Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

Completely agree - a total idiot. I feel sorry for the kids too, being put in that position by him.

He's a twat and should have stood after the finish line so that his wife could have her victory and then celebrated with the kids.

He's a fucking dickhead, with that faux-outraged arm throw. You're totally right, that was a man who wanted to make his wife's success all about him.

What an absolute knob, good lord.

Could he not have let this be about her rather than him? Hoping he is usually very considerate and self aware but I somehow doubt it…

YANBU - what an arrogant narc!!

I felt the same way when I saw it but then did read elsewhere that she has said the arrangement was that she was going to jog to the finish with the kids, but that she either was setting a PB or the runner up was too close for comfort so (rightly) prioritised winning over jogging to the finish with the kids.

If the above is true then I get it. If not then I go back to my initial outrage at his total twattery!

That's awful!!! What was he playing at!

YANBU, what a dick. When I finished my first half even after I was over the finish line and walking beyond it I didn’t want anyone to touch me for first 15 mins as I’d given everything in the last mile to get over the finish line and I was feeling totally wiped out and nauseous. Thankfully my DH got it and backed right off with the kids! Think I might have lamped him if he’d done what this guy did.

What a pig, I think he sounds controlling, or he has such a low opinion of himself he wanted to ruin his wife's achievement as he is jealous.
He should have waited for his wife to finish her race before he let the children run to her. What was he thinking.

Fucking cunt

I’ve seen this. It’s horrendous. She should divorce him and get with the nice guy in the green r shirt who finished second to her.

I’ve seen this.

complete sabotage on dads part.

Hoping his wife will give in to ‘mum guilt’ and lose the race for her kids.

I know I’m reaching, but I’m guessing he’s pissed off she does something outside of being a mother and a wife for herself. Marathons take months to train for.

He won’t be unaware she would’ve put months of work into this. Likely resentful.

Imagine a woman sending her kids out onto the football pitch just before the dad scored. Wouldn’t happen.

Once again women’s sports and achievements are seen as a ‘little hobby’ and not to be taken seriously.

weaponised incompetence.

What a twat. It’s all about him isn’t it? Wouldn’t dream of doing this to my husband

Ive done races and unintentionally ignored my DC (DH reminds me of this extremely regularly!) but I think its difficult to form an opinion without knowing what was already arranged/agreed.

Having said that putting toddlers on the course on what looks like a downhill finish, when there might be a lead bike and/or other runners looks risky.

Once again women’s sports and achievements are seen as a ‘little hobby’ and not to be taken seriously.

This.

I'll give him some leeway if as a poster above said it was a pre planned thing that didn't pan out due to timing.

If it was an unplanned grand gesture and he expected her to forfeit winning/PB then that is a knob move.

I've seen it. Very dangerous thing to do. The kids could have tripped a runner up (there was at least one other runner right behind her). And then there was a motorbike close behind too! Blokes an idiot.

It's quite symbolic isn't it? A woman not being allowed to revel in her success and achievement without being reminded of 'her place' as a wife and a mother.

She seems awfully pally with that guy.
I wonder if they engage in other forms of jogging!

If that's true then it does put a slightly different spin on it. Even so, she was going at a rate of knots and there were other runners and a motorbike on the course. It's obvious to anyone with half a braincell that it wasn't a safe situation to put the kids into. At the very least, the dad failed to observe what was going on an adjust any plans accordingly, i.e. parent effectively.

He was an absolute gobshite.

It was a dangerous position to put the children and other runners in.

He could have had them all wait for the mother a few yards further and done a big celebratory hug as she passed the finish line.

The children must have felt so confused and upset, no doubt the couple ended up having words on what should have been an amazing day for mum!

I think it looks like he misjudged it. My first thought wasn't that her husband was deliberately trying to ruin it for her

The mum-rage I would feel seeing my kids running up to me at this point in a race. They were probably asking for a snack 😂what a dickhead!

Whichever of them decided to disrupt the finish line by standing little kids in front of it is a complete loser.

Surprised she's claiming responsibility for it as she's clearly not a novice runner, so I think this was the Dad's idea and she's covering up his abuse, which makes it even more sad.