Scary how men just move on so quickly

[Gobsmackedtobehonest]

My Dsis friend has been married for 10 years, together for 14 with him and they have a 6 year old son. Things tricky for a while with the wife feeling things weren’t going great, her Dh not as supportive and staying out later (but always stayed out due to job and very sociable person)
It’s come to light recently that he told her he’s met someone else, madly in love with her, brings out the best in him and so on. He’s moved out, moving in with her, set up a bedroom for the child to stay in when he visits. Basically left them with no money or cares about how they will cope with rent and so on, left dog, doesn’t seem bothered. Whole world they had together just..gone..just like that
This was a young, gorgeous couple, a really good team and madly in love with each other

It’s scary

I think, some, men probably stay in a relationship they are not massively happy in until they find a replacement as they need some fucker to do everything for them as they are lazy, incompetent twats.
There are also probably women like this.

Spot on @FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren there are definitely men and women who do this.

Oh, right, sorry, I thought you had some value to add rather than a spate of emojis

How disapointing, never mind

Abandoning hid kid is bringing out the best in him huh?

It's because women have hearts and men have a penis OP.

@Gettingbysomehow It would seem that way, how disappointing

@Bigcat25 Exactly

Sounds like the new woman needs a warning!

I've always said (and therefore this isn't a personal attack MNHQ - you can search me) that the crying laughing face is the sign of a proper wanker 90% of the time. Goodness knows what a column of them means.

It's because women have hearts and men have a penis OP.

It’s not as simple as that though as women definitely do it too. The one critical difference is women tend not to leave any children behind which is definitely better in some ways as they’re not just abandoning their children but in other ways it’s not - forcing their kid to live around whichever unrelated male they’re shacked up with, doesn’t always work out great either.

I had an old classmate who was a serial dater, she was always “deeply in love” then suddenly she’d test the water with a new guy, break up with her current guy and move on seamlessly, she did this in her late teens/early 20s . When she got engaged then married and had a kid around age 30 we all thought that was it. She was even posting her anniversary picture and then a couple of years later I happened to stumble upon her social media again. She had apparently remarried some guy from abroad and had another child with him. I calculated that she must have fallen pregnant with this child shortly after her anniversary celebrations pics. Now she had erased her ex from her social media and it was all about this new guy. No idea what she’s doing now but I wouldn’t be surprised if shes with yet another man. She just can’t be single or even in a casual relationship.

@MrsTerryPratchett I use that emoji a lot 😬

Not all men, this man

fwiw I voted you as unreasonable not because of what happened but because it’s not your story and you’re using the fact it was a man to indicate that all men behave in this way.

It's probably because so many women often move on just as quickly.

Unfortunately some people cant bear to be alone and so hop from one relationship to another.

Meanwhile the kids don't know if they're coming or going, or which parent will have a new 'partner' next.

Ooooooooooo but do you do it in a PA way while looking like [meh] IRL? If not, you may be one of the 10%.

My family member was with his wife from age 18. She got cancer and died aged 40, I think he was 46. He was absolutely distraught throughout her illness and then when she died. Within about 3 months he’d met and moved another woman in. That didn’t last much longer, then he met and married another woman and had another baby. That didn’t work out and now he’s married again . It boggles my mind that one minute he didn’t know how he could go on without his soulmate and 3 months down the line there’s another woman in her bed 🤷

The common denominator in these stories seem to be the man moving into a woman's house. I think that's what makes it so easy for them. If they had to go it alone, it wouldn't happen. Why do women open their homes to these men anyway. I'd personally never let a man move in to my home, I'd automatically assume he's a wuss and a loser if he even suggested it. Which most of these men are I suppose.

Are you the person who said something like "anyone using 😂😂😂 excessively in their response is 10x more bothered than you are about whatever has been said"?

Because if you are, I wholeheartedly agree. It's the most passive aggressive emoji in existence. Closely followed by 💅 but at least that's PA on purpose.

When Adriana Lima got cheated on, that's the day I realised not to trust any man ever.

Anyway, I do agree with the above poster about if a man has a place to move in, they will move on straight away. If they haven't, they will scheme behind wife's back until they do. A lot of posters on these threads bash the bastard which I also do but I also blame the ow too for sinking so low moving some other women's husband/partner in your home where often your children live and how low and desperate someone is to resort to that. So both bastards deserve each other but it's the children that get pulled into this dysfunctional set up which is who I feel sorry for the most on both sides.

One of my neighbours was in a similar situation where she had two young children living their life one minute and the bastard husband meets someone at work and moves in straightaway and now expecting a baby. Unfortunately your life can fall about before your very eyes.

I don't think I was @MonsteraMama but I like their work

Yeah he's moved on quickly

My ExH couldn't be alone. Married and a new baby within a year of the divorce.

Me I don't think I want to be in a relationship again,

I do know male versions of me though.

I also know a man who was married 40+ years and lost his wife to cancer. Within 2 months he was on a dating app and within 3/4 had virtually moved in with his new girlfriend.

Some people just seem to be able to cut feelings and move on.

It will have been brewing for ages. I think a people can stop having strong feelings for their partner but go through the motions of having a good relationship. Meeting someone else spurs them on to leave. I know two close friends who, when they were each expecting a baby, confided in me that they didn’t really want to be with their partner any more. One is now divorced, the other is still with their partner 15yrs on.

I think these days it happens with both men and women. People don't see marriage as forever anymore, there isn't any stigma attached to divorce. I think people are too quick to chuck the towel in without trying to make things work. Not sure why its like that, but i do think we live in a time where if you want something you can have it at the click of a button- (you can get an uber in a couple of minutes, you can swipe left on a dating app & find something better, you can get whatever you want delivered next day) - now it seems people get bored easily and are quick to look elsewhere. I think generally people have become more selfish and entitled. Decency has gone out of the window. People are not as easily shocked these days, as noone seems to bat an eye lid at affairs, cheating - it's bizarre.

I know 1 woman who left her DH 6m after getting married, been together 10 yrs, 2 young kids, and clearly been having an affair with DH best mate. Said she wanted to split up, denied affair, 7 weeks later she's moved out and she stops over at new guys house with the kids, he stops over at her house when she has the kids there. Its awful.
I know another woman whos been married for 6 years, 2 kids, 1 with DH, 1 with exH. She told her DH he was too boring, said she wanted a divorce, got him to buy her a house, moved out (turns out new house is in the same street as her affair partner). Affair partner is her childs extra curricular teacher.

People move on very quickly these days!

The OP, and some of this thread, is so very sexist.