Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

What a vile and despicable thing to do to his wife. Pick up your children - never mind winning this race that you have worked so very hard for - for many months. Just how fucking DARE you be anything other than a mother, and have hobbies and interests that exclude MEEEEEEEE, and our children?

No-one would think ANYTHING of a father having running as a hobby, but GOD FORBID a mother does.

Vile. Such an evil thing to do.

interesting

I saw this a while back. Go on their Instagram and see how he replies to the women, commenting. They aren't being personally insulting but he is replying very misogynistic. If it wasn't for that, I might have thought it a instagram etc family promotion.

but..... you know, man bad, so whatever.

Or at best, Man thoughtless and heedless of situation.

Yeah... And selfish, and mean-spirited, and can't BEAR his wife getting any attention, and doing really well at something he wishes HE was good at. Trying to piss on her chips, steal her thunder, and make her success ALL ABOUT HIM.

Typical behaviour of most men. Big babies who HATE women over-achieving and being better at something than them. 🙄

No, THIS is now the most sanctimonious thing I've read on here!

Label away. I don't care what people on the internet think about me.

You're sitting here defending a man you don't know from the opinions of people who don't know him either. People are entitled to their opinions. He doesn't need you to defend him.

You're sitting here defending a man you don't know from the opinions of people who don't know him either. People are entitled to their opinions. He doesn't need you to defend him.

But the FACT is that by accident, agreement or design he allowed young children to get into a dangerous and annoying situation.

Knob

Thanks. I had completely missed that.
I did wonder whether his choice of a flesh-coloured t-shirt was a further attempt to establish his machismo in the face of his evident emasculation. But I think the evidence for that is perhaps limited.

I was really surprised at the number of people defending the guy sending his children into the path of runners and a motorbike over the last few pages when I realised it was only one person posting multiple times. 😂

Absolute dickhead. Could he have not stood literally a few metres away AFTER the finish line ffs, then it would have been absolutely fine.

I reckon she's pretty close to the bald guy, too. She casts not one look in the direction of her family - They look like spare parts at this event.

@oakleaffy

well if so her husband only has himself to blame 🤷‍♀️

I actually now think you're just someone taking the piss. A bored teenager no doubt.

Don’t be such a tosser. Just because someone is not in the top 20percent, it doesn’t mean they aren’t giving it all they can and running for their own personal best.

Really? That's the bit that annoys you? Not the fact that she can't just be a women, a runner, a winner, not simply be defined by her role as a mother? Have you ever seen a male marathon runner being defined like that - marathon dad?

The DH acts like a total knob. Heaven forfend that a woman could just be successful independent of a man?

I can't warm to either of them.

He didn't have great control over the kids when he should have made more effort.

She looked very much "smug runner" type and the self congratulatory, aggressive clapping was a bit irritating.

PMSL, yeah Heaven forbid a woman EVER being allowed to be proud and pleased by success that she has busted her ass to achieve. And if she DID seem quite close to the bald guy, it's probably because he is a shit load more supportive than her bloody husband.

If this (female) marathon runner was a man, none of us would be having this conversation!

And what the fuck is a 'smug runner?'😆LOL you sound a bit jealous of her!

That's exactly what they are. Women aren't just breeding and childrearing machines, they're human beings in their own right. Men, and you, need to start recognising that 🙄

Who cares if you warm to either of them, this is about what's right and what's wrong regarding misogyny, not whether you'd like to go to the pub with them.

I think it's a shame that you regard a spontaneous, widely accepted response to doing well (clapping) after pushing yourself to your limits and smashing your goal as smug.

I don't really think that either parent emerges from that with much glory, tbh. It's the kids I'm feeling sorry for.

Agree 100% with this.

And it may well be the case that the dc have often crossed finishing line with their mum, and were expecting to do it again. Dh either didn’t clock it wasn’t appropriate this time (motorbike, pb, finishing first, edging a qualifying time for another race), or did clock but didn’t manage to hold dc back.

But hey, first role of Mumsnet - assume the worst of everyone.

@PennyPugwash

lol why can’t a woman congratulate herself on a big achievement??