I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

I’m a bit concerned about how fearful you are of his reaction - do you feel safe?

What do you mean by “receiving major consequences” ?? What do you think the consequences would normally be ?

I did similar to DHs new car a few years ago. I rubbed some mud over a dent and placed his car on the drive in such a way that he wouldn't see the dent.

He came home from work the next day ranting about how some idiot must have hit his car in the car park.

Must admit I couldn't keep a straight face with my toddler giving me the side eye and told him it was me.

He got his revenge a year later when he was hit one day whilst driving my car and wrote the bloody thing off.

Karma is a bitch 😂

I just said to my husband should I start asking him before I take his car - he laughed and said I thought we were married not dating. To be fair we view them as our cars, not mine and his and there’s probably an unspoken assumption that the person with the kids takes his car - it has more space. Neither of us are particularly possessive though, might be different if someone really loved their car and much preferred to drive it. I think I was responding to the “asking permission” tone of some the responses-felt a bit like parent-child dynamic. Fully appreciate for some people it is asking to be polite!

Consequences? What consequences?

You sound scared of him - you shouldn't be. Does he have a right to be cross with you? Yep. I'd be cross with my husband if he bumped my car. But the only consequence you should be facing is fixing the car. What consequences is he likely to impose upon you? Are you safe here?

Christ, if you're scared of telling your husband, then you've got bigger problems than a bloody bumper.

I love my car, and yet if DP bumped it my first thought would be to check if she was OK, second would be to shrug and start working out the cheapest way to sort it. Kicking off wouldn't be on the cards

If my DH borrowed my new car without asking and subsequently bonked it, I'd be pretty pissed. However, there wouldn't be any 'major consequences' 🤔🤔 Perhaps I'd think twice about insuring him next year 😆

So what? You’ve had an accident. If he kicks off tell him to grow up. It’s only a car! And it can be fixed.

Most dents without paint damage can be removed by the mobile guys in vans. I've only ever paid £40-60 per dent. However, a bumper will probs need replaced and won't be cheap. Just check it's a onepiece and not dented on the replaceable chrome strip some cars have - mine had a dent on rear chrome strip and I got a new one off ebay for £120 and my mechanic glued it on for free at my next service.

I'm surprised it hasn't got reversing sensors tbh.

Sometimes pouring on boiling water will cause a dented plastic bumper to pop back into shape.

I would be really pissed off if my husband borrowed my new car and then drove it into a low wall. In fact I would be fuming. Do you usually have trouble driving?

Yes, but he’s absolutely right to be annoyed that OP took the car without asking - that’s not on at all.

Just read that you had music blaring out. Bad driving indeed. Could have been a person.

Happened to me! Never told my DH. Car wasn’t even new.
I would advise to keep your mouth shut and act all innocent when he discovers it a week later.
Like I said I never told him as he can act like it’s a major thing when it’s just a small thing compared to. He would have gone on about it forever and ever.
Oh yeah and I usually never lie only to DH. I didn’t even lie when I was a child.
Seems like on Mumsnet everyone has a perfect husband.
Good luck op!

Add to that they didn’t hear the parking sensors beeping as they had music too loud - I think you might be right in that a taxi might be the safer option!

I agree. I'd be annoyed if my partner did something like take my credit card without permission for a small purchase and then accidentally spend £800 on it.

It doesn't sound like an abusive relationship. It sounds like she took the car, drove like a twat and damaged it.

With kindness you sound like a bit of an idiot. This is his brand new car that you took without asking then damaged because you were too busy listening to Girls Aloud to pay attention to what you were doing. I'd be furious with you too.

It has - the OP clarified that they were blasting music so didn’t hear them.

I’ve commented on car bumped threads like this before, usually because so many peoples husbands would either laugh about a large financial result or because they would just be so relieved their loved ones weren’t hurt.
My dh would also be really pissed off if I’d taken his car without asking and then crashed it into something causing damage that needed repairing. I’d not want to tell him either. He wouldn’t shout or scream at me but he’d definitely be fucked off about it. And I totally understand. We do keep our cars nice and in good condition. They are a big expense initially when you pay for it and then maintenance also costs. It’s inconvenient to then have further expenses because of careless driving. I’d be pissed off too if it happened to me.
Neither of us are abusive to one another.

Trust me, a man with a new car which he loves will defo notice. He's probably still in the honeymoon stage where he likes to admire it visually.

And the chances of him putting something in the boot are presumably fairly high.

You say you have fully comprehensive insurance, but I'm pretty sure this means you will only have third-party cover to drive your husband's car. Which means you won't be able to get it fixed under your insurance anyway. He will have to go through his insurance, and it will be his premiums that will go up next yet. You should have taken your own car.

I got a new car this week and it's my new baby.

If DH had a bump in it, I'd be annoyed for half an hour and then expect him to assist in arranging the repair.

🤷🏽‍♀️ Perspective here OP. You didn't write it off, no one was hurt. If your DH kicks off, kick him out. Job done

Sounds a bit of a fake post.
Confident enough to take a new expensive care without 'asking' first...confident enough to be driving an unfamiliar car with loud music to the point of not hearing the sensors.

Then super afraid of the mean husband🙄