Why don't women with kids force the dads to have them 50% of time?

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Disclaimer: I dont have kids and dont want them so prepared to accept my POV might be odd but...

...Just read a thread where a woman was talking about disputing maintenance costs with her ex and mentioned he never has his kids overnight, adding that its his choice.

Why wouldn't you just force them to have their kids? Im think if I were a mum I'd quite like to have half my time to just chill and have some downtime without my children? Or is it that when you have kids you cant bear to be wthout them?

Thanks for the laugh OP.

And how would you force them pray tell?

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Thank god you've suggested that - I've been wondering how to get him to see them more.

Obviously it wouldn't work because:
A) how the hell do I make him open the door to them
B) I'm certain it wouldn't be in their best interests to stay with someone who is being forced into looking after them.

But then you knew that and are just goady.

Some mums want the kids to themselves surely

How would you do that exactly? Force someone to have the kids? Drop them on his doorstep and hope he's home every week?

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Because if I don't want to spend time with him, why would I force my kids to? It's in their interests not to.

If it was that easy to get some fathers to be involved with family life there would be fewer divorces.

How? Pretty sure 1000's of mothers would love to know.

Presumably you mean if parents are not together?
I’ve always spent more time with DS than DH has as he’s the main earner so is out of the house more. Just like I do more of the housework etc as it’s hard for DH to do half when he’s not in the country.

Are you suggesting women leave their young children standing on a doorstep, ring the bell and run away? How do you force someone to have children when they do not make themselves available?

If they can't look after their own kids, I would report them for child neglect

🤣🤣 what would this forcing look like?

Drop the kid on their doorstep and run?

Back in the real world, you can't force anyone to parent.

Why doesn't anyone without a job, force an employer to employ them?

Why doesn't anyone without a partner, force someone to be with them?

I mean it'd be just as easy as forcing a parent to be with their child if they didn't want to be.

The kid isn't neglected though, because mum is looking after them, so how would that work?

I didn't have a much longed for child to foist her on a disinterested twat. And I would rather spend time with my child than anyone else on the planet. Luckily, she does not want to spend time with him and you are not in charge of policy making.

LOL LOL LOL

I would only want Dd to spend time with Dp (were we separated) if he wanted to and took proper care of her. My preference would be to not be parted from her, but I could see the benefit for her, to see him, if he remained a good, caring, supportive father, if we were to split.
Mums shouldn’t have to make them spend time with their kids and it’s true lots of mums don’t want to be away from them 50% of the time

Then the law needs to be changed. Just because one parent is looking after them shouldnt relieve the other parents of their responsibilities. It should be made a crime IMO.

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No way.. no way.
Everyone has different circumstances.
My Grandsons came home one Sunday crying that their Dad had hit them.. shouted at them ( and had been happening most Sundays.. ) they were age 7 and 8 and 10.. all ASD.. They decided they never wanted to see him again.. and haven't..
That was nine years ago and haven't seen him since.. all very well adjusted young men now.

My DP would love to have his kids 50% of the time but his ex won't allow it.

It should be, but considering the amount of men in powerful positions who walk away from their kids, it will never be made into a crime.

Id have loved my ex to do 5/50. Trouble was he couldn't be bothered and I don't see how I could've forced him

Has he not got a court order? Seems strange to not have bothered if he'd love it.

How? Drop them off on his doorstep and hope he answers the door??