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“Women and birthing people. “

473 replies

Riapia · 13/05/2024 18:11

Who said that?
A doula on the PM Programme on BBC R4 tonight between 5.40 and 5.45.

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Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:41

Oncetwicethreetimesalady · 16/05/2024 11:12

There is so much to analyse and evaluate in these sources!

I’ll start with prostate cancer one.
They use the word man and man only on almost every page and the whole website is coded masculine. They use a man icon for their logo. The colours are blue and black.

there is no repeated suffix of “people with prostates” for every reference to men/man.
What there is, sensibly, is a single section with the headline “who has a prostate?” Where they explain that trans/non-binary people may also have prostates.
that is absolutely fine. It’s clear, inclusive, medically and biologically accurate. Great.

At the same time I note that they are asking for input with a survey as to how to move forward for trans individuals. Any future changes will be justifiable, evidence-based on research. Again, that sounds reasonable to me. Where have the equivalent consultations been within women’s health?

They already did it. The changes you see are the result of those consultations. Personally in the trust i was in, when we did it in about 2014-2015, we advertised a focus group where people could have input. It waa advertised in our SH clinics, fertility clinic, gynae and maternity clinics, newsletter, magazine, emails etc. Only a few people who wanted change turned up. Nobody who opposed these changes. There werent droves of non-person Other women coming to say how bad it all is for women.

A few started to care when the Mail picked it up as an issue and that was it. It has all been a recemt media craze to be so upset about it. Nobody cared before. Most people still dont care.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:45

There's no such thing as "cis". It's the in-group jargon of gender identity ideology, your personal belief system. It's not shared by most people.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:45

I agree @AccidentallyWesAnderson

Jumpingthruhoops · 16/05/2024 11:45

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:23

No we respect the identity of the individuals we look after and provide them personalised care. There are plenty of "facts" i feel are pertinent to the people who use maternity services, but that isnt my job to provide them. My opinions, like yours, are moot.

Oh, I'm all for respecting the identity of individuals in front of me. That's just good manners. What we shouldn't do, however, is rewrite literature and official NHS guidelines because of how a small percentage 'identify'. That's just ludicrous.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 11:46

A lot of 'most people' being banded about, with not a lot to back it up.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:48

A third of people in some areas of the U.K. don't know that a "trans woman" is a biological male who identifies as a woman. They think it means a biological woman who identifies as a man.

Name5 · 16/05/2024 11:49

I am going to suggest @Mackmacking works in London, Birmingham or Brighton. The percentage of FTM presenting with a pregnancy is higher in these cities. Of a two natal women couple, one is more musculine. Clothing etc, walk or voice. Isn't it a kindness to ask how you would like to be addressed?
Why is it anyone else's business? They've chosen their partnership. They've paid towards the NHS. They will probably only be there a day.
What we should be worried about is the activists in schools. Adults make their own choices. And I'm sure most women in labour call for their mum, all pronouns out of the bloody window.
@Mackmacking I'm sticking up for you but I hate the sub categories too.

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:50

Jumpingthruhoops · 16/05/2024 11:45

Oh, I'm all for respecting the identity of individuals in front of me. That's just good manners. What we shouldn't do, however, is rewrite literature and official NHS guidelines because of how a small percentage 'identify'. That's just ludicrous.

Everybody counts. Including people is better than excluding people. There are an increasing number of people who fit into.this demographic in maternity services. We update literature.every 3-5 years anyway, it doesnt cost more money to make new literature inclusive. It would cost more to have entirely separate literature about things that apply to everyone.

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:51

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:48

A third of people in some areas of the U.K. don't know that a "trans woman" is a biological male who identifies as a woman. They think it means a biological woman who identifies as a man.

They should receive better education then

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:52

Name5 · 16/05/2024 11:49

I am going to suggest @Mackmacking works in London, Birmingham or Brighton. The percentage of FTM presenting with a pregnancy is higher in these cities. Of a two natal women couple, one is more musculine. Clothing etc, walk or voice. Isn't it a kindness to ask how you would like to be addressed?
Why is it anyone else's business? They've chosen their partnership. They've paid towards the NHS. They will probably only be there a day.
What we should be worried about is the activists in schools. Adults make their own choices. And I'm sure most women in labour call for their mum, all pronouns out of the bloody window.
@Mackmacking I'm sticking up for you but I hate the sub categories too.

Sounds like you are supporting equality, not me.

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:53

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:45

There's no such thing as "cis". It's the in-group jargon of gender identity ideology, your personal belief system. It's not shared by most people.

It is shared by researchers in the field. What is your job?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:53

They should receive better education then

Why? It makes more sense to call women who identify as men, "trans women". I'm all for it.

Name5 · 16/05/2024 11:54

@Mackmacking I am, I stand corrected.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 11:55

It is shared by researchers in the field

*some (the captured ones).

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:56

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:53

They should receive better education then

Why? It makes more sense to call women who identify as men, "trans women". I'm all for it.

No because they transitioned to women.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:57

Women transitioned to women? What are you talking about? I think you're getting tangled up in your own jargon there, @Mackmacking

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 11:59

I'm all for it too. Let's change the language to suit us. It makes more sense as there's no such thing as transitioning. Men cannot transition into women and women can't transition into men, no matter what body modification you do, or what clothes you wear, how you wear your hair, what drugs you take or what you call yourself.

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 12:00

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 11:57

Women transitioned to women? What are you talking about? I think you're getting tangled up in your own jargon there, @Mackmacking

Trans women are people who were assigned male, but transitioned to women. Thats why they are trans women and not trans men

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 12:01

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 11:59

I'm all for it too. Let's change the language to suit us. It makes more sense as there's no such thing as transitioning. Men cannot transition into women and women can't transition into men, no matter what body modification you do, or what clothes you wear, how you wear your hair, what drugs you take or what you call yourself.

They can and do. Legally, anatomically, socially. There is nothing you can do about it.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/05/2024 12:03

They can and do. Legally, anatomically, socially. There is nothing you can do about it.

They can't. Legal fiction is still fiction. Facts are facts.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 12:03

They don't actually though, @Mackmacking. People know what sex they are. You can't change sex.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/05/2024 12:06

Trans women are people who were assigned male, but transitioned to women. Thats why they are trans women and not trans men

But I was talking about female people who some people think of as "trans women". I don't believe in gender identity ideology so it's all equally meaningless to me.

And as an HCP you know that babies' sex isn't decided at their birth, don't you?

Oncetwicethreetimesalady · 16/05/2024 12:06

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 11:41

They already did it. The changes you see are the result of those consultations. Personally in the trust i was in, when we did it in about 2014-2015, we advertised a focus group where people could have input. It waa advertised in our SH clinics, fertility clinic, gynae and maternity clinics, newsletter, magazine, emails etc. Only a few people who wanted change turned up. Nobody who opposed these changes. There werent droves of non-person Other women coming to say how bad it all is for women.

A few started to care when the Mail picked it up as an issue and that was it. It has all been a recemt media craze to be so upset about it. Nobody cared before. Most people still dont care.

my dd is doing her a levels right now - I’ve been testing her on methods in sociological research. She would be able to pull apart a single focus group, in a small part of a single trust where as you say “only a few people who wanted change turned up”.

it doesn’t justify large parts of medical literature disproportionately imposing a “people with …” suffix to the word woman and not doing the same to the word man.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 16/05/2024 12:07

Mackmacking · 16/05/2024 12:01

They can and do. Legally, anatomically, socially. There is nothing you can do about it.

Anatomically? Wow you mean they’ve found a way to change the pelvis on the left to the one on the right??

“Women and birthing people. “
Oncetwicethreetimesalady · 16/05/2024 12:07

Plus the focus group was 10 years ago. A LOT has changed in that decade.