Dating short men

[Shinefast]

I’ve met someone online. Had a date at the weekend and we got on really well.
He’s quite short though. I feel so shallow for thinking like this, but I have always been attracted to taller men. I’m 5’2 and he isn’t all that much taller than I am.
would this be an issue for you?
his bio didn’t have his height on it

Yes I was.

Well didn't you say that young women were by passing the ones who weren't tall dark and handsome? If that's correct then they'll be still available, surely? There's roughly similar amounts of women and men, so if a big group of women refuse to consider short men, there's going to be plenty of them knocking round spare. Which is a bit contradictory to you also arguing they'll all married.

Does what?

Not at all. Nor should it.

Some of them are. Some are not. So the small number of decent men are married ( and very often stay married) before they are 30.

Finding a decent man after 30 is difficult.

other posters will know exactly what i mean 😆

Argue logically? I suppose I do.

she’s never enquired what you’re tapping away on every evening?

😆

Not in detail. I often watch ACDC, aircraft spotting and hearing aid review films on YouTube.

I like looking at maps too.

Preference is ok

I'm 5'11". The shortest guy I dated was 5'7". My first big love was 5'8". So obviously I don't care. My husband was a whisker taller than me.
Contrary to you, I feel physically weird in the company of much taller people (men and women). My cousin (6') married a woman 5'2" and I always thought her neck must ache from craning it to look up at people.
Each to their own though. It's just as reasonable to refer taller people as, say, red heads. Whatever floats your boat!

5'3 wife here, married to NOT MY TYPE 5'9 husband. He is blond (well as we age he is more light brown) He has blue eyes. He is (now retired at 57, so obviously did something right on that front also) not my type at all. And I KNEW instantly that he was my husband. My exhusband was my physical type, 6'2 and a business man. he abused me. My boyfriend that I loved very much after my divorce for two years, was 6'7 tall dark handsome. A major government exec.He was not abusive in the least, lovely, except he hated kids and I had one. So I ended it. Then I met my husband at my dads work bbq. Not my type at all but my god, I wouldn't trade anyone in the world for him. I was not physically attracted at first (except his bum...omg what a butt!) Now I think he is the best looking man on the planet. His chest hairs have gone grey, he has a bit of a tummy now, and his hairline is receding. Still the most handsome man I have ever met (lets face it, I am not as young or hot as I was either lol) Looks are fleeting. Do not judge a man on them (unless he has gross dirty clothes and doesn't bathe..then run lol)

Either resolve to get over it or stop wasting his time. Make your decision quickly.

Of course I personally think you are being totally unreasonable. This obsession with height, just as what type of mobile phone he has and the rest of this nonsense has become really toxic in modern dating.

I'm 5'8" and I've dated taller and shorter men. Makes no difference to me. Probably one of the strongest and most "masculine" men I dated was actually shorter than me (he was a weightlifter).

You're muddling me now with your 'logical arguing'. On one hand you say there are plenty of decent men. On the other hand you say there are only a few. In one post you say these decent men are being bypassed in favour of the T,D&H yet also claim they are all snapped up in marriage by age 30. So, which is it, plenty of short plain decent men hanging around being ignored in favour of wrong uns by daft women, or a precious few short plain decent men who are all married young and therefore unavailable? And if its the second, why are so many short men complaining theyre ignored when really there's barely a bachelor left amongst them?

You're right I didn't make myself clear there. I'll explain it again. I do believe there are quite a few decent men around but not enough for all the women that deserve them. Most of these men will be married by the age of 30 and given that they're the ones that will be doing their share of the child care and the washing up not many of them will get divorced. So if people don't find a decent man by 30 the odds of finding one after 30 reduce significantly

Some women rule out these decent men for superficial reasons. These women may struggle to find a decent man later in life as many of those men will eventually find a women who does value them and will be happily married.

Thank you for explaining. I understand the point you're making now. That there are not enough decent men available to reject one on the basis of his height. And tbf, there is some truth in that. However, I disagree that all the decent men are married by 30. People settle later in life than they did in the 90s and ime there are plenty of decent people of both sexes unmarried beyond 30, so I'd be hesitant to suggest women should be compromising on physical attraction and panic buying.

I think I've made some significant generalisations.

Not all decent men are married by 30.

I agree that nobody should settle.

There are more decent women around than men. Lots of men are selfish. This is often not apparent until after children are born when domestic tasks are slowly shifting to the woman's list whilst golf and football carry on.

i bet your wife would have a real chuckle @Hateam if you showed her all your posts on what “what advice would 40 plus year old women give younger women”.

Go on… I dare you!

Not really possible st the moment due to her health.

See, that's really interesting. Speaking as a woman who's dated women exclusively, and gets to have weirdly frank conversations with men without the burden of sexual overtones, I'd say the opposite. The majority of women I've encountered both online and in real life are cravenly selfish asshats with a sense of entitlement way past their ability to justify it, whereas most men just want an easy life and are willing to give what's necessary to look after their family.

Obviously, that's not a true assessment either, and the truth probably lies somewhere in between.

The difference is that a lot of men are willing to concede that there are an uncomfortable number of guys who aren't the kind you'd want to spend any time with at all, much less the rest of your life. I don't understand why more women aren't willing to admit the same.

I suppose what you need to ask is: Do you fancy him. If yes then it’s no problem. If no, well it’s probably not a keeper. Height is a bit of a loaded subject - we don’t apply the same pressure to hair colour etc. Let go of the guilt etc and just ask yourself if you fancy him or not!!

she can’t read a few posts?

ignore me @Hateam it is absolutely none of my business

I’m 5’3. My last BF was about my height (and about as wide as he was high!)

Current BF is 6’2 and skinny as a rake. We look ridiculous together

Last long term DP was 5’9 and chunky, like me.

i honestly don’t get why anyone thinks height or body shape is so important. It’s much more important to me that someone is decent, caring, thoughtful and honest. Physical attributes are just so unimportant, especially if you like their face and there’s some chemistry there.

My friend had a great date, spent the whole night laughing and had so much in common with this one guy, including having a property in another country where he ran a business identical to one she’d love to run. But he was shorter than her so she ‘got the ick’ and didn’t see him again. Such a waste of potential.