I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

@StaceyAl why will your dh be annoyed?
It’s just a car.
You're more important than a piece of metal.

My dh always says as long as he knows I’m ok that’s all that matters.

Unfortunately things don’t work that way. Garages have to be booked, you need to have a quote on how long the job will take, how much it will cost.

If it’s about your pride, swallow it and be honest with your husband.

That’s good, I don’t think my husband is that reasonable though

I would be the same as you OP.. my DH would go bananas.
Good luck whatever you decide to do and try to keep perspective

Putting aside the fact you need to hide this.
This plan won’t work, it will need to be assessed, parts ordered and then fitted. It’s going to be in the garage a few days + waiting for parts.

Receive major consequences?

Are you in an abusive relationship, it sounds like it......

What’s the worst he can do? If you’re afraid of him (?) that’s an entirely different matter.

Why? What do you think he will do?

what consequences? It sounds like you're talking about a prison warden or something, not a partner.

What a ridiculous comment.

You take something that isn’t yours and you didn’t have permission to take. You then damage said item. Of course the person who owns the item is allowed to ‘kick off,’ I bloody would! It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with OP’s husband as a person.

OP just be honest and tell him what happened. I can’t see how you can go about getting it fixed without him noticing!

It’s my fault- I will fess up, it’s the right thing to do, just need to take a deep breath and mentally prepare

If no one was hurt it’s not a big deal at all.

It’s not an ideal situation, obviously it’s a sting to the bank account and logistically if the car needs to be in the garage for a few days. However we live and learn. BUT- the main thing is you and your DC are fine and no one else was involved.

I think most people here are just concerned for you OP. We want to ensure there’s no risk that your DH is abusive and will react badly.

DH doesn't drive but if he did and this happened then he would be happy I'm ok, a bit grumpy about the car and may sulk for a few minutes but in general would be fine with it.

What do you mean when you say "major consequences" because that's making the hairs on the back of my neck stand up?

Expensive new car and it didn't have a rear view camera or sensors? Pretty standard these days.

Are you insured to drive his car?

Tbh if my husband took my brand new car and drove it without telling me and damaged it to the point of needing a new bumper, I'd be pissed off. I wouldn't be violent / aggressive, but I'd be so so angry he broke my trust by taking it without checking and then also if he tried to hide the damage / pretend it hadn't happened I'd be so annoyed, what you've done isn't a normal / okay thing tbh.

Why are you being so strangely evasive with PPs questions about your husband?

I didn't need a new bumper, they patched it and resprayed. But it had to be booked in and was gone three days.

Did he add you to his insurance as a named driver? Or do you think you are covered under your own policy?

It did have sensors, unfortunately I had music playing loud and didn’t realise they were beeping

I agree ‘receive major consequences’ is a concerning phrase and implies something to worry about OP

Obviously my DH would be a bit frustrated if I took his brand new car without asking and then bumped it. He’d be a little annoyed but wouldn’t shout and it wouldn’t be an argument. There wouldn’t be any consequences for me. I would obviously be very sorry and would offer to pay for, abd sort, any repair or costs.

He never minds if I wanted to drive his car, as I don’t mind if he drives mine.

Actually, you reminded me that he had my car and reversed into a wall which caused significant damage. I wasn’t angry, I was just glad he was ok. He sorted the repair.

I get your fear OP. My husband has been precious about his cars all through our marriage. He didn't like a speck of dirt on the damned things, let alone a mark. Times when I have scuffed a wheel he's gone off on one and created about it for ages.

Having said all that, you can't just walk into a garage and expect a fix like that while you wait. You'll have to book it in, and they may have to order the part if it's not in stock. It can take hours for the work to be completed.

He's going to go mad, you know that, but it's still best to just own up, say you'll cover the costs and get it over with.

It did have sensors, unfortunately I had music playing loud and didn’t realise they were beeping

It’s a good job it was just a wall you hit and not a person .

You shouldn't be this frightened of your husband

It did have sensors, unfortunately I had music playing loud and didn’t realise they were beeping

Sensors usually cut the music out?

It's so easy done

I totally understand OP, my dh is like this

I bashed his car in the drive once and it was old, he went mental

What do you think he’s going to do? Are you scared? Why are you worried about his reaction? It’s not normal to be scared of your husband’s reaction to something like this, or anything really.