For being upset at what DP said to his friend?

[summerOnes]

DP is asleep on the sofa and his phone was next to me charged up. He kept getting messages from his best friend, like one every second saying “reply quick” so I went onto the messages to see if it was anything serious so I could tell DP.

Long story short I’ve just read a conversation that went like this.

His friend “how was Amsterdam, did you go to the red light district” (we went amsterdam last week week)
DP “yeah there were so many fit birds there”
His friend “There is isn’t there🤣”
DP “yeah I’m so glad I went with (my name) otherwise I’d be skint🤣”

Ive come upstairs because I am fuming. He’s still asleep downstairs and I know when I mention it to him he will say he was joking. But would anyone else take it as a joke? Am I over thinking and just put it down to lads having “banter”

She checked his phone, she finds out he’s a sleazy cunt. Surprise surprise! 😃

Oh please 🙄 😂🤣🤣

He sounds immature and I wouldn't like it. If you are keen on staying together, I'd tell him you don't like it and move on. If you want to dump him or can't get past it, dump him. It depends whether it's a steady boyfriend or not.

Ops husband appears to be on here in the shape of mushroom valiantly fighting his corner. Struggling one must note around the ethics of paying trafficked humans for sex and scurrying around the red light district, but nonetheless fighting on - seems a little lost on what humour actually means but rather pathetically imagines this would be acceptable to 99.9% of the female population! Anyone want to break it to him…

This!

Don’t you just wish for that for a gorgeous romantic weekend away 😬

@Howbizarre22 ... surely I'm entitled to my own opinion. I still have faith in the male population.. I give you there are a few who are questionable but on the whole most are just normal common or garden variety males.

I had my share of idiots, I'm a survivor of DA.. but I refuse to let one rotten apple spoil the basket.

I absolutely 100% trust my husband, he 100% trusts me. I do not need to check his phone, or he mine. We often share phones, he'll answer mine and vice versa.

The OP has chosen to be upset by what she saw, and has come online for validation for those feelings.. and she's getting that in buckets. But, she went looking! Nothing suggests her partner has cheated or will cheat, unless there's a whole backstory we've not been given.

So, you can have your opinion that all men are pigs.. and I'll keep mine that there's still some good guys out there.

With absolute impeccable timing whilst catching up on this thread a friend sent me this

Gosh imagine the backlash if that photo was a woman?

No couples would stay together if they knew everything each other did, said and thought for every minute of the day.

I agree that he was joking with a mate. I think you are over reacting @summerOnes however I understand why. This would cut me to the core if my hsuband was messaging this. I do not believe in secrecy in a marriage. I never look at my husbands phone (and I don't think he looks at mine) but we have each others passwords, and use whatever phone is closest for admin etc. There should be NOTHING on that phone that could hurt and humiliate you. Hnestly I do not think he cheated but wanted to sound the big man, that if he wanted too he could have. This needs an honest conversation about how his joking has hurt you..then move on. (however i would have my antennae up for a while because I would be so worried.)

This is the type of thing my DH would say but I would take it as banter so I guess it depends whether you trust him or not. I would still challenge him about it though regardless of whether I had looked at his phone or not.

“Nothing suggests her partner has cheated or will cheat, unless there's a whole backstory we've not been given”

Not even a literal comment about fucking the prostitutes if she weren’t there. Joke? Oh come off it. That nativity there there is exactly why you think your partner has not and will not ever cheat on you.

What was your response?

What an odd thing to say? Communication and trust are key to a relationship.. it's when couples keep secrets that the walls start to crumble.

Ew. So many women on this thread have such low standards

Failed attempt to make women look bad. Prick. Fuck off mumsnet this is a site for WOMEN

I have been on this site for years and I am a woman so fuck off yourself

@Icantpaint

I laughed

Yet you know it’s vastly used by women. Do your mates know you frequent MUMSNET? Or do they park you on the back for infiltrating it and antagonising the women on one of the only mainly female spaces on the web for support?

I recognise your username you are either a man or an incredibly misogynistic woman.

@Howbizarre22 ...

I know he won't and I trust he won't.

You must realise by now, you won't change my mind! You can call me naive all you like.. you don't know me and you don't know my husband..

I'm sorry you have been hurt and you've lost that trust in men. Maybe you need to talk to someone about it, it must be exhausting carrying this anger around all day long x

Shout it louder for the hard of hearing