Son has changed his mind about class party - doesn't want to go

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Wwyd. Came out with an invitation weeks ago and he said he wanted to. Announced now he doesn't know the child very well and he doesn't want to go. Turns out none of his close friends are going either. Feel rude not going but feel I can't force him?

I wouldn’t make him go.

If it's today and he said he was going then he goes. It's bloody rude not to. Imagine being on the other side of this as the birthday kid who's class don't show up to his party. It's a good lesson for him to learn.

I'd make him go. Once you commit to doing something, it's rude to pull out.

I'd explain he'd be upset if it was his party and people pulled out at the last minute.

They'll have paid so unless he's ill I'd take him it's rude as parties cost a small fortune don't they

He has to go obviously.

That's fair enough, I will have a word. He was off school Friday so was debating the illness route at worse case scenario but do feel for the other parents obviously

He should go but I suspect from the tone of your posts that wasn’t the answer you were looking for

I would make him go. If you have RSVP’d you can’t just not turn up that would be incredibly rude. He’ll probably have fun when he gets there anyway

That's fair enough he was just upset this morning so didn't want to feel like I was forcing him. maybe by this afternoon he will feel better about it

I'd make him go. It's reapply shit for the parents to have a load of last minute changes on the day. I always really feel for the parents on the class WhatsApp when there are loads of ahit last minute excuses. Ans it was ahit to accept an invite in the first place that was conditional on his other friends going. I'd tell him we didn't have to stay for ages if he wasn't having fun though. At 6 you will probably be able to persuade him with promises of cake and a bouncy castle or haatever they've got on

I'd explain why he should go, but give him the option to tap out after a bit if he really isn't having fun. In all likelihood he'll enjoy it and won't want to come home.

Erm yes there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you don’t want to go, you don’t want to go. I wouldn’t force myself and definitely wouldn’t force my child

I think that's a good compromise actually. Go as planned, offer to stay with him and say if he's really not feeling great we can leave a little earlier. I'm sure once he's there and charging around he will forget about even not wanting to go.

It’s really rude to just not go because he doesn’t feel like it.
That family has put time and money into organising it. That little 6 year old is excited. What if all his class mates decide they can’t be arsed? Heartbreaking.
Take him and stay with him if necessary. It’s only for a couple of hours.

So you’d be happy if it happened to your child? All his friends just ‘didn’t want’ to go to a party you paid for and he’s left alone in a hall with a party for one???
Don’t commit to things if you can’t be arsed to turn up!

As a parent organising an all class party it wouldn't bothered me at all if you cancelled and a village hall is rarely a cost per head thing.
But he will probably enjoy it when he's there and maybe be sad he missed out when the whole class are talking about it tomorrow so I would take him, stay with him and leave early if needed

It’s a lesson for him. He agreed to go so he’s going.
Ask him how he would feel if people dropped out of his party last minute. His place and food etc will have been paid for.
Id be making him go. He will have a good time regardless

Erm yes there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you don’t want to go, you don’t want to go. I wouldn’t force myself and definitely wouldn’t force my child

There’s a lot wrong with it: you don’t make a commitment to other people, allow them to go to expense on your behalf etc and then blow them out without a very good reason. It’s rude and it’s inconsiderate. If you honestly take that view of “I don’t go anywhere I don’t want to”, then you shouldn’t ever accept an advance invitation.

I'd take him to the party. As others have said, it's rude on the hosts. Imagine if 5 or 10 other children just woke up and couldn't be arsed to make the effort. Totally unfair.
Will you be staying there with him?

I'd make him go - the parents will have paid for him. He said yes so it's a lesson in manners and kindness

Good for his social skills if his main friends are not there and he has to talk to others.

I have had to put my foot down and insist my kids go to a party they've accepted an invite for. Usually it's because they are feeling a bit lazy, it's the weekend and they want to stay home. None of them have ever not had a great time once there.
Just remind him about the party bags 😂
Sometimes kids and adults just need to get of their arses and do it, 9 times out of 10 your glad you did.

He should go . Birthday child will be incredibly upset if there are last minute cancellations and no shows. Parents will have done party bags.

💯 needs to go if party is today

Mine would be going. Really shitty to drop out last minute and teaches your kid to be selfish, thoughtless and mean.
hive him the option to tap out an hour or so into the party. I bet he won’t though.

Thanks everyone 🙂