Why are you married?

[Aquarius1234]

Why did you bother getting married?

Do you feel one or both of you are insecure hense the marriage?

Do you feel superior to those in long term relationships but not married?

It was easier and quicker than drawing up equivalency documents to replicate as far as possible the legal and financial aspects of marriage, and we were having a child. We didn’t invite or tell anyone for years. It was just a handy contract.

Why are you asking?

All the usual legal and romantic reasons!

Why on earth would a married person feel "superior" to someone in a long term relationship?!
What an odd question.

We married for religious and legal reasons.

Why would we feel superior? It's marriage, something anyone can easily do for a small fee. Nothing special about it really.

I have often felt that vibe. Everyone knows the type of people I'm talking about.

I am unmarried by choice for legal, romantic, financial and practical reasons.

Why are you asking?

You sound petty and insecure yourself if the reasons you put forward for getting married are what you actually believe is why people do.

Do you feel superior to those you think NEED a spouse because you have decided you don't?

One day you may meet someone and decide they are the right person and want to be married to them. And then you will know why.

At the time, it was the only way for the Army to recognise a relationship. Giving rights to family accommodation l, death in service benefits, different allowances etc.
It also means DD is British by Birth, not British by Descent, which could have implications in the future for her.

And I kind of like him.

I got married because I love the man I married 20 years ago and we wanted to be married before we started a family plus the legal protection. No I don't feel superior to non married couples as it's none of my business

I think your own insecurities are talking here. I don’t think most people have a dual track idea about superiority of longterm cohabiting vs marital relationships. We were together for almost 20 years before we married, and a good friend only recently said something that made me realise she didn’t know we’d married.

I honestly don’t know this type of person. Why would anyone judge such a thing?

Weird questions! I'm married because I love my husband and he asked me and I wanted to marry him so I said yes! I couldn't care less about other people's civil status! (Unless they're deeply unhappy or in a DV situation, I don't mean to sound flippant about that.)

Everyone? I have never met anyone like this. Perhaps you aren't married and that weird vibe is actually your own insecurity...

Because we loved each other and, for us, marriage was the natural thing to do.

I don’t care what other people do.

Still crazy about that man.

I have often felt that vibe. Everyone knows the type of people I'm talking about.

You feel that way because you are insecure.

I love my husband and he loves me, we wanted to make a commitment to one another, we wanted to celebrate and bring together our two massive families with a great big party, I wanted an excuse for a giant cake, take your pick.

Also more practically myself and our child have more legal protections should the worst happen.

I am not at all insecure and I don't think my husband is either, we're very happy together. I don't know anyone who got married due to insecurity, nor anyone who feels superior due to being married. My mam and dad are celebrating 50 years together soon and they never officially married. Their relationship is one of the strongest and most steadfast I know, I certainly don't feel better than them because I have a ring on my finger!

Because we wanted to be. Married three years after we met, now 25 years wed, only another 31 years to go before we match my parents' current record. 😅 Couldn't give a toss what others do.

I married him for his money 😉

We could talk about Men with wedding bands all day long. Or that like multiple marriages.

No me neither.

We lived together for 10 years before we married and no-one looked down on us.

So many reasons that aren't romantic.

Essentially we married for the legal reasons.
Who is that feels they are "superior" ?
If it's family just tell them to shut up.
Anyone else - how do they actually know?
I know many families where I just assumed the couple were married (been together years, mortgage, kids, dog etc) but it turned out they weren't.

Should we have asked your permission first?
Is this the new thing to be offended by? Others being married?

What an utterly bizarre thread!

If you know people that grate on you or make you feel inferior, I strongly suggest getting some new people in your life.

I got married because it was expected of me, it was the only way my parents would ever be proud of me or think that I had ever achieved anything.

It was a complete disaster and bloody hard work to get divorced!

Sister didn't marry and still remains the apple of my parents eyes so 🤷🏼‍♀️