Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

That is what I saw too. He isn’t even looking at his wife,

Also, did she even win? The yellow banner is held back up and the runner after her goes through it too. I discounted the men running as it was said to be a women’s race and it appears each woman had her coach or a mate running with her.

Give her a chance to get her breath back!

Absolute cock. He guided those infants into the road so they could interfere with her run in front of everybody, putting them at risk and taking her moment away from her.

She finished at 1:40:55

Yellow banner was also held up for the runner after her who finished at 01:41:13 to run through.

So the finish line banner wasn’t just for the winner.

So did she win the race?

Imagine if Mo Farah’s wife chucked the kids at him just before the final metres 😂

I hope the female runner bollocked her husband afterwards (out of earshot of children). What a complete idiot

What he did was dangerous. The kids could have been knocked down. And depending on the race rules he could even have got her disqualified. In some races crossing the line with non participating people or animals is strictly forbidden.
Why couldn’t he just let her enjoy it?

OP how did you get into my head?! I had the exact same reaction and I also mentioned the proposals during Olympic and other wins. Selfish men who can’t bear to see their wives win and can’t bear to see them be human beings existing (and thriving) independent of the leash they thought they had their wives on. Yuck.

what a stupid idea whoseever it was

its not a fun run down the local village

Cool.

You're the one invoking our lord and saviour.

I know we're not supposed to point out twattery. Or do any pattern recognition or class analysis. Soz.

He's an absolute fuckn moron.

There was another runner right behind her? So he wanted her to let the other runner overtake her so she could hug her kids before crossing the finish line?

wtf was he thinking?

Sorry but my children would always come first for me

Down off the cross, someone needs the wood.

Her children were in the care of a semi-responsible parent and she was doing something. They weren't being attacked by bears or drowning. She had time to finish the race she'd been training for.

You are allowed to do some things for yourself, even when you're a mother.

Its not nearly a bad as some people are making out to be, but he does actively push them towards her.

Its a bit wierd... but I am sure they will get over it. Its also totally fine to celebrate with a team-mate/fellow athlete rather than running back to the family. That would be normal for a man.

This thread, & the link OP posted,is nuts.

Most of what has been said in the wildly OTT article is imagined / without evidence.

The kids are in the way, yes. The reason for that is unclear. I've watched the video a few times, he doesn't 'push' them towards her. He may be doing a poor job of managing them, or (quite likely) she had planned to run with them to the end but the plan changed as she was running to make her time (we don't know).

I don't see any outraged hand gesture. I see him using his hand to make a point to someone, not directly against his wife at all - it's clearly as part of a separate conversation and is after she crosses the line.

The comments here are hyperbolic & frankly crazy. We have no evidence he's any of the slurs thrown at him.

There's a number of explanations for what happened but the video provides no evidence for the interpretation that he was a dick trying to sabotage his wife's run. 🙄

Yeah watch again - that's not what happened. He put them in front of her!

I'm sorry I just don't believe this. No experienced runner would think it was safe or appropriate to put two small children in the path of runners finishing a race. And why would she stop at the end to slow herself down when she's clearly really fast and would have known she was on course to finish somewhere near the top? Just doesn't make sense.

Even running marathons we need to be the default parent 😡

More fool you if you'd ruin the finish of a race to hug your kids because 'your kids come first' nobody likes a mummy martyr

I think people are being harsh.... no one knows the full story.

She is celebrating as she running down the hill. He then usher his children in and she runs around them. She then celebrates her win at thr finish line.

He put his hands up because someone looks like they telling off.

At a casual-ish event, giving them a high 5 would be pretty standard.

Like focusing on your race means your kids lose out. What a shitty example that would be giving them. They're with their Dad, he should be capable of caring for his kids while she's running her half marathon. Its not rocket science, just him being a half decent parent.

What do we know about these people?

It’s like a weird Rorschach test. I think the guy is not her husband. I think they are not her kids, but they thought she was their mum (I think she’d have gone over to comfort them
of they were her kids after the race). And yeah I think other spectators were yelling at him.

Until we get the full story it’s just a matter of interpretation.

I think she did pretty well to dodge them and finish. Putting that much effort into a race, the brain isn't focussing on that much else at the time either.
We used to take the DCs to quite a few races. They were never allowed onto the race course itself.