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“Women and birthing people. “

473 replies

Riapia · 13/05/2024 18:11

Who said that?
A doula on the PM Programme on BBC R4 tonight between 5.40 and 5.45.

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Twoshoesnewshoes · 13/05/2024 18:57

Bit annoying but if she said women and said it first then I’m okay with it

DoorPath · 13/05/2024 18:59

This bothers me zero percent, I'm happy to see the inclusion here. Try focussing on something else.

RM2013 · 13/05/2024 19:03

I see myself as a woman that was pregnant and a woman that gave birth. The term birthing people has been a more recently used term but I wonder if we are just trying too hard. I’ve also heard the term chest feeding instead of breastfeeding used 🤷‍♀️

SabrinaThwaite · 13/05/2024 19:07

I’m waiting for ‘birthing person’ to be declared wrong speak for those that identify as cat gender.

Will nobody think of the kittens.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 13/05/2024 19:09

Theeyeballsinthesky · 13/05/2024 18:44

Maternity services in many parts of this country are appalling with so many horror stories from women and midwives

and yet time, energy and resources are spent on placating the literal handful of women who don’t think they are women or identify with womanhood abd would find being referred to as “mother” as an act of violence whilst simultaneously doing the one thing that only women can do.

for.fucks.sake

This.
When phrases like birthing people, uterus havers, pregnant people and all the other anti women language that the useful idiots have dreamt up actually resolve the current scandalous experiences that women experience in maternity care in too many hospitals, then I'll tolerate this woman excluding language.
Until then they have one job - to provide safe, adequate maternity services for women and babies.
Not a single second should be spent on this nonsense by any medic or anyone in the NHS until maternity care is safe for women and babies.

TheKeatingFive · 13/05/2024 19:22

DoorPath · 13/05/2024 18:59

This bothers me zero percent, I'm happy to see the inclusion here. Try focussing on something else.

Do people just see the word inclusion and take leave of their critical faculties?

To quote a man who would have had zero time for all this rubbish 'don't be so open minded your brains fall out'

Everydayimhuffling · 13/05/2024 19:26

I've never understood why anyone would object to being called a person. We are people. A significant problem for women has always been being treated as not people. This does not negatively affect you in any way.

SecondHandFurniture · 13/05/2024 19:33

I thought most of the hatred on here was for penises in women's spaces? I'm not too fussed what they call a line of persons with uteruses, lying on a maternity ward, some of whom may identify as non-binary or as a man.

YachtMistress · 13/05/2024 19:38

Such stand out pc madness, shame on you BBC.
Women need to point out this biological ridiculousness
Every. Single. Time

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:39

MrsKwazi · 13/05/2024 18:19

Does anybody have the stats for how many men, aka transwomen, aka birthing persons, have actually given birth in say, the last 3 years? How many people are we pandering this nonsense to?

Well David Lammy thinks that man can grown cervixes if they identify as women and India Willoughy claims to have one...who knows...?!😂

BCBird · 13/05/2024 19:41

Wtaf. Who are the birthing people? Women

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:42

Riapia · 13/05/2024 18:19

Grateful for the crumbs, we deserve better.

Yes we are grateful that we have been referred to us as women. In the context of maternity. Grim.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 13/05/2024 19:43

ValueAddedTaxonomy · 13/05/2024 18:34

I had to turn the radio off when I heard the doula make a point of using that phrase.
Talk about fiddling while Rome burns. Maternity services are dying, but do let's accommodate the tiny number of women who can tolerate the archetypal female experience of giving birth but can't tolerate being called women.

Spot on.

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:45

ValueAddedTaxonomy · 13/05/2024 18:34

I had to turn the radio off when I heard the doula make a point of using that phrase.
Talk about fiddling while Rome burns. Maternity services are dying, but do let's accommodate the tiny number of women who can tolerate the archetypal female experience of giving birth but can't tolerate being called women.

Yes some transmen consider themselves male and then go and do the most female thing a woman can do and THEN demand that the language be changed to accommodate them. No eye rolls are enough.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 13/05/2024 19:46

SecondHandFurniture · 13/05/2024 19:33

I thought most of the hatred on here was for penises in women's spaces? I'm not too fussed what they call a line of persons with uteruses, lying on a maternity ward, some of whom may identify as non-binary or as a man.

'A line of persons with uteruses'

One step away from calling women incubators. Not all women give birth. Every single human being who has ever given birth was a woman (or a girl).

Dweetfidilove · 13/05/2024 19:46

Who the heck are ‘birthing people’ 😢

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:47

MrsOvertonsWindow · 13/05/2024 19:09

This.
When phrases like birthing people, uterus havers, pregnant people and all the other anti women language that the useful idiots have dreamt up actually resolve the current scandalous experiences that women experience in maternity care in too many hospitals, then I'll tolerate this woman excluding language.
Until then they have one job - to provide safe, adequate maternity services for women and babies.
Not a single second should be spent on this nonsense by any medic or anyone in the NHS until maternity care is safe for women and babies.

Edited

Excellent post.

borntobequiet · 13/05/2024 19:48

This was in a discussion about the horror that is maternity care in this country.

It’s insulting.

Edited to add: but PM so no surprise.

hayleyrabbit · 13/05/2024 19:48

SecondHandFurniture · 13/05/2024 19:33

I thought most of the hatred on here was for penises in women's spaces? I'm not too fussed what they call a line of persons with uteruses, lying on a maternity ward, some of whom may identify as non-binary or as a man.

Just read your post back and try and realise how utterly ludicrous is sounds.

Let alone how bloody offensive it is...

MrsKwazi · 13/05/2024 19:49

acheaway · 13/05/2024 18:51

I think the quote was referring to transmen, not transwomen

Yep you’re right. Sorry, got my personages mixed up there!

EleMar · 13/05/2024 19:52

Applescruffle · 13/05/2024 18:42

I just don't understand why anyone who is so adamant they are not a woman is getting pregnant in the first place.

👆this!

duvelmonkey · 13/05/2024 19:54

SecondHandFurniture · 13/05/2024 19:33

I thought most of the hatred on here was for penises in women's spaces? I'm not too fussed what they call a line of persons with uteruses, lying on a maternity ward, some of whom may identify as non-binary or as a man.

@SecondHandFurniture

Dear God, “a line of persons with Uteruses”
your post is giving Handmaiden’s Tale vibes.

We’re women!

takemeawayagain · 13/05/2024 20:01

Only women can give birth. The end.

Whatamuckykitchen · 13/05/2024 20:06

I’d really like to know how many actual women pretending to be men actually are demanding this. Are they demanding it before the birth? Are they demanding it after the doctors have possibly worked to save their and maybe their babies life?
who is actually demanding this? Is it Stonewall again, creating division where there wasn’t any? Or is there actually a massive percentage of women who will be so upset while pushing out a new life and having emergency treatment, that they’ll stop everything and complain? I can’t help thinking that when I was giving birth and afterwards, I was thinking about a lot if things, - mainly getting through it, and wonder. Strangely the midwife could have called me anything and I wouldn’t have cared. Little bit pre occupied.
i also don’t want my doctor to be so scared of misgendering me that their mind is on that, not on my healthcare. Just saying.

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