To orchestrate a play date to get this dad's number?

[JaneDough94]

My daughter is friendly with another girl at her school who is slightly older and in a different class. We (me and DD) bump into her and her dad most days on the school run and the girls get along really well.

I'd like to get to know him better but I'm far too shy to just say that, so would it be unreasonable to use a play date as a reason to get his number? 😂

He's a single father, mother isn't on the scene.

WDYT?

Can you paste the exact words that are creepy? Many thanks.

Go for it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

How about asking him out for a coffee after you've dropped the kids at school?

Tell me about it.

We might not even have anything in common, I might discover that he's a raging Tory.. for example 🤣

I don't think there's any harm in wanting to chat with somebody is there?

Oh stop it 😂😂

Orchestrate. I thought I made that fairly clear.

I think if he was interested perhaps he would’ve suggested the play date before now.

@Didimum

Sure if you’re lumping your child with another kid they don’t know or have no interest in, but the children are friendly and presumably like each other, so what’s the issue?

I don't think I could have been clearer tbh. Using the kids is the issue. If OP wants his number so she can get to know him better she should ask for it; not use the children.

Don't you talk dirty to me.

Folks on here are mental. Some of the comments are hilarious

Go for it Op. Safe way to get to know him. May turn into a good friend if not boyfriend material. It's how people meet.

If he was interested he would be approaching you. Men go after what they want. He is not interested. Stay away from him!

I can’t even count how many people I know who have procured colleagues numbers to get to know them better socially. It’s extremely common. They find a mutual interest or middle ground and it gets the ball rolling. You might not even want to end up dating them, it’s just a chance to meet up and chat properly when the office or the school playground or whatever isn’t going to present that opportunity.

I don't see an issue with it, I'm sure your not planning to stalk or bombard him with messages, it's just a way to connect, if he likes you, he will let you know.

They’re friends. Theres no drama in them having a play date. It’s not using your kid to organise a play date with a friend.

Wonderful. The 1950s have arrived on the thread.

It's pretty much literally the title of the thread though!

@Didimum

They’re friends. Theres no drama in them having a play date. It’s not using your kid to organise a play date with a friend.

You must be reading a different thread as that's exactly what OP is suggesting

Because asking him on a date would feel completely inappropriate as at this stage I don't even know if we have anything in common..

Oh behave.

So why do you need to orchestrate anything then? Wait and see if anything comes about organically on the off chance you do have things in common.

There isn't much opportunity to talk on the school run beyond pleasantries, the children walk 1 block together.

I don't think so, no. Mums often initiate playdates with kids of other mums who they think they might get on with as friends - and often carry on doing so even if the kids don't particularly gel. He might appreciate a friend, even if nothing more comes of it.

Keep that up so. Would you ask him for his number?

Bloody hell, go for it op

It isn't so much 'creepy' as disingenuous and a bit tacky.