So confused my partner lives with me but won’t work …

[ShyLionesss]

my partner or should I say boyfriend lives with me well we live together, he does not work and has not for the whole time I been with him , .. I provide 95% of everything,, I Keep him in clothes, food ,scents , plus I have provided our 5 months old with everything ! I mean everything even the furniture for her bedroom pram clothes food milk , he has only got her 2 tins of milk :(( he does old jobs for his family abd gets paid bits here and there, I even get his family Xmas and bday gifts each year,, I just can’t take no more but I feel guilty for some reason,, he didn’t even rub my feet or back while being pregnant, not even a bunch of flowers after having baby lol ,, I’m a fool ??

What an appalling role model for your child.

He is a selfish, lazy entitled pathetic excuse of a man.

Why on earth would you date someone without a job? Let alone allow them to move in!

eurgh! How do people end up picking partners like this? What’s the attraction? And to have a child with them! Madness.

Well if you lie down and let people walk all over you, they will

oh gosh yess you are a fool , get rid of him

You could be spending this money on yourself and your baby , why are you funding grown man's life ?

Of course you're a fool. But now you've realised that you'll be a double fool to continue.

There's no confusion here, you have a cocklodger, a leech, a parasite. Why on earth did you procreate with this person? Get rid before he drains you even more.

A lot of women live like your boyfriend.

At least he doesn’t but you presents with your own money!

Omg he has audacity to blame you for having to work ?
Where all these entitled men who just want to leech off hard working women came from ?

Sorry you have such a rubbish man :(

Have put YABU because what the actual fuck are you doing? Why are your standards so low. Chuck the lazy fucker out.

Well you won't have to pay expensive nursery fees as your bf is at home to look after your child all day, hope he also does most of the housework and cooking as he has more time than you.

if you can’t see the absurdity of the situation, more fool you.

This is satire, right?

@Mummadeze How did you meet a man like that? May I ask why you were interested in a relationship with him? (sorry to be nosey).

He's a free loading cocklodger who is going to claim to be primary carer for your child, and demand you keep him. He'll do as little as possible , offload your child on to his long suffering mum, expect you to do all the house work and bleed you dry for the next 18 years.

For God's sake kick him out before you go back to work.

Where is your self respect?

I think this man is very lazy and selfish. May I ask how you got together/what attracted you in the first place? What has he really contributed for his daughter other than sperm? Does he do any child care or anything at home at all? It sounds like you're doing it all and I agree with a Pp - I wouldn't be at all surprised if once any mat pay runs dry, he'll simply exhort you to go back to work rather than look at what he himself can do to contribute. He may try to claim he'll be a SAHP but only you know whether you think he'd actually do any housework or how he'd cope with the baby.

I know you haven't quite asked this but I think you need to sling him out before your child is old enough to follow the example he sets in his treatment of you. The treatment being to bleed you dry and to take without giving - and you just take it.

If you do split however, how would you feel about your Dd visiting him and would he contribute towards her at all? It might be the only way to get him to do it. Would he bother with her? Single parenthood can be very tough but I've seen plenty of posts here from people who are much happier without their exes as it's still one less child to look after.

I'm sorry op but he's really selfish and will never care about you or his child. He only wants his needs met.
I doubt he'll step up and provide for his family but you could try to give him an ultimatum.
Probably better to get him out of the house and he can co parent separately

Was he like this before you chose to have a baby with him? Or did he become like this after you got pregnant?

Either way seeing as you asked.

Yes. You are a fool on many levels.

Need you even ask 🤷🏼‍♀️

This must be a wind-up post

He sounds like a keeper.

Does he fuck like a champion or something? I can’t even imagine dating someone who didn’t work for no obvious reason.

He's a good for nothing lazy sponger.

Why man doesn't want to provide for family? Aim to buy a bigger and nicer house? Travel to holiday destinations? All the many things a man would be proud of achieving.

The only thing he is achieving every day is waking up!

It would be cheaper to have a cat!

Boot Mr LazyArse out asap.

So does he look after the baby while you work?

What are you confused about?

Of course this is real