To think my mum should keep her disappointment to herself

[spiralstair]

Just found out we're having a boy and we're very exited so told my mum and she sounded visibly disappointed saying I imagined you to have a daughter, she then went on to say there's something very special about having a daughter and a mum/daughter bond maybe you'll get one next time.
She now keeps saying every time the baby is mentioned how strange it feels that I'm having a boy and that she keeps picturing a girl.

Then the last straw is how she keeps looking at all the lovely dresses in the shops and has to drag herself away reminding herself it's a boy.
She's really taken the shine off this pregnancy and I'm starting to feel really angry and avoid the subject.
I have told her I'm exited to be having a boy, I'm wondering if she's trying to relive having me through my baby or why is she finding it so strange that my baby is a little boy.

from a mum of all girls, i have to admit, it was a bit odd at first being told my first GC was going to be a boy! all i've known is girls, and my relationship with my DD's is very close and special.

so in a way, i kind of get your mums response BUT.. i certainly never showed any disappointment at the sex of the child. Now he's here, hes just the most amazing creature on this earth, and it didn't take long to learn the small differences (ie nappy change).

she may be apprehensive as i was having never cared for a boy? and i am sure she doesn't mean to take the shine off your pregnancy. she maybe adjusting her mindset and i am sure as soon as she's on the right page you will both be busy buying amazing little boy outfits.

You need to tell her OP. Tell her you're sorry she's upset, but that you too are upset, because you'd hoped she'd be excited and welcoming about a GC regardless of sex, so you've clearly both disappointed each other. Tell her that the only way forward is for her to stop talking about this because this is your child and you can't be around someone who has decides they are second best and wrong before they are even born.