to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

But given she needs you to go to go herself then she needs to see that it is in her interest to swap.
have you told her that she can’t go without you?

It is though if she can’t go without the op

Without knowing the destination we don’t know. Op said they need to fly so sounds like it is abroad. For example Amsterdam is still saying that the lead booker is required

I agree with this. It was your code, it’s your account, they’re still “your” tickets in your possession. Her boyfriend may have paid, but she didn’t so she has no standing (a small claims court just requires “being made whole” and you’d be reimbursing her).If she won’t swap you, you sell all 4, reimburse her for what her boyfriend paid and keep any extra money (if there is any? Or do you have to sell for same price?) for yourself.

But really, tell her time’s up. It’s either you have the seated seats or nobody goes, and see what her answer is. At least give her the choice first. It’s shitty that she won’t just do it as a good friend, but enh.

Sell your tickets. Your friend is no friend. Save your money for something else. TS is a sharp-faced middle-of-the-road grifter who wears shiny sequined outfits.

Nope, the ex bought them and let the friend keep them, so they're the friends tickets.

Oh yeah possibly, however it seems that the lead booker thing isn't being enforced, it doesn't seem like it has been enforced in Paris.

I see this very differently. You chose to buy standing front tickets then a separate purchase was made for friends tickets at a different time meaning a different scenario and she paid for the seated as that's what you got her. Basically 2 very different transactions even tho the same code so the agreed arrangement being broken is your fault if you regress in it and that makes you the bad friend saying here use this code then retracting the plan. You can ask if out .of kindness she would allow you the seats but to refuse the tickets or not go or go huffy because she won't is very petty as that wasn't the agreed deal

You suggest you and her could use the seated tickets and her BF and your DH can use the standing ones.

I think you and friend in seated and and sell the standing tix ( you said her bf doesn't like Tay anyway?) Your DH can stay home and have an excellent weekend using the $$$$$ you get from selling the tix.

You'll have to be blunt with her and explain if you don't use one of the seated tickets, the whole thing is off, no one's going!

I’d be really blunt with her now seeing as the lead booker needs to be present.

Not in all countries it hasn't, and the OP says they have to go abroad for the show.

You’re not being entitled asking your friend to swap, but you’re being a bit entitled expecting the venue to do anything re: accessibility because you’re pregnant. Loads of people at the concert will be pregnant and loads of people will have already purchased the accessibility tickets! If all you need is a regular seated ticket then you would be very unreasonable to take an accessibility one, even if they had any left.

Apparently the transfer option is becoming available the week of the concert. I hope you get sorted and don’t need it though. Good luck!

If you hadn't got your friend the tickets and only had the ones you purchased, what would you do then? Not go and sell tour tickets?

I think this is a non issue. Tell ber you can't go if standing and therefore she can't either. If she doesn't want to swap then neither of you go. However, you should offer to pay the difference in price for sure

I really hope accessibility get back you and sort for you op

Taylor Swift’s music isn’t remotely cheesy pop! Listen to her last 3 albums. Yes she’s had SOME pop hits over a prolific career but she’s got a huge range of styles a lyrical genius. I’m 43 and have been listening to her new album on repeat for the past fortnight. No idea what it is categorised as but i love it, google says “minimalist synth-pop and folk-pop album with rock and country influences”

OP I feel your pain. I bought four tickets for my daughter and 3 friends and I’ve been lumbered with selling one and recouping friend’s lost costs of VIP ticket price and lost flight cost. It’s fucking stressful as I don’t want to feel responsible for them being out of pocket but it’s on my ticketmaster account and I have to be responsible for transfer! I think they will be transferable a few days beforehand , that’s what I heard happened with Paris.

What would you expect accessibility to do?

it’s says specifically uk and Ireland this applies but not elsewhere. If the OP is going to Dublin then yes she can not attend and friend will get in. If it is another country she might not

And pregnancy wouldn’t (and shouldn’t) be something that gets you accessibility seats when they are in short demand

Have you told her this!? This sounds like a definitive answer