Why are you married?

[Aquarius1234]

Why did you bother getting married?

Do you feel one or both of you are insecure hense the marriage?

Do you feel superior to those in long term relationships but not married?

We got married for our daughter and for tax. Tiny wedding, legal stuff sorted in case of the worst

Am I right in thinking being married is more on the Conservative side.
( don't follow politics)

Legally it firmed up my position in DH life. A friend of my father died of stomach cancer at 52. He and his partner never married and nor did they write a will and even though nobody else made a claim on his estate it took over a year for it all to get settled.

Are you trying to wind people up?

Not in my case, but, like you, I don't follow politics either.

So weird. This is definitely your problem, not married people. I barely wear my rings so don't look married anyway. My husband always wears his. I imagine IRL people who know you think you're bitter and insecure.

I have no idea which type of people you are talking about.
I married because I wanted to. Either get married or don't, it's not really a big deal to anyone other than the individuals concerned

OP I have experienced the 'smug marrieds' as being married often confers privilege. Most people are unaware of their privilege so are not going to acknowledge it.

No, am not remotely conservative. But it makes sense to protect yourself. You should be thinking in those terms tbh. Not in terms of what it looks like.

You're trolling us now, aren't you? FYI I don't wear a wedding ring, as metal jewellery of any sort (or bands; not sure why you corrected yourself there) brings my skin out in a nasty rash. And why should I worry myself whether or not strangers are aware what my marital status is? They're strangers.

Perhaps I've watched too many dramas / films over the years and growing up, regarding the showing weddings rings on hands.

Finances, tax and immigration. I don't wear a ring and didn't change my name.

I changed my name because I hated my dadt name, and I wanted the same name as my daughter. But they were all very specific reasons.

Perhaps you should stop confusing film and television with real life, then. 🙂

@MonsteraMama

kindly, you might like to persuade your DPs that life will be a lot easier and financially richer for them , or at least whichever is the longer liver partner, if they get married. ( because presumably they are in their seventies? )

Omg. You're right. Your insight has made me realise I agreed to marry dh because I was insecure and I now feel vastly superior to unmarried couples.
I'd love to hear more of your wisdom

We're not married because of reasons.

We're not really young though.

We just don't want to, what other people do is fine.

I've become someone's best man this year, which I feel slightly weird about 😅

Now I'm confused. Should I be wearing a wedding ring or not?

What a bizarre thread.

Because of the way we felt (and still feel) about each other. We wanted to make a formal commitment - only a very small ceremony in a register office - our choice. Now been married 50 years.
One son married, the other with his partner - not married. We regard both 'other halves' as our daughters.

Your posts are strange, OP. Read up on the legal protections that the legal contract gives. The rings are exchanged during the ceremony as symbols.
It's neither conservative nor the opposite, it's a contract.

Do you struggle with understanding the difference between real life and tv? Don’t you have actual friends, married or cohabiting, whom you could ask?

Not sure of your age to know how much older than me you may be (or may not be) I’m 40, my partner is 38, we have been together 11 years in July, we have 4 kids together and I have one from a previous relationship, we get married on our 11 year anniversary, this is because we love each other, no other reason, bonus though I will have the same last name as 4 of my kids and my oh

Agreed.
Also, love aside, spouses have more legal rights in most parts of the world, compared to co-habiting couples. Nothing to 'feel superior' about. It's just the law.
I'm foreign and have worked in big corporations which move people about, so maybe this doesn't apply to the average UK citizen.
But visas, immigration, repatriation, relocation packages etc usually include spouses, without question. Not always long-term partners. Even if you have children.

Marriage is effectively a contract between two people, with the State as a third party enforcer. You are telling the Government that you're in a committed partnership with the other person.

Well, I suppose that depends which films or television dramas you're watching, doesn't it? 🤷‍♀️

Got married 34 years ago because we wanted to. We wanted the legal commitment.