I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

You’ll have to tell him because when he discovers the bump and creates a fuss about it, I’m sure your DS will mention he was collected in it.

All you can do is tell him what happened, then close your ears.

You are unlikely to get a same day repair. Come clean or he’ll not trust you in the future,

DS doesn’t know it happened before he got in the car, I just can’t come clean

Why? Unless you're fearing your safety with his reaction there should be no reason you can't be honest in a relationship.

If he is working from home surely he will look out the window at some point at his brand spanking new car? If it's missing he will report it stolen 🤣

Maybe someone bumped him when he was out and about.

Maybe he won't notice straight away. My rear bumper was hit at the supermarket, I didn't notice nor did my husband until the next day

so what happens if you tell him that you took the car and dented it? My DH would say that he's glad it was just a bump and me and DC are fine.

Its all relative!!

You should not have borrowed it without his consent if its his car as you said

now you have crashed it because you was unfamiliar with the car or a rush as I am guessing the school is not new to you

whatever an "expensive car to you may not be to others - so what car is, model, colour is it over 100k - "dented2 these days all bumpers are plastic - so a pic may help

are you insured on the car or is it thrid party ie you are insured on your car but can drive other insured cars with the owner's consent?

Try to be honest and tell him

OP if it's just a small dent you might be able to get a mobile repair company like Chips Away to fix it. Google dent repairs near me and see what companies you have locally.

No he’ll only notice if he uses the car and looks at the back. It’s parked on our driveway and you can only see the front of the car from the house

My DH had a new car two weeks ago. I'm not driving it until he gets a bump. He's already got a chip on the front bumper from a stone.

- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?

Absolutely do not do this.

Tell him what’s happened and be honest. Although I’d expect you to be paying for the repairs.

In the grand scheme of things It’s just a car. No one was hurt ❤️

Is he likely to understand? Is he abusive?

It’s a car, just own the incident.

I’ve googled it and think it’ll need a new bumper which is £800 😩
I’m fully insured but don’t particularly want to claim as then it’ll be out of my control and my premiums will increase. Also will have to pay £250 excess anyway

If your Dh choses to kick off, you’d be better without him. Accidents do happen all the time.

Are you worrying for your safety? If so maybe the best solution would be getting a lift to the supermarket and hoping that you can play it off that it got bumped there by a trolly or car (supermarkets don't hand over cctv unless police request it because of privacy laws)

If he will just be angry then tell him over the phone and tell him you'll pay for it but wanted him to pick the place to fix it so it's definitely done right/how he'd like.

If it's the first situation it goes without saying that you should leave, but I understand it isn't always so simple.

It won’t be there when it’s being repaired though will it?

The garage would presumably have to order the part

If it's coloured they'd need to spray paint it. It'd need time to dry.

You're going to have to fess up. Or ask him if you can borrow it just now and pretend it just happened just now so you've not stolen it and it's on him for giving permission....

I think you've got more than a dented bumper to worry about if he'd be "furious". Really?

No but I was thinking I could call around garages in the morning and then say I’m borrowing the car to go shopping and get it fixed, then he wouldn’t suspect anything

Surely it doesn’t matter? If my husband did that to me I’d be annoyed my brand new car had been damaged, but I’d get over it in a few minutes. It will need to be fixed, but you’re married so surely you’ll both be effectively paying for it? This would just end up a funny story that I’d tell until I could see my husband getting annoyed with me for dining out in the story and then would be consigned to history. Honestly don’t sweat it.

Unless there is a big back story where you are actually terrified of his reaction. Then I’d advise to do whatever you can to leave as you can’t live like that.

Please OP don’t do this.

Be honest with us here, is he likely to become abusive towards you once he finds out?

I can’t imagine any healthy relationship where you would need to consider hiding this.
Tell him what you did, put the insurance claim in, sorted.
If you are genuinely too afraid to tell him I wonder if you need to think about whether you are getting what you need from this marriage.
And I say that as someone who loves her pricey car and fumes when people park too close to it but really this is what insurance is for.

You sound very scared of your husband and his potential reaction...

Ok I didn’t realise it’s a relatively mild problem- you’re all absolutely right, no-one was hurt, it’s just a car. I didn’t know it wasn’t a big deal to most people, I thought others would receive major consequences for this.