Was this weird of me at work?

[Handsomesquidward]

I'm a straight woman, I work in a semi-formal office environment. We have a young girl there who has beautiful long, blonde Rapunzel hair and who is just beautiful in general.
I haven't really spoken to her as she's in another department. I saw this girl and I just said 'Hi I hope you don't mind me saying, just wanted to say I really love your hair, you look beautiful!'
She seemed really happy I'd said it and appreciated it.
My other colleague was in the toilets too and had heard, she told me it was really weird and creepy id said that.
I feel so embarrassed now and wonder if I shouldn't have said anything. I was just trying to be nice, I imagine some women would be very jealous of her and she gets some cattiness, I don't think I said anything inappropriate.
Just wondered what others think? Surely it's a sad world where you can't compliment people.

She looks like a literal Barbie doll so I imagine she gets it a lot. Still, it was good of her to be gracious about it.

Only on MN is calling women 'girls' an issue. In real life I hear people saying 'I'm going on holiday with the girls' or 'I'm going out with the girls' all the time.

Also compliments, I always think people who can't take compliments have low self esteem, they can't believe the compliment is true and so it makes them very uncomfortable. I also can't understand the idea that you can't compliment anyone on what they're wearing or if they've had their hair cut or had their nails done. Maybe it's just because we are all get on so well where I work but we frequently compliment each other over a whole range of things.

OP I bet your colleague wouldn't have thought it creepy if you'd complimented her!

A director probably shouldn't go around telling new hire young woman grads that they're beautiful, that's true. But that's not what we're talking about here.

I can't stand it in real life either. It's so insulting.

Get over her appearance already

I think you should relax a little 🤣

If a colleague spoke about me on the Internet like you're doing about this one and I ever found out I'd feel sick at the sight of them. "Girl" "barbie doll". It's absolutely vile.

It's pointless being so angry. Stop with the dramatics and just ask yourself why you're getting so infuriated by this.

I agree!

I work in a traditional office environment and do not see any issue with a pleasant compliment on a woman's hair. It is different when comments are made that are negative or seem to mean more than just saying something nice. My boss will usually notice after I cut my hair and it does not seem inappropriate to me.

I do not think it is right for a workplace to be so sensitive that you are no longer allowed to give a compliment.

Considering you lost me at the first "Simples" I really don't know what to do with the second one... If I was in a car I might just drive it into a wall.

Ask yourself why you think it's in any way acceptable

I often compliment women on what they're wearing or how nice their hair/make-up looks - both family members, as well as random strangers. I told a bloke the other day that he smelt gorgeous. He knew I wasn't chatting him up, he's younger than my sons (and I added that too)

Appreciating beauty is part of being human. You are definitely NBU

I work with someone like this who is v attractive and dresses very stylishly gets comments like this all the time. Because it happens so often, she says she hates it because in a work context she finds it stressful having to 'respond or react to the compliment every time particularly when it is 'influential' senior partners. she stresses about what to say because thank you every time seems very repetitive to the same people.

There's nothing wrong in complimenting peopel or being nice but in a work environment particularly with very attractive who get it all the time it may be a bit better to avoid.

I was complimented on my hair on a day I was seriously considering getting it all lopped offf.

So do it.

@Handsomesquidward

I complement women ones i know or dont know, sometimes or occasionally,
🤷 usaully about if they have cool foot wear or acctractive clothes i like,

I think it's only natural to notice,
be (platonic= non- sexual) acctracted to something acctractive whether people or what people wear or anything really as a matter of fact,

In our sexual obsessed centric society some people think if someone admires something 🙄 🤔 personal about someone it must be they fancy them
whether heterosexual or Gay sexually way or Bi sexual way,
Unfortunately it's just another way western society skewed optics way of perceiving stuff,
that's it really...

like admiring lovely art work piece

Your friend could be a bit envious of this other long locks her crowing glory that everyone else can't help noticing too..

@Handsomesquidward

Just ment to say admiring someone in platonic way paying them a complement whithout doing it for personal gain

Is a wonderful thing,

Is just like admiring a good work of art 🎨 or something...🤔

So today's answer to what are women today "a piece of art,"🤣🤣😂😂

she's wrong! Utterly wrong. I compliment every time I think something is wonderful as a general rule. I once crossed the road to tell a very elderly woman she looked stunning - why not? Spread some cheer! https://www.tiktok.com/@lalalandkindcafe/video/6948593899619224837?lang=en

It’s lovely. I’d be thrilled to get a compliment like this. Now, think about it like this: your colleague doesn’t think it’s nice to compliment another woman. She also decided to tell you this to make you feel uncomfortable and embarrassed rather than just privately think her stupid thought. That tells you everything you need to know about her. You = generous with compliments, like making people feel good. Her = doesn’t like other women to get big heads. Likes to pull nice people down. If you haven’t heard of him, Google Troy Hawke and see why most people would prefer your behaviour in the office.

@User1979289 I would consider caution approaching strangers and complimenting them. The woman I know would have maced you 🤣

No, not weird, OP. That was lovely and seems like it made her happy. You never know what’s going on in someone’s life. I wish more people were positive towards others if they notice anything nice about them 😁 She might have really needed that compliment.

Compliments are lovely to get, and the ones I've had throughout my life have stuck with me!

Perhaps it’s the difference between -

Scenario A where my long term colleague Jane walks past my office door and says “hey nightmaries what a lovely skirt that is! Where did you get it?”

Scenario B where a person in my organisation who I don’t know says “excuse me, you don’t know me, but I just wanted to say your hair is really beautiful.”

A wouldn’t even register with me, B would possibly make me go “erm” and then think okay cool hair looks good. I guess