To orchestrate a play date to get this dad's number?

[JaneDough94]

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

Get in there! Don’t listen to the jealous haters on this thread. You aren’t faking anything since your DD’s are friends.

Some of these answers are WILD!!

OP - go for it! Your responses give me full confidence you know what you’re doing. I hope that have a nice play date and that he’s great.

Go for it. The kids get on well. Let us know how you get on 👍

People being a bit mean. Would you have the daughter over for a play date anyway? So invite her see how it goes. Unlike all the joy killers here I like to believe in happy endings. Just be careful, don't go full on couple. The kids don't need to be involved from the get go. If it doesn't work it doesn't work. I don't have any friends from primary school. Good luck

Of course it's not creepy, and seriously, people are that bothered about their potentially being problems between parents with a primary school friend? They'll barely remember each other existed in a few years.

I think it's a good idea to be friends, and even more than friends, with a parent whose daughter your daughter already likes. However, I think you should be honest right up front. I'm a man; if I even suspected someone was manipulating me in that way, that would be the last either you or yours would see of me and mine.

Go for it Op! There's absolutley nothing wrong with sussing him out, especially as your children get on well. It would look more suspicious if your children weren't friends 😂 I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that he's not a tory!

Just be friendly as you would anyone else you meet in school. Let it be organic.

We didn't see them, I don't think she was at school on the last two days ☹️

A sign from the universe that I need to wind my neck in perhaps? 😂

Go fo it. That's how u meet people. Doing ordinary things

Well don’t forgot on MN all men are cheats 😁

Dating children's friends parents is a tricky one. Say he agrees to date, but it goes badly wrong. Do you bar your child from seeing the friend. You would see him every week day...

Put yourself in the future, imagine the worse case scenario of the relationship not working and think about how you feel. There are enough stalking cases as it is. It puts you in the front line seeing him 5 days a week. Concentrate on your child and hopefully another guy who is not a parent at the school may well come along.

Go for it, we just needs updates

Actually, I think it’s a really sensible way of testing the water. It’s just a play date. You’ll find out if you actually have any rapport with the dad, the girls get a play date so they’re happy. No one loses anything. People have done much more underhand things to get a number!!! But be wise that you will have to see this man every day should anything happen or indeed not happen. Good luck.

Cast your net a bit wider. Not because of your kids, but because if you do get together then break up it will be SO cringey bumping into him at school all the time.

I can't believe some of the comments you've had op!

Sleazy, creep, perv. Bloody hell. Your kids get along and you know he's single so I can't see any harm in arranging a play date so that you can chat to him a bit more to see if you're interested.

Either things will develop from there or they won't.

I can see how it could be awkward if things start and then fizzle out but that's a conversation surely, as you'll both want to protect your kids from any awkwardness.

Isn't this the sort of social interaction people used to navigate before 'dating' was an app and a meeting with a stranger.

This all the day long.

Go for it op! Properly. 😁

You know the saying "there's some damn desperate women out there!"

Please, don't be one of them. No-one can ge that hungry for a relationship.

Course not, but that's the point of the 'date' to get to know him a bit more. ☺️

Call it going for a coffee if that makes more sense.

Worst that can happen is he feels flattered but says no,
in between outcome is you both go for a chat, spend a nice hour talking and remain pally on the school run.
Best case, you get on like a house on fire and enjoy each others company more than once.

Eh?
How she is desperate?

She's crossed paths with a guy as she goes about her life (so far so normal), likes him and thinks it would be nice to get to know him.

What about this scenario makes her 'desperate and hungry for a relationship'?

I wouldn't use a playdate with your children as a way to get know him better. It's a bit creepy really - asking for a phone number to organize a playdate when actually it's because you want his number so you can get to know him better.
I'd start by trying to chat to him a bit more in the playground and take it from there.

Isn't that he point of a date though. to find out of you have anything in common and if there's a " spark"?

Go for it, life is too short. If the kids get on, organise a play date/ coffee for you guys. If girls don't get on then don't force it- you might make a friend if nothing else.
Nothing wrong with trying to get to know someone more and offering the girls the opportunity too!

Judging by everyone else's ridiculous comments, it doesn't sound like it is your neck you're putting out there 😅😅

I don't see it as manipulation. It's getting to know a person. If there's nothing there then nothing lost.