend, and if you still want the friendship, you've got some damage control to do and put some effect in the friendship.
Also do u have adhd? Because it would explain a lot (if you see her as an important friend)

Your fault for forgetting, it wasn’t on her to remind you to pay her the £200 or even remember about the gig full stop…

So your friend has invited you to three things - the gig, the event, and dinner - you’ve not been to any. And you wonder why she’s dropped you?

if a friend had invited me to these things my responses would have been:

gig: yes please, can I pay you on pay day? (And paid, and attended because it was in my calendar)
event: I’m already going with sue and chris - would you like to join us?
dinner: damn I can’t make that, how about next week?

I think your friend is well rid of you tbh.

Pay the money!

If you can’t afford it all at once, pay £20 a month. Set a standing order so it goes straight out if your bank account.

If you can't afford the £200 you shouldn't have let her buy your ticket! No wonder she's binned you

So have you paid your friend yet, @abrabhf? Paid at least part of what you owe her? Offered a payment plan? Grown a conscience?

She obviously took someone else. Don’t get in touch. Until she does: then play dumb ha ha

Doubt @abrabhf is coming back...