to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

Very Entitled and i cant believe some people are agreeing with you

Just ask her directly to swap with you. (And then tell us what she says!)

Kind of shitty that she hasn't offered but whatever, people are tone deaf / selfish.

If you’ve got front standing tickets then your friend shouldn’t need to get there 4 hours early unless she wants to be at the very front (which it doesn’t sound like she cares about). Turning up 5 minutes before it starts will still give her a better view than most people.

1. I wouldn't be going to a concert if past 3 months pregnant. I was advised not to by my consultant as they've very recently discovered that extremely loud noises during pregnancy, such as concerts, can damage baby's hearing.

Before I get told by people on here that this is nonsense, just a quick google confirms this.

1. Am I the only one stunned by the number of grown adults going to teeny pop concerts? Taylor Swift is aimed at pre-teen/teen girls. I would side-eye anyone over, say, 17-ish listening to Taylor Swift or any other cheesy pop.

You're being dramatic. You won't need to stand for 8 hours. If you must get there 4 hours early bring a cushion and sit down.
Or - just do what you clearly want to do since she can't go without you and sell all four. You won't get much validation for it here though

I don’t think Ticketmaster will help. They’d expect anyone who needs accessible to carefully book that, not to expect to get their ticket changed. Your friend is being pretty silly since she needs you there- hi, ticket master wont do anything about the tickets as I have seated tickets. I either have to use the seated ticket or I can’t go. Presumably you’d prefer the other tickets to not going?

YABU. Your choice to get pregnant.

Omg I am so so sorry to read this 🙏. How is she managing?

Why are you asking her? They’re your tickets, you have access to them (I presume she doesn’t) and she can’t go without you. I’d be saying something like “I’ve spoken to Ticketmaster and I’m going to have to take the seated tickets - you can have the standing ones”. Luckily they sound like they’re good ones so I don’t really see what the problem is?

I think YABU, she didn’t take ‘your’ tickets, it didn’t sound like you were trying to get 2 more anyway. I think it would have been nice for her to offer you the spare ticket though when she and her boyfriend split up.

I had Billy Joel tickets for Hyde park then found out I was pregnant and would be very heavily so by then and enquired about accessible tickets and they’d sold out and all they could suggest was I could use the “quiet area” which was nowhere near the stage or procure a wheelchair as that was allowed!

So in the end I gave my ticket away so you might not have much luck trying to get accommodated somewhere else at the gig!!

Surely just say 'look Jane., we need to sort this out .I won't be able to stand I'm afraid! I will have to swap tickets over.Im sure you understand."
Surely if she's a good friend she will! 09

So if the lead booker has to be present, how could you sell them as you wouldn't be present with the new purchaser?

@EnglishBluebell we are going to do our best to get her there.

We hoped for accessibility for the venue Liverpool but sold out or move to London venue closer to home.

The 4hr journey will be tough on her but she is a huge Taylor Swift fan and it's been keeping her going all through treatment. She's determined to go.

Our Young lives vs Cancer social worker did her best but it was just a no can't help, sell your tickets and oh by the way best wishes to all our customers with cancer.

If your friend continues to be a CF I'll buy the tickets 😂

I don't understand why you can't be direct.

"Ticketmaster can't help and as I'll be 7 months pregnant, there are only two options- I take the seated tickets or I'll have to cancel- which works best for you"

They are her tickets. She isn't obliged to give them to you because your circumstances have changed, that's not her fault.

Hang on, I read this first thinking you were asking her to swap tickets and days and locations (even countries) with your friend.

But you have tickets to the same event at the same time and location, but she won’t swap with your standing tickets (which most people would dream of anyway) for the same event with her very heavily pregnant best friend???

Your friend is OUTRAGEOUSLY selfish and unreasonable.

The transferring of name on tickets can be done in the two weeks prior to the event.

But don't tell her that though

But she can’t go without OP 😂

Well technically they're not- they're in OPs name and sitting in her account and bought with her access code.

OP- if just tell her the she's having the standing ones and that's that. She didn't even pay for them anyway.

OK, so favours don't come with obligations but you'd have to be a right selfish fucker to not offer to switch.

Doesn't sound like much of a friend OP. Is she usually this selfish?

Why? If you were trying to get pregnant why buy standing tickets to a concert in the first place then expect someone to swap with you?

@JollyHostess101 - I think you'd actually have been Ok in Hyde Park. It's so spread out and lots of room to sit down etc. can easily get to the loo..
Taylor Swift in a stadium would be a totally different ballgame.

Why is it selfish? It was OP's choice to get pregnant!