I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

Also: I can't believe people here ask to take each others cars

We have a weird driveway so whoever is going wherever just takes whatever car is at the front to save playing car Tetris

DC car seats in both, always fuelled.. 🤷🏽‍♀️ mine is the "nicer" car but DH's isn't shabby

I'm generally super careful when driving other people's expensive cars. Sometimes I drive one of my boss's cars back to plant after dropping off a truck and he gets a lift back with another colleague if he's going to be staying for a bit.

100% I'm paying full attention when manouvering his £120k M60 in a car park!

I also wouldn't let a partner drive my car unless they were a competent driver. I've only got a Golf R but I wouldn't want someone kerbing the wheels or grinding the gears as I keep it in pristine condition.

This!

I did hit my husbands brand new car within a month of him getting it. Totally misjudged the size and managed to bash the whole side of it trying to 'squeeze' between parked cars on a narrow road (damaged all 3 panels!)

He was annoyed but there were no 'consequences' for me. Just annoyed to lose my no claims & excess was steep too, so has cost us a small fortune!

Hope you're ok Op.

This!

Does he know you used the car whilst he was sleeping?

The whole point of the discussion is that she took it without his permission.

I would strongly advise against this. He may ask the son which car he was picked up in. He might also be able to check length of last trip and surmise it has been driven since he last drove it.

But he might have woken up whilst she was out and see her return in it. Which is why I asked if he knew she took it.

Receive major consequences? Eh? Yeah you screwed up but it happens, that's life, confess and offer to pay for the repair, job done. He probably won't let you drive it again but does that really matter? Honestly if he's going to kick off and you're going to be scared of his reaction you have bigger problems than a dented bumper.

Pay to have it repaired and then LTB.

I agree with the previous poster saying OP sounds like a fucking liability. For all we know, the husband is the nicest bloke on earth but his wife is a complete dipstick who does shit like this all the time.

Im
assuming he knew you had taken his car, that it wasn’t your own carelessness that could have seriously hurt someone but luckily didn’t, and you didn’t try lie about it?

My dh and I share our family car, and when either of us have scraped it or in his case bumped into another car, it didn't occur to us to be mad. Yes it's a cost, but it's accidental, and everyone was OK. We all make mistakes. If he was going round being intentionally reckless that would be concerning but doesn't sound like that's what's happened here.

You should not be in a relationship where you are scared to talk to your dh for fear of "consequences". Huge red flag, please seek help.

Well when he was saying it he didn't know that it hadn't been my carelessness. Even when our son pranged my husband's car, again, and it was our son's fault he didn't berate him about it. I admit he did get slightly tetchy when the other son sort of detached the bumper trying to get the car out of the garage.

Agreed. If I am driving someone else's expensive new car or actually anyone's car, I would not have music so loud I didn't hear beeping

@27Bumblebees

but sharing a family car is totally different to sneakily taking her DH's brand new car while he's sleeping.

if it's a joint car & the damage accidental (not incompetence) then there's nothing to be angry about. Totally different situation.

Take it to a garage that does re-sprays/panel beating
We took ours and ours was quite bad (big scrape down the side & other bits) and it was panel beated out with their machine, looks brand new can't even tell. It was very cheap (£400). It was either that or it would have been a write off due to having to need a new door & side panel etc. For just that bit on the bumper it should be a fraction of the price. Did take a few days tho.

Why is it his car, has OP got a car, isn't it the family car, OP probably didn't want to walk and shouldn't have to ask to use a family car anyway.

My DW has had a few accidents in the car. I didn't care at all. The only thing I cared for was that she was OK. It is only a piece of metal after all.

what's the point of 'going berserk', and giving your partner a furious bollocking, like some people believe is normal? OP has not said they have specifically agreed not to use each other's cars, it's not like she stole it and wrecked it on purpose, accidents happen.

Why are you so scared of him? Might he get abusive?

No I wouldn’t “receive major consequences” from my DH. That’s the most chilling thing I’ve read on here in a long time.

I was on your side until you posted this.

Suck it up buttercup.

Just wondering - was there another car that you could have collected your DS from his sports in or is this new expensive car the only family car?

So now no one is allowed to get angry at another person for taking something without asking and subsequently damaging said item (and in this case it's a very expensive item) without them being in an abusive relationship???

I'm with the people who said be thankful that it was a wall and not a small child or adult that the OP knocked with this car when they clearly weren't paying due attention while reversing.