First date - is this not a bit weird of him??

[Lilifer]

I joined an old fashioned dating agency a month ago and was sent a match last week. The way it works is that if you like the look of the profile of the guy you let the agency know, and they then contact the man to let him know to contact you, and they give him your number,

So far so good, man, let's call him John rang me on Tuesday to see if I would like to meet up. I suggested we meet up in a city that's half way between us both, (we both live rurally) initially I suggested coffee but he said he would like to go for lunch so I said that's fine, pick a restaurant and let me know which one and I'll see you there at 2pm Saturday.

I waited to hear back which restaurant he was choosing. Yesterday he messaged me to ask where I would be parking so that he could choose a place that's within walking distance of where I parked. (Which I thought was considerate of him.) I told him where I was parking and heard nothing back until just now when he messaged me to say that if it's ok, he'll contact me at 2-ish tomorrow to let me know where he is.

Aibu to find that bizarre and more than a little annoying? He's had 3 days to figure out a restaurant, it's not that hard to settle on a place. And we were meant to be meeting at 2 so what's with the "I'll message you at 2ish" about?? So I'm meant to drive an hour to get to the city , and park and then wait to be given my instructions ... 🤨 I'm a bit unimpressed to be honest.

He did say a couple days ago when we chatted on phone that as he lives rurally an hour from this city he's not too familiar with the restaurants but we all know how to google these days, it's not that hard.

I just think it's weird. I was already a bit nervous of this date as it's my first time getting out there since my divorce and now this has kind of thrown me and I don't know what to respond to him .. can anyone advise?

Men in my experience only want to do things in their own time have a rethink and get someone who texts straightaway you know where you are with them. Good luck anywsy

I would run a mile and move on. To me this displays a clear need to control you so where will the control end ? Or to put it another way he’s a control freak.

That sent me down memory lane! Thank you

I'm guessing they're on the crApp where there's no 'Read All' [OP's posts] function.

99.9% of people are good- really?
Everyone is a sinner, and about 27% of people are criminals. 33% of men. That's just the ones that got convicted. The Number of Criminal Record Checks Carried Out in the UK is Increasing — Personnel Checks
Plus a lot of people have personality disorders, substance abuse issues, or other qualities that you might not want in a date.

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No that's not O.K. Too vague. Have you decided on where we are having lunch?

Your preferences are yours and valid of course, but didn't you know he was shorter than you before he booked to take you out? Did the agency not give you this information? Did he never mention that he works away half the year?

My point is you found out things that are quite important, but they could have been told to you before the meet to stop him booking somewhere lovely only to be turned down by info that really should have been told to you before meeting

I think he is going to try and get a sneaky look at you first before he commits to a date. Sounds like he is nervous or stalky.

It was a week ago! Why are people so incapable of reading the thread?

Hello! I hope you go. He may be nervous of choosing the right place and making a good impression. There is so much pressure these days. Get there early, do a little looking around the shops/area and have a nice hour or so to yourself. Choose a restaurant you like, but don't book it. When he calls, you can say where you are and that you have seen somewhere nice if he wants to go there? Make it all casual. If the date is a bomb, then at least you have had a bit of a day out. Good luck!

IT WAS A WEEK AGO. She doesn't have a time machine

Fair enough I must have misread. Still, my advice to all mums stands.

@AutumnCrow
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I'm guessing they're on the crApp where there's no 'Read All' [OP's posts] function.*

They haven't even read the first post

It says the date is 2 pm on Saturday.

Even if they missed the date of the first post, it is clearly too late.

I think it is a case of
My advice is so good it doesn't matter if is irrelevant

There's no hope really, is there?

Don't go OP he sounds weird! I don't have a good feeling about this at all.

There's this amazing thing you can do.
It's called reading the whole of the original post.

If you did that you would know the date was on Saturday at 2;00 pm, so giving advice on Sunday evening is probably not relevant.

You could go further and check the posting date and then realise it was last Saturday.

Even more advanced is reading updates and then you would know what happened on the date

Thanks for this amazing, time consuming essay lmfao

If you could just supply a time machine as well so she could use this advice a week ago WHEN THE DATE WAS as well that would be great.

Maybe you could provide the quote of the update then, as when there are 18 pages, how are you supposed to know to forward many pages until you can find out they met?

@LilyPAnderson you can select read OPs posts only and catch up quickly that way. Or you could read the first page and last page. You could also look at the date of the first post. If it is several days old then anything you say about an imminent date will be irrelevant.

It’s so annoying to read a thread where people haven’t bothered to read the conversation. It’s rude.

Do you feel superior now? 😉

I feel exasperated