To complain about “gender identity” question on a registration form

[Manhere2024]

Man here. I just tried to fill in a form sent out by a charity, but one of the questions was:

“Is your gender identity the same as the gender you were assigned at birth?”

I tried ignoring it, but it’s not possible to submit the form without answering this question.

So I emailed them saying that I don’t believe in gender identity theory, & it’s discriminatory for them not to give an option for those of us who are gender critical. I have asked if they can change the form, or handle my registration in another way.

I think they’ll be surprised, and perhaps I’ve embarrassed myself. But I won’t go along with something I consider to be harmful and wrong.

AIBU? What will likely happen next?

Too late to edit - obviously meant to say INaccurate.

I think it matters when posters are annoying and clog up the boards, yes.

Clogging up the Board? Really?

Of course it’s a disingenuous question. He has a strong sense how he feels on the issue. He took action on it which he agreed with. What is the question he is looking to answer on the AIBU board?

Nothing disingenuous about his question, certainly no more than a good 90% of AIBU threads.

It belongs on the sex and gender discussions board. OP posting it here is yet more evidence of performative posting.

Do you police every other thread on AIBU to make sure it is worthy of AIBU or be shunted off to another Board? Do you regularly police where and when people can speak and what about?

It is obvious from the title what the thread is about no-one forced you to open it, you chose to do so, you could have ignored it.

Wtf are you ? Board police?

Report it if it breaks guidelines. Don't look if it annoys you.

The rest of us can decide for ourselves.

Wrong!

SEX matters in a clinical setting.

Exactly. I don't see why people can't just answer the question. For most people the answer is yes anyway.

Do you mean to be so bigoted?

I find it really sad that a group who proclaims to be inclusive are so prejudicial against people who don’t have the same beliefs as them.

This is like having a question saying what’s your ethnicity: white or black? And then saying, well just pick the one you’re closest to. It’s not inclusive and wouldn’t be accepted.

It’s not so hard to have a box that says I don’t have a gender identity so that everyone can feel included.

Exactly. I don't see why people can't just answer the question. For most people the answer is yes anyway.

Have you even read the thread? How do you know most people have a 'gender identity'? What even is a gender identity?

Yes that option should be there.

The rest of us can decide for ourselves.

Oooh no, @GabriellaMontez Gender Ideologues cannot countenance anyone deciding for themselves they must do as they are told, believe what they are told to believe and speak in the required way.

Yes I've read the thread. I think there should be a prefer not to say option but personally it's not something I can get particularly bothered about.

Hurray to this. I wish I had said this. I agree with every single word of your post.

And I don’t see why people with penises can’t just tick the male box when asked their sex.

But I’m happy for them to have a gender identity question if that helps them feel included and seen. All we are asking is for the same respect back, let me tick a box that says I don’t have a gender identity (and the answer isn’t yes for me, but it also isn’t no. It’s like asking “is your hope blue or red” without a “neither” or “not applicable” option, it’s just nonsense).

and i think questions like this should do one.

If you think you have a gender identity that is different from your observable sex, and it is pertinent to whatever is going on there could be a supplementary, non mandatory tick box for that.

That way everyone is happy.

10 years ago the question would not have been phrased the way it was. It has been changed to accommodate a minority group.

Now you assert that the answer, "for most people", would be yes. By your calculation those of us objecting are a minority (the poll begs to differ) but our views don't count because it opposes your ideological position.

Why do minority views count sometimes and not at others even when both views are entirely lawful?

and i think questions like this should do one.

So do I, Gender Identity is not a protected characteristic, it is not defined, it is a load of nonsense that requires a belief in the quasi religion of Gender Ideology.

Why do the other boards exist if not to host these questions?

’Policing’ 🙄 another lazy MN term for someone being disagreed with.

I have no religion. Answering yes for me would mean I still have no religion, same as always.

Why do the other boards exist if not to host these questions?

I've just had a look at AIBU, the first three I can see are clearly health/medical related. There is more than one health board. I trust you are about to take yourself over there and say so?

They didn't ask about your sex though, they asked about your gender.

’Policing’ 🙄 another lazy MN term for someone being disagreed with.

You are not disagreeing with the post or posters you are demanding that the thread be moved to another part of the site and for what reason?

There are threads upon threads on AIBU that could be on other Boards do you go subject them to the same treatment as this one or do you just scroll on by?

What particularly is it about this thread that you feel people shouldn't sully their eyes by reading and engaging if they want to?

Feel free to belittle yourself as a "cis woman" - somebody who identifies with the gender stereotypes imposed on her sex, somebody who's a subgroup of her own sex. Just please don't impose the cis slur on others.

Which makes it even more of a nonsense.

No-one is assigned anything at birth either a sex or a gender.

The question presupposes a belief in Gender Ideology.

Nobody's belief in gender identity has any bearing on their clinical treatment. Their biological sex, observed at or before birth does.

So anyone who doesn't open a poll on AIBU should be moved to Chat?

I would have preferred the charity’s appplication form questions were phrased like this:

1. What is your sex - M or F?
2. Do you have a gender identity?
3. If yes, does it correspond with your sex?

So in my case, I could have answered M, no, then moved on to the next section.