Was this weird of me at work?

[Handsomesquidward]

I'm a straight woman, I work in a semi-formal office environment. We have a young girl there who has beautiful long, blonde Rapunzel hair and who is just beautiful in general.
I haven't really spoken to her as she's in another department. I saw this girl and I just said 'Hi I hope you don't mind me saying, just wanted to say I really love your hair, you look beautiful!'
She seemed really happy I'd said it and appreciated it.
My other colleague was in the toilets too and had heard, she told me it was really weird and creepy id said that.
I feel so embarrassed now and wonder if I shouldn't have said anything. I was just trying to be nice, I imagine some women would be very jealous of her and she gets some cattiness, I don't think I said anything inappropriate.
Just wondered what others think? Surely it's a sad world where you can't compliment people.

I feel like actually people should pay you more compliments if you feel this way and when you see how innocently joyful it is to receive one perhaps you wont be so odd about it.

I was waiting for the ‘girl’ comment! 🤣

It's a shame that you see being human as being unprofessional, and that being human is not appropriate anymore. It has nothing to do with being a woman- I compliment male colleagues and female colleagues. It's also very sad you see someone being ncie as infantilising you, but again, it's a you problem. Usually people saying 'I like your hair' ar neithe rinfantilising anyone nor being creepy. I'm sorry you have such a skewed sad view of the world. Hugs.

I think it was a nice thing to say. I'd be pleased if someone said it to me!

Your hair looks/is beautiful would have been better

@PenguinLord you will be a work place lawyers dream some day 😂.

I fail to see the disadvantage of someone complimenting my professional conduct over my hair but maybe it's a generation thing. I don't need or want a colleagues complimenting or even considering my appearance, it isn't for them it's for me.

Thankfully they now teach this in Early Years, sounds like you could do with a bit of upskilling. Hugs

What? I don't want comments on my hair thanks.

Providing you didn't learn over the top of the cubicle that she was in to say it, I think it's fine.

Exactly. Even kids are taught to compliement on an action, achievement or character trait

I think you do lol, but maybe you're not getting enough and that's why you think it's a drama. I've literally never heard anything so odd.

I think this ^^
it could possibly be that your friend would love a compliment like that but doesn’t get it.

I really don't. I hate compliments based on my looks. I always ignore them and change the subject. I don't get my hair cut for my work colleagues

@ByNavyOtter this may come as a huge shock but not all women want randos commenting on their appearance. It isn't for you, it isn't your business. Simples

That's a different scenario to the work place loos

@Handsomesquidward you’re lovely!

you just don’t know how you “save” someone’s mental health just by a compliment like this!

please please keep on being how you are !

Not weird to me. If someone has great hair I say so. If they're wearing a lovely dress I say so. I've had strangers compliment me before and it made me feel quite special!

Hair is fine to compliment. Only thing wrong I think is referring to an adult as a girl, not a woman.

You never can tell how people are going to react to anything these days. There are people who get offended if you breathe.

At work, unless I really know someone (and even then I'm careful about what I say) I think it's best not to make personal remarks at all.

It's innocent though isn't it. I cut imagine being this uptight when people's intentions are so kind.

I think it’s wonderful! I do it. I remember my daughter started doing it when she was small. She’s go up to strangers and tell them that she thought they had beautiful….. so sweet.

I like both.

My team would absolutely compliment me on my hair after I'd been to the hairdressers. They'd also say if they liked a new top that I was wearing. And they'd also comment me on a professional success.

It was a lively thing to say. Your colleague should feel bad for being a bitch yo you if anything!

I would love if someone said that ro me! Bet you made her day op!