Eww just found out my fiance voted UKIP before

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Just that really. And the fact that he likes Nigel Farage and agrees with him. I feel very disturbed.

🤣🤣🤣

I'm with @iamtheblcksheep and @Higglings

I wonder if OP is disturbed because she has a stereotype of a UKIP voter in her head and feels she could spot one at a hundred yards and now finds she's engaged to one.

Rather than take a moment to reflect on her own prejudices she has taken to the internet to tell us about how her opinion of the man she was planning to marry has just fallen through the floor.

Honestly marry him or don't marry him because you don't like his politics but at least have enough respect to talk to him rather than coming to the internet to validate your opinion.

I'd feel disturbed if I discovered my partner had ever voted labour!

Quite. I'd never marry a bigot who voted tory.

@PinkiOcelot maybe he isn't but maybe he isn't a bigot!!

I have spoken to him about it. I asked why he likes Nigel Farage. Why he voted UKIP etc. I’ve come to mumsnet to get other peoples opinions because I can gain no more from talking to him. I’m genuinely curious as to what others think and whether I’m making an issue out of something that doesn’t need to be.

I wouldn't marry anyone who didn't respect others can have a different view point on politics.

We need people to mix and share views.

Same.

We do, but some political views are potentially incompatible in terms of the underlying values they represent.

I respect a wide range of views, but wouldn't want to build a life with someone who had widely different values.

Shared values are commonly understood to be an important foundation in marriage.

Used to be Tory. Voted Lib Dem once as I liked Farron, probably Labour this time, as Lib Dem would probably be a wasted vote.

I'd divorce them
Voting Labour is IMO lacking aspirations just as Labour wants you to be, ie subservient!!

Sorry, but there is no good reason for liking Nigel Farage. None whatsoever.

I think because today’s politics align so closely to our views on a whole range of topics beyond politics now I couldn’t be in a relationship with a UKIP/ Farage supporter. Because they’re so extreme in their stance I know that we’d likely have COMPLETELY different views and I couldn’t imagine raising a family together being at such loggerheads. Was it not obvious beforehand what his political leaning is?

@DistinguishedSocialCommentator most definitely! 👍

Anyone else notice how Labour voters are simultaneously out of touch, liberal elites and work shy deadbeats?

It would be a deal breaker for me, but it would also be a massive shock as my lovely DH would never vote for a party like that as they're so firmly unaligned with his morals.

So what's the story here? Is this one more thing that's making doubt him? It can't be a complete surprise surely?

Come on, can this really be an out of the blue revelation? Even if he’s never explicitly said he likes Nigel before, or voted UKIP, has he never expressed any right-wingy type opinions?

Best get the wedding dress on vinted!

@stripycats
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Sorry, but there is no good reason for liking Nigel Farage. None whatsoever”

This. He’s a disingenuous arsehole. Really, any voter who believes that he cares one iota about them and their plight is seriously thick.

Can someone please outline exactly what it is about Nigel Farage that is so abhorrent?

@qwertyqwertyqwertyqwerty
. Values are not that Clear cut through a political lens.

Eg let's say I'm left and I feel that gives me a moral badge of honour and I want immigration.
Immigration with little stops on it because I think it's mean and people risk their lives getting here.

But then Jeremy corybn says, it's mean, people risk their lives getting here we need to allow xyz BUT he also says, the "workers" the plumbers and trades who have a family here in UK and have bills to pay are suddenly undercut by dirt cheap eu labour and that's not fair. So I support brexit because I don't believe in under cutting the working mans wage...

Ergo:

Farage and lovely lefty morally superior corybn suddenly don't look so different.

No, I knew he was tory but didn’t realise quite how far over he is. He treats me nicely in our relationship but his views kind of make me not like him as a person. We have a 2 year old. If we didn’t, I think I would have ended things by now.

How have you only just found this out?

What were his answers - why did he vote UKIP, and why does he like Farage?

What are your values, do you feel your fiance broadly shares your values?

Values are more important that party votes, but party votes can demonstrate values.