Can't be bothered to meet friend -aibu?

[thisnoming]

Meeting a friend tomorrow and like normal it's me doing the travelling.
I don't drive either but it's a drinking day so makes no difference .
We are meeting in the town she lives in.
It's a 10 min taxi for her.
For me it's a 25 min bus into my city then 1 hour 15 min bus.
The taxi return would be over £100 so can't afford it.
We are meeting at 2
She's got a taxi booked for 1-45pm
I have to leave at 12pm
On the way home she is home in 10 mins and it's taking me 2 hours.
There's nothing really in between except little pubs.
Aibu to cancel?

It's fine to cancel but do it now.

Is there no better alternative to where you meet?

Have you suggested that she travel to you once in a while?

Or at least stay over!

Cancelling now would be shitty. You agreed to the plan.

YANBU to find this plan a bit one sided.
But the time to say this was when the arrangements were being made. It would be pretty poor to cancel now unless you are not that interested in keeping the friendship longer term.

Bit late now but in future insist she meets you halfway. There must be somewhere between the two you can meet.

2pm tomorrow is cutting it a bit fine to cancel but if that's what you want to do, then go for it.

I'm really puzzled as to why you agreed to do it in the first place though?

like normal it's me doing the travelling

But you’re the one making/agreeing to the plans! Why agree to this if you think it’s do unfair?

Why do you keep agreeing to it?

I think it's a bit poor to cancel short notice but like pps I'm wondering why you agreed in the first place? Would it not make sense to take it turn about to travel if there's not much in-between?

The issue is that you agreed to this in the first place and, it sounds like, you always do. So cancelling at short notice is pretty rude but if you've been unable to get her to consider an alternative in the past then fine, go ahead.

Or next time, just use your words right up front.

YANBU, and of course it's not too late to cancel.

It depends how much you value your friendship and how much you enjoy spending time with her.

You may find after making the journey that you have a great day, a much needed catch up and leave feeling like your friendship has had the nurturing it needed.

I would go and then next time she tries to make plans make it clear you’d like her to come to you.

I can't help thinking we're all stating the stark, staring obvious and that the OP will come back with a drip-feed as to why she keeps agreeing to do it 👀

YANBU, but I think you need to speak to her about how far it is for you to travel and how long it takes. Is staying over with her not an option to break up the travelling a bit?

There is no way I’d travel that distance for day drinking.

if you are going to cancel do it now and next time plan better so you both have the same amount of travelling to do.

Can you not talk to her about it or ask her to come to yours to stay the night or something? If there’s nothing in between it’s a bit difficult. It’s the same for me- a train or a bus for over an hour but there’s no point in us meeting midpoint as possibly like you there’s just some tiny villages neither of us know that might have a pub in them and no point in us coming here as there’s not much to do!!!

Alternatively go for a night away with her? Don’t go if you really don’t want to but you could get a book or a magazine and some goodies and enjoy the trips!! (Disclaimer- I have 4 kids so I take that time to practically party😅)

Yeah you've left it a bit late to cancel, you knew all this at the time of arranging, as a PP says you should have said it's her turn to do the travelling or meet halfway/stay over

It’s not too late to cancel. No one has invested any money at this point - the taxi can be cancelled

Just re-arrange and do it somewhere whereby you each travel an hour.
Even towwn/village/city have nice places where you can go out.

It is short notice to cancel but I would or ask to stay at hers.

Oh I'd go quite some distance for day drinking 😆

AIBU to have agree to the arrangements in the first place if they are not convenient. It's a bit late to cancel but she still has time to make alternative plans.

She has invested her time though - it might well be that she has turned down an alternative invitation for the day, for example.

You may as well, it’s not like she’s important to you, is it? Otherwise you’d go.