Why are you married?

[Aquarius1234]

Why did you bother getting married?

Do you feel one or both of you are insecure hense the marriage?

Do you feel superior to those in long term relationships but not married?

1. We wanted to make a promise to each other in front of our relatives, closest friends, and God, that we would be together.
2. I would not have children with someone who is unwilling to make that promise with me.
3. Once we had children, the dreaded Gender Pay Gap became very real. Even though our children are now teenagers, I am still miles behind with salary, career progression, and pension. If the worst happens, as a spouse, I have rights to compensate for what I missed out on career-wise during my childbearing years.

This is a strange thing to say. What is there to be embarrassed about?

Judging from this and your other posts, I think you protest too much. If you are so content with being unmarried, why would you want to know why other people get married, or think they were looking down on you for being single? You seem quite resentful of married people. Why?

I realise that a lot (not all) singles would like to be married, but it doesn't happen for them, especially if they find themselves in a long-term relationship with someone who doesn't want to marry them. They cover their hurt and disappointment by pretending to themselves and others that they don't want to be married, or some nonsense about feeling embarrassed about being married.

Are you one of those singles OP?

It was important for both of us regarding future family (dh adopted my ds). We liked the idea of marriage, both sets of our parents were married 50+ yrs.
Not once did we do it for financial/security,never ever gave it a moment's thought until I read the reasons on here.
Def dont think we are superior to non married long term couples. We have a friend who isn't married but has been with her Dp nearly 30yrs. I think its great because at that time it would probably have been socially expected but they chose not to and did what they wanted.

It isn't pointless though. If something happens to either of you, by being married you are next of kin. Also in the event of death, you may not receive any share of pension unless you are married.

I'm guessing of course, but I get the impression that people have given you a hard time about being unmarried at some point. If that's the case, it's their issue not yours.

We all have different set ups and what is right for some won't be right for others. If you do decide you want to marry later, that doesn't mean you were wrong to be unmarried earlier. The most important thing is to do whatever suits you. I hope that worrying about what people think (whether that's when you're unmarried or married) doesn't impact any decision you make.

I am happy to be married, however I regret allowing my family and in laws bully me into a large cringeworthy wedding to impress their friends. That was definitely a mistake!

I met him on a night out. I was dating a man I met on tinder (turned out to be an idiot) and they knew each other. Then I would see him around, he added me on Facebook and then he asked me out after tinder man was long gone.