To just feel so sad that I can’t give my child the same education as another

[hunnsh]

I will never have the money to send my dc to private school. For starters I’m a single parent but even when I was with her dad we would have massive struggled to pay fees.

Two of my ‘mum friends’ have chosen private school for their daughters, same age as my daughter and they are doing so much more than my child. They have weekly swimming and sports classes, the food is even miles better than at state, they have their own theatre, the classes are half the size of my daughter’s. I know you can still do well at a state school and my daughter does seem happy but I know already that her chances are lesser than these other two. They are both miles ahead in confidence and I can only put that down to how the classes are smaller and they are exposed to more activities etc. It makes me so sad for my daughter. I know there’s nothing that can be done but it seems so unfair? It’s like their futures are already marked out a little bit and all down to the fact they have been lucky to go somewhere everyday that is more focused on them. Just feel like it’s very unfair.

@hunnsh you need to look at how the other parents are affording private school. Are they handed money on a plate as they have genwrafions of wealth or do they work in high paying careers which needed intelligence and long hours in addition to luck?

This is similae to the person who envied Pippa Middleton.

You can think of ways you can increase your income and ...... do it. Majority will realise that we eacb have different capabilities and that is the reality.

Btw the kids I know at state schools have highly motivated parents who look at opportunities for them and expose them to a range of activities. If your DD is motivated and aspirational, no reason for her not to be successful. However, as a parent you need to be clued up on opportunities and expose her to them. Not all of them are costly

Welcome to the real world, life isn’t fair and u shouldn’t expect it to be.