Was this weird of me at work?

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I'm a straight woman, I work in a semi-formal office environment. We have a young girl there who has beautiful long, blonde Rapunzel hair and who is just beautiful in general.
I haven't really spoken to her as she's in another department. I saw this girl and I just said 'Hi I hope you don't mind me saying, just wanted to say I really love your hair, you look beautiful!'
She seemed really happy I'd said it and appreciated it.
My other colleague was in the toilets too and had heard, she told me it was really weird and creepy id said that.
I feel so embarrassed now and wonder if I shouldn't have said anything. I was just trying to be nice, I imagine some women would be very jealous of her and she gets some cattiness, I don't think I said anything inappropriate.
Just wondered what others think? Surely it's a sad world where you can't compliment people.

I think it was fine. I pay compliments to people all the time. Not just about appearance . Don’t overthink it. Your colleague is being weird.

I compliment people all the time. Not creepy at all.

I love being complimented too, usually my eyes or my teeth 😂, nothing else. Funnily enough though I am paranoid about my eyes, I have a lazy eye which was corrected around 20 years ago but it still sometimes drifts.

Thank you, I'm glad you think so. I like to pay compliments too but some people think they're overstepping.

Aw no, I think that was lovely of you to say. There are some people who don’t like compliments but I think they are the minority, and it’s a nice little boost for most people.

I think compliments are nice to do, especially when it’s regarding something someone has actively chosen, so you’re complimenting their taste or the effort they’ve made.

I think it’s generally best to steer away from statements like ‘you’re beautiful’ in a workplace though.

You did nothing wrong. It's really nice of you to compliment her. Often people think it but don't say anything. We do at my workplace all the time, to men and women. Brings a smile to someone's face 🙂

That's great! With all the misery in the world, at the moment, it feels good to get a compliment.

I think it's lovely when women compliment other women. I tend to do it more on achievements than on looks but I'm always complimenting my colleagues at work and I would never take credit for something they've done. I always make sure I acknowledge them when they've done really well.

Imo it is a bit weird to tell a random woman in the work toilets that she looks beautiful. That's more of a pub toilet thing.

Complimenting people is absolutely lovely, but it could be misconstrued in a work environment, as your friend has demonstrated.

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True, I suppose if it had been a man saying it it could've been a HR complaint.

I think complimenting people is nice and I do it myself.

However, I think in the workplace it's best not to comment on anyone's appearance - too much of a potential minefield.

It’s completely normal, to me anyway! I love complimenting people on anything - hair, clothes, nail polish etc.

I know how insecure I was as a young woman despite the fact that when I look back on photos I look gorgeous!! Thought I was ugly at the time. So it might boost her confidence.

It's fabulous to receive a random compliment and really lifts your day.

I don't think you were weird at all.

I also give compliments to people. On Friday, in a queue, I was complimented twice by complete strangers - one on my tattoo and one on my dress. I'm still smiling and feeling happy!

Keep doing what you do, OP. Ignore your miserable colleagues!

I'm glad the compliments made you happy :) snd thank you

A complete stranger told me she loved my dress the other day . It made me very happy !

Not weird or creepy at all.

I’ve got quite distinctive hair. I get quite a lot compliments on it from strangers, almost always women. I never find it creepy! I’m honestly always delighted and it’s a big confidence boost for me.

Please don't stop giving compliments OP, it'd a lovely thing to do. Don't mind that grumpy colleague

I said the same once to a colleague at work. I didn’t really know her but I said I thought her hair was really beautiful. She thanked me and that was the end of that. (She’d probably heard it a million times before). I don’t think it’s creepy if said in a matter of fact way.

I completely agree!!

I get compliments every day at work and I always give people compliments too!

There is nothing wrong with it and some people will try and find anything to be offended about.

OP said ‘You look beautiful’ not ‘you are beautiful’ which is very different.

Completely appropriate OP and very nice too. I compliment at work and publicly to strangers and have never encountered any negativity.
It’s not weird. Your colleague shouldn’t have said that to you. Calling your behaviour weird is weirder and unkind

People are forever telling me they love my hair-curly ginger! I’ve had a lot of compliments on my recent weightloss too, I’m very happy to be told.

I’ve occasionally told people they look fabulous, lady in a stunning trouser suit the other day, girl in great dress this week, boots on someone another time. If someone at work is wearing a cracking dress/trousers, I’ll tell them. I love the librarian’s look, she’s very good at dressing for occasions and very good at decorating the (school) library for the same.

God… This says more about your friend than you.

I don't think it was strange at all...compliments are great and can really give a person a boost. I think if you want to compliment someone do it there and then ! 😊