Partner wants full access to my phone whenever he has doubts?!

[Permanentlydazedandconfused]

So my partner (or ex) has some trust issues from past relationships.
The past 2 months have been arguement after arguement due to him being convinced that I was cheating on him, not in the slightest bit true! he started regularly checking my phone - messages, social media, emails, photos etc. It all came to a head a last week and I left as I don’t want to be constantly under suspicion.
We’ve been speaking about trying to sort out our problems - one of his non negotiables is that he has full transparency with my phone, so whenever he is feeling insecure I should give it to him so he can look through it and reassure himself…he also suggested that he would take me to a counselor who would tell me that this is what I should be letting him do.
This is crossing the line for me, I like to keep some things to myself and don’t want to hand over my phone to be searched like I’ve done something wrong. Am I being unreasonable for saying no and not agreeing to compromise?

I suspect many of this type of mam only care about women as a possession and probably don't even care about the cheating as much as the wanting to use the "worry" s a means of control.

I had started to feel more like a possession than an actual person. Looking back at some of the things that he actually did or said to me and I was just so passive and went along with it.

Sounds like you’re well shot of him OP.
Soooo many red flags! Very controlling behaviour from him in my opinion.

But he would say that, wouldn't he! Which is why you'd compare notes.

I’ll bet the ex wasn’t first either. I think the only ‘trust issues from previous relationships’ are his.

Never hitch your horse to a wagon with a wonky wheel.
This blokes got a very wonky wheel.

Jealousy, controlling and abusive.

I think you may need to take steps to stop him becoming stalkerish.
He might drive past your house a lot to keep tabs on you, or keep turning up where you are, or contact your friends and family etc.

Clearly communicate to him if he does any of those things, you will seek court orders to stop him.. then block him on everything. And don't take any new friend requests on any platforms for a while.

He does not trust you, does not respect you and is trying to control you. Your non negotiable should be that you are trusted by your partner - time to ditch him before he wears you down and you lose all self respect.

no. Just no.

Don’t be a doormat and shot him the exit. Ffs have people really got standards this low that this is even being considered?

Will you have unfettered access to his phone?
People that accuse you of cheating are usually guilty of it.
Tell him to shut or take a hike