So confused my partner lives with me but won’t work …

[ShyLionesss]

my partner or should I say boyfriend lives with me well we live together, he does not work and has not for the whole time I been with him , .. I provide 95% of everything,, I Keep him in clothes, food ,scents , plus I have provided our 5 months old with everything ! I mean everything even the furniture for her bedroom pram clothes food milk , he has only got her 2 tins of milk :(( he does old jobs for his family abd gets paid bits here and there, I even get his family Xmas and bday gifts each year,, I just can’t take no more but I feel guilty for some reason,, he didn’t even rub my feet or back while being pregnant, not even a bunch of flowers after having baby lol ,, I’m a fool ??

Lucky him! Hope he has amazing other qualities...

you have a cocklodger. get rid now.

he is not your bf. he is a fucking leech

you should not spend one more penny on him.

change the locks tomorrow morning

you will be miles better off

He’s going to pretend to he will be a SAHP and send you back to work at 6 months post-partum to fund his lifestyle. You’ll come home from work each day to a tip of a house and a screaming hungry baby in a dirty nappy.

I assume you're posting this for moral support in kicking the idle cock-lodger out?

Get rid. It will be significantly cheaper to be a single parent than it is to feed and support this pointless waste of skin. And likely a whole lot easier too!

Why did you get so involved with such a lazy bum!

You had a child with this man!😱. You are essentially his mother as well, or is the agreed plan for him to be a SAHP?

why won’t he work? Unemployable, lazy?

get rid - you feel guilty as he will actually have get himself off the couch & do something (or just move back to his mums).

Why do you accept this?

Yes, you are a fool

Why would you find this person attractive enough to have kids with.

You are a fool, I agree! He's a parasite, nothing more than a sperm donor. At least a tapeworm hasn't got a brain to realise what it is, unlike him!

Yes. You're behaving like a mug. Why?

Wondering the same thing. Does he look after dc full time?

Tbh this is on both of you. Him for bringing nothing to the relationship, you for having such low expectations, being a mug and getting pregnant. Why is he still there and why have you not had some sort of conversation about this before he moved in

Sounds like you have very low self esteem. He's got it cushy.

And yes, leave. Feel zero guilt. If he wanted to be a partner or father he would behave like it so this is his choice to not. You are both giving a shit example to your child of what relationships and parenting is about

What are you confused about?

This makes no sense. It is utterly bizarre.

Stop being a mug

My partner had expectations of not working very much at the start of our relationship. He was with someone before who was supporting him. He didn’t have a career and just dabbled in things. I made it clear he had to contribute a certain amount per week, even though I am the breadwinner because I would have been resentful otherwise. He wasn’t really that happy about it, but has worked and contributed to our household for 20 years now in a minimum wage type job. However, he still resents me for asking for this contribution and will throw it at me during an argument. Our relationship is pretty rubbish, I think he would have been nicer to live with if I let him live how you are. So basically, I am also warning you to get out of your relationship as you can’t win. You either support him as you are now or you enforce a more equal partnership but get lumbered with a resentful partner. These entitled men don’t change in my experience. Best of luck.

What is there to think about?

Does he have a gold plated penis?

That's the only reason why I'd stay with him 🤷‍♀️

I call not real post. Or yes, I call you a gold-plated idiot. He showed you his true self and you thought it was a good idea to produce a child with this waste of space. Good enough for the Daily Mail now?

Just get rid of him and say you're not funding him anymore.

I voted YABU as in you are being massively unreasonable letting him live off you like this. Why are you buying everything and for his family!! God no.

Yes you most definitely are