Eww just found out my fiance voted UKIP before

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Just that really. And the fact that he likes Nigel Farage and agrees with him. I feel very disturbed.

🤷‍♀️ I’d ask him why he voted ukip and what he likes about farage. Then decide what to do.

Yeah. It would be a no from me.

Is he otherwise someone you are happy with? Do you have a great relationship otherwise or is it the tip of the iceberg?

Deal breakers in relationships can take many forms.

If his political views do not align with your own and that is a deal breaker for you then you should end the relationship rather than proceed to marriage.

Presumably you thought he was a keeper or you wouldn't be engaged to him so his political views obviously don't translate into shitty behaviour towards you.

Complete deal breaker, surely?

I would find out more about his views in detail. The whole "this party good, that party bad" is far too simplistic. More than a quarter of the electorate voted for them in 2014, that's a lot of people to write off.

That would be a no from me. I couldn’t get past it.

Depends why and what his personal values are.

But disagreeing politically is a valid reason to go off a partner. Some couples are happy with opposing political views, some prefer to pair up with someone similar.

So are you leaving him/??

I voted UKIP once many many years ago for European elections, but that was before they moved a lot further to the right.

He might not be happy with you vote for.

Who you vote for now??

This is an interesting one. My dh (of 20 years) was Lib dem leaning when we met to my centre left. Many debates! He became much more blue as he aged. I hover between left and centre (currently politically homeless for various reasons). Dh has made a few comments about Farage having a good point on a few things and I've reacted quite aggressively. To my mind he's an evil, shit stirring divisive racist. But my dh is mild mannered and sees all sides. If he actually voted for him I think I'd reconsider the relationship.

Gosh if I was dating I could quite easily write off a quarter of the population!

No one can say what you should do OP but I would say consider the whole range of your relationship not one aspect. You're never going to agree with everything he says or does even if you do get married. I'm sure he probably disagrees with things you think/do

I'm afraid this would be a deal breaker for me.

My ex and I voted differently. Over time that voting pattern showed up the fundamental cracks in our relationship. Our philosophies on so many matters were totally different. I would be looking at what other characteristics that demographic of voter tended to show. Ie white british/ anglo-saxon male above all. That wouldn't suit me at all.

Every one is entitled to their opinion. I’d never marry a dead beat who voted labour.

I have no time for any man that has no aspiration.

That would be a complete turn off for me.

I'd be out the door

I'd be delighted if my boyfriend voted UKIP

Post of the year!!!!!!!

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It would be a deal breaker for me (that he still supports them, not necessarily that he ever did). But I also can't see getting to the point of being engaged to someone without knowing this about him. So I would guess from the little that you've written that you're pretty apolitical, and that while you've just had a surprise, maybe it won't end up being not that important to you in the grand scheme of things?

Wouldn’t bother me.

Why do we all have to get political - can’t a relationship be based on love…