Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

Reminds me of a top level event (horse) rider who had just won a pretty prestigious event, and was in the media tent giving her after ceremony interview with her fellow podium finishers, when her boyfriend took it upon himself to choose that moment to propose.

Proper glory thieving. I was livid on her behalf.

Compare and contrast with Jasmin Paris’s partner/husband when she’s doing the Berkeley (sp?) marathons. Just supporting her and helping her.

Sabotaging her success and putting his kids at risk of being knocked over by other runners or the motorbike on the road.
what an idiot.

Making it all about him. Bellend

It seems to be a 'thing' now for sports professionals to bring their kids out onto the pitch post match (rugby, football, cricket etc) for a walk around and some tabloid pics. At least in those situations the match is actually over but it seems at grass roots / amateur level in various sports people want to emulate their professional counterparts. I run local events up to half marathon distances, you get mix of club runners giving it beans while gunning for a PB and fun runners just looking to get round and it is very frustrating when kids join the course to run alongside mum or dad for 100m or so before returning to the spectator sections. Other runners have to break stride or swerve out the way to avoid tripping over some random toddler. It is bloody annoying.

This is deranged.

The wildly over-dramatic criticism of a man you know nothing about is concerning.

Reminds me of my ex. I remember coming back from a writing class buzzing with the fact I had had my work called 'real writing', that I could write. My ex snapped that I had not asked about his and the DCs week-end first. A total deflate. I didn't say anything else about what I had done. Mean-spirited of him. Same with this father trying to spoil his wife's finish and make it all about him being a 'wonderful' dad.

I got second hand cringe reading that.

God, it can't be that hard.

Firstly, professionals having their kids in the field after a game has happened forever - it's not new.

Secondly, in the case of races, if you're that serious you'll be well-ahead of the fun runners, surely? I run reasonably competitively too, it's really never been an issue.

It made me think of when Drake spoke about himself for ages when he was meant to be giving Rihanna an award then kissed her and she dodged it and never spoke to him again 😂

@Februaryfeels

Why? Why the 'second-hand cringe'? A 50 mile race is bloody hard and an incredible achievement. It makes complete sense that @MrsDTucker kids might like to celebrate the moment & share it, given his training will have impacted the whole family.

Great, it has not been an issue for you, I have witnessed kids on the course several times. Yes it is annoying. No I am not an 'elite' runner, neither am I at the back of the field, typically I finish in the top third, but still want to get the best time I can for an event I have spent the last few months training for. In my experience it is not just the fun runners at the back bringing their kids onto the course but some of the speedier folk as well. It just seems a bit selfish and potentially dangerous.

It wasn't @MrsDTucker who did it.

Celebrate after the event. Families doing what was described is cringy. Reminds me of modern parents in viz.

Am I watching a different video to everyone else?

you get mix of club runners giving it beans while gunning for a PB and fun runners just looking to get round and it is very frustrating when kids join the course to run alongside mum or dad

Your first post implied it was the fun runners bringing on their kids.

If it is all runners, including speedy PB types, yes I agree it could get messy & dangerous.

But I've often seen runners, usually for a notable event, like a marathon, taking their kids over the finish line with them. There's always plenty of space, I can't see how it could be an issue.

I didn't do it myself, when they were younger, as I was always wrecked & trying to speed up as much as I could, to be done!

@Februaryfeels

Don't be daft. She & the DC loved & supported her DH, why wouldn't they share in his happiness at the achievement. Some people want to do this, others don't. All are fine.

You've an odd take on family celebration & support.

How would we know?

I'm watching the one that is on the front page of this thread

Is there another one I've missed where all the bad things happen?

Fair enough if you want your kids to join you but as long as your kids don’t get in the way of other runners who are maybe prioritising a time rather than #makingmemories.

I'm confused as to the outrage too. It seems a story based on total assumption of the situation.

It wasn't a good idea to let this kids run in the middle of it all, for obvious reasons, but mum wasn't visibly angered by it, dad didnt seem to me to be "throwing his arms up in disgust" because she didnt hug them, but reacting to someone giving him a bollocking for letting the kids run into the path of runners.

Talk about mountain out of a molehill. The family are probably having a good laugh at the ridiculous speculative rubbish it's created.

YANBU
This is totally something my ex would've done.
Well done to the mum for completing a half marathon though!

Is this going to turn out like the expert who was interrupted by his kids on TV and people were speculating about how badly treated/stressed the "nanny" looked and imagining all sorts of dark things but really she was the children's mother?

It wasn't a good idea to let this kids run in the middle of it all, for obvious reasons

No, no it wasn't a "good idea" - talk about minimising a stupid man's behaviour 😂

Funny how that's the only thing you could take from my comment to nit pick about 🙄

According to some posters it's a good way to express love and support

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