To ask if you could go back in time to change just one thing in your own life what would it be?

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I don't mean historically as in kill a world leader etc. I mean one thing that would change yours or family/close friend's life.

Mine would be force my sister to get her pain looked at. She left it years popping pills and died of something that would probably have been prevented if she'd gone to the GP sooner. Although to be honest they were giving her strong pain relief. I'd have made her get exploratory tests. She died too young. I used to beg her to go. If I could go back I'd drag her there and be forceful at the appointment.

Is there anything you'd do?

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life I could choose to rectify if I could go back. But nothing that has caused harm.

I would never have reconnected with my ex. That was a pivotal moment, a huge mistake, ruined alot of things in my life in the long term. It is still impacting my life even though we split permanently 20 years ago. I wish I had had better self esteem and more faith in myself, my whole life would likely be so much better now in so many ways.

Make that 3. Me too.

Yes they have - not just in one big go, but selling it off in increments over a few years.

I've bought and sold various cryptos over the years since then and made some reasonable profits (not life changing amounts - enough for a couple of family holidays). My go-to exchange is Coinbase, but have used Kucoin as well as it had a wider range of assets.

I believe you can buy and sell with the likes of Paypal and Revolut these days so it's not so difficult to get your head round anymore.

I would've not gone out with my 1st boyfriend who I later married.

I would've accepted the job in HK

Not to allow my mother to bully and dominate me. Not just when I was little but throughout my entire life.

I'm really quite happy with my life and I'd worry about the effect of changing anything in my past that might impact my future.

If I could guarantee I'd be in the same position in my 50s, I'd have gone to uni and become a vet. Which would mean I'd never have met my abusive exdh and had a career I'm passionate about.

I would have changed my chemistry teacher in 1988

I would really have looked after my teeth better and have insisted my parents got me braces for my one wonky canine tooth.

Ah I did wonder about wine loving Pam. I was just going to ignore. Very odd post.

I'd not have become a mum

If I could keep the same children, I would go back in time and have them 10 years earlier (and have more of them!). I wish they could have met/spent more time with older family members before they died.

This thread has really made me think about my life.

I should have divorced my current (2nd) husband 7 years ago when I had the chance. But he was taken seriously ill while I was getting my MN ducks in a row, then the pandemic hit. Now he's a sick, disabled old man and I'm stuck as his carer, feeling like a tiger locked in cage a lot of the time.

Not to have wasted so much time and effort trying to help someone I cared about, who went on to kill himself anyway.

I’m currently trying really hard not to regret havings kids.

Worked harder at school, stayed for A Levels and gone to uni.

@Tandbikkies could you get SS involved to organise care? You shouldn't be trapped. Your life is valuable too.

I would have kissed my dad the last time I saw him. I didn’t know it’d be the last time x

I would have been brave and left my boyfriend and gone to university in London when I was 18.

By staying back a year and going somewhere he went as well meant I stayed in a relationship which did neither or us any good and should have burned out before I was 19.

I'd stay in New Zealand and not come home...

He'll have known you loved him

I'd advise one now adult dc not to take short cuts through the park when it's getting dark after school. And would've sent my other now adult dc the text I'd typed telling her to be careful going out after work as I had a bad gut feeling, instead I regrettably deleted it and told myself I was being silly.

It's amazing how gut instincts can be real. I hope they're ok.

Left after the first time he hit me.

I’d have understood the magnitude of what it meant when my best friends mum died when she was 18. I don’t know how I’d do it (How does an 18yo have that grasp of mortality and grief if they are not in it) but I wish it were possible.

I hope you have left?