Dad ruining wife's half-marathon finish

[BlowDryRat]

Has anyone else seen this video?

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Brief synopsis: A dad stands by the half-marathon finish line with his young daughters. Crucially, he's standing in front of the finish ribbon. When he sees his wife about to win the race, he encourages the toddlers to intercept her with hugs. She has to dodge them to avoid knocking them over, finishes the race and celebrates. Dad throws up his arms in disgust at her choosing to win the race rather than stop to hug her daughters.

IMO this is the perfect example of a man trying to make his wife's achievements all about him, then blaming her for his ineptitude and her wanting to celebrate her own achievement. A mother is an individual in her own right.

I feel the same way about men who propose to their partners when they've won a race/accepted an award/ celebrating their graduation.

YABU - he's an amazing dad and the mum let her kids down by selfishly taking the win.

YANBU - he's a dick.

If it was a father running no one would be arguing that the mother who pushed the kids onto the racetrack might have black and white thinking and be unable to assess the risk of chucking some kids out onto a track full of adults running to a finish line.

I would say my kids are the best thing I’ve ever done but that doesn’t mean they have to be shoehorned in to my every achievement because I’m a mum. Well done to this woman for achieving her goal!

Reminds me of a clip of a woman's PhD graduation ceremony and her boyfriend thinks THAT is the moment to walk onto the stage and propose to her as her family and friends are cheering.
It gave me the rage listening to the "aah's". She looked stunned. Clearly only thinking of himself, and inveigling himself into her huge moment.

In the case completely moronic and unsafe. Hope the stewards did bollix him.

I agree in principle but what a stupid post by the op to make this into another man hating thread rather than it being about an individual.

😂😂😂

@RampantKrampus

Hid last 50 mile race we all ran across the finish together (him, me, 3yo and 5yo) and it made for some fantastic photos

Why do you and the kids need to be involved?

My H is autistic and if I told him to do this he would do it, regardless of whether the circumstances on the day indicated it was now a bad idea. Because he’s quite black and white in his thinking.

Presumably you don't suggest potentially risky actions to him when in charge of your kids if he's unable to assess dangerous situations.

I've watched it a few times and think @SpiritAdder is right, he didn't push the kids forward. He didn't have physical control of them to restrain them from running onto the track, and he seems to be reaching out in some Jedi-like attempt to draw them back in without touching them.

How many children do you see? The site the OP linked to says 3, but I see two children and a bag in his hand. So he didn't have both hands free to restrain the children. If he'd been standing there holding the hand of each child, the incident might have been avoided.

And yes, the arm gesture is to someone off the track about not having the kids under control.

Alarming when something goes viral and generates a lot of projection and misguided vitriol.

Because it's fun, and the kids love it.

It's not exactly risky, though. It's not like there is a crowd of runners.

@Whiteglasshouse

wouldnt your husband just be proud of you for completing such an amazing thing?

It was important to DH. We supported him with training. Thinking about seeing the kids at the finish was his motivation to get through the last 10 miles or so. He wants to encourage and inspire them. It finished on a track so it was fun for the kids to run on a track too. One guy literally ran the whole 400m with his toddler on his shoulders which after 7 hours of running was seriously impressive 😂

To be fair, this is definitely fairly standard for the woman in the video. This isn’t her first rodeo. She’s not ‘completing such an amazing thing’, she’s doing what she does.

This. Some races have a very carnival atmosphere, run in costume, all sorts of hijinks. It doesn't have to be serious!

I'm quite cynical about social media, viral videos and news these days, Most of it is set up/planned/pre-recorded, and just plain fake.

I can understand having nice pics afterwards but actually doing and finishing a race is something I do on my own, for my own achievement and much as I love them my kids aren't part of that!

Yes I read she had said that.
The plan was to take them over the finish line with her but she changed it on the fly as she was being tailed too closely. Lots of guys are twats but this one might not be 😂

What a bastard. Some men are just such utter turds.

Whatever may or may not have happened it was bloody dangerous. You don’t shove tiny kids in front of adults running quite fast.

My first husband would have done this without doubt. My second would have waited in the background till the end of the race.

@RampantKrampus

so? She could do it every single day and it would still be amazing and her husband should still be proud not trying to make it about the kids.

YANBU.
Twat with a small willy.
Full stop.
🤢

What a complete non story! To make a generalisation of men from this is the irony of the day. What else can MN look for to find a story to generalise at how crap men are!

How about 'mum can't compete in the race she's trained for 10 years because her husband refuses to look after their teenage children'.

Or 'mum races with baby on her back because her husband didn't know how to feed them a bottle and change their nappy'.

Hm.
Most.
You find a good quality man, you consider yourself "lucky".

To stand in the middle like that is awful! Even if you were going to let the kids run the finish, keep them on the side & get out of the bloody way

I didn't see "misguided" vitriol.
I'm off quoting people now, have a nice day all!!