Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

If that was the case, that was a terrible idea because no one should be on the course except the runners, in part because they could get hurt or cause someone else to get hurt. Beyond stupid.

@DonnaBanana

this! Huge difference between being a good mum and being a martyr!

I don’t know why you can’t just accept that she didn’t want to.

I can accept that. She didn't want to and she didn't. Read my post properly. I disagreed with the use of the word 'should'.

She shouldn’t have stopped and lessened her own achievement.

There you go again. There's no 'should'. She could or couldn't. It's up to her. Doing either isn't 'lessening her own achievement' 🙄

As a matter of interest, do you run? Have you run half marathons? Because I have and interacting or not with my children has no bearing on my 'achievement'.

It wasn’t the time for hugs, woman be focusing on her run and her achievement! She was in the zone! Hence her reaction at the end.

No-one knows if she was being asked to hug them. They just ran towards her.

go, girl!

🤢 ultra-patronising.

Anyway, my advice is don't give headspace to how others decide to spend their emotional quota. It doesn't affect you.

The irony 😂

(And no headspace - just posting on a forum. Like, um, you 😀)

We may not know why he did it, but he did nearly ruin her win.

Of course he didn't 🙄

Anyone with a lick of sense would know not to shove children into her path

Good he didn't do this so.

He did, probably foolishly, usher them into her path - no shoving though. You enjoy hyperbole!

@EarringsandLipstick

i do run, yes. And yes of course stopping to hug her kids would lessen her achievement because it would add on to her time. She looks like the kind of runner who is into it and wants PB’s. She ain’t gonna stop and hug her kids cos she was doing so well! And silly of her husband to think otherwise!

Sorry, what?

What an absolute fucking thundercunt. SOME men just can't stand it that some women can do difficult things really well can they? What a horrible thing to do to her!

Typical of some men though. Just HAVE to try and spoil a woman's fun and joy and moments of happiness, by making something all about him and how HE feels. And/or throwing a strop and going into a dark mood for some made up reason, just to try and douse his woman's enjoyment and fun and joy.

Evil.

Nope. Again.

I really doubt you run half / full marathons.

As I've said (many) times, many serous runners, men & women, do stop & take their kids. The time added is marginal.

Of course if she was actually winning the race; she won't stop. But even so, it's more miscommunication than anything malign.

So many uninformed posters here.

Obviosly tne dad is an utter tool.

My issue is with the race organisers who let this apology of a human being and small children stand in front of the finish line. What a shower!

You win the 🏆 for the most unhinged, OTT response. (And there has been stiff competition).

'Evil'. Give me strength.

@EarringsandLipstick

hehe why do you doubt I run half marathons, marathons? Because I wouldn’t stop to hug my kids at the end? Lol

Totally usual. There's plenty of space. Seen it often.

And why, again, is he a tool?

hehe why do you doubt I run half marathons, marathons? Because I wouldn’t stop to hug my kids at the end? Lol

Nope.

Because you're so uninformed - rather completely wrong - about how such races work & what is usual.

No-one is saying she was going to hug them btw, that's more of your invention.

@EarringsandLipstick

for letting the kids run up to mum when she was trying to finish her race. Obviously.

@EarringsandLipstick

ok. You caught me out. I never run. And the woman’s husband is a great man. 👍

for letting the kids run up to mum when she was trying to finish her race. Obviously.

He's not a tool for doing that. He may have made a mistake. Doesn't make him a tool.

HTH

You caught me out. I never run. And the woman’s husband is a great man

Well, you don't run distance races, that much is clear.

And no, I didn't say he was 'great' 🤷🏻‍♀️ he may be, he may not be. I said he wasn't a pollock, a tool, abusive, evil & all the other nonsense spouted here about someone who possibly did something daft.

Your reading comprehension is not great.

You don't know the man to say he's not those things.

I mean when you try to run a marathon just under 3hrs every second counts (just a personal example)

True.

And nor do you to say he is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can you not see how daft you are being?

I don't know you. Should I start labelling you all sorts of offensive terms, because, well, you might be?

Use some common sense!

I mean when you try to run a marathon just under 3hrs every second counts (just a personal example)

Sure. (I've never run anything like that & if you have fair play, you're an elite runner).

That's not my point.

My point is (yet again 🙇🏻‍♀️) is that some serious runners are absolutely up for engaging with their kids at the end. All a matter of choice. The posters who assume this could never be the case are wrong.

Isn't that in Brazil?

I'm amazed (1) dad's there at all and not in some bar, and (2) mum's not having to look after the kids while racing.

It's Brazil...

Oh theres irony alright 😬

not with my posts though as you're the one calling me odd for expending emotions on something that doesn't affect me, whilst simultaneously giving headspace (posting/thought/whatever) to how I expend said emotions when that doesnt affect you 😬

I was being sarcastic, not ironic.

This. ^