to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

lol I’m sure the partners would love that 😂😂😂 Do either of them even like TS? Not saying it’s not a solution but that has made me laugh 😁

If there are four of you going, why don't you and your friend have the seats and the two men stand. No perhaps what you want but it would save the unpleasantness. If they don't want to stand, perhaps you and your friend go and sell the two more expensive standing seats.

Sorry, cross post!!

You’re a massive CF

Friend's choice not to buy her own tickets, with her own code. Oh, she didn't get a code? Too bad, too sad. You get what you get and you don't throw a fit.

You need a proper chat with your friend being clear about the fact that you want the seated tickets now

See what she says

Even if you CAN transfer the tickets, I would only be willing to transfer the standing tickets and keep the seated ones for myself. It was YOU who did all the work and YOU who got the code, so YOU should get first choice of tickets.

If your friend doesn't like that way, then she can miss the concert and you can resell the standing tickets.

Ignore anyone telling you anything about what your friend deserves. She's lucky to be able to go at all and without you, she'd be listening to TS with earbuds.

Well, the friend cannot access the tickets because they are in the OP's name. I think that makes them the OP's tickets! LOL!

Try reading the thread instead of just making up a scenario.

I hope everything works out for your daughter and she enjoys the TS concert.

Is she going to the Liverpool or London concert?

I also think time to be very clear here. It’s very unreasonable to expect a heavily pregnant woman to stand 4-6 hours in a crowded stadium. Would people’s response be the same about standing on a 4 train ride?

You got the tickets, they are yours in name and everything, you need her to swap. These are the hottest tickets in Europe this year, if she can’t swap, you can sell them easily within 2minutes. So be clear or otherwise she can stay home.

You haven't actually asked, only hinted and implied there might be other options. But also, don't ask, just tell. I need to be there for you to access the tickets so I'll have to take the seated ones as I can't stand, ticket master can't do anything. The alternative is none of us go. (And when you then cancel your trip I will sell standing tickets and still go using the seated tickets)

Don't feel bad, just do it, why would you risk missing out just to make a friend who's being unhelpful feel a bit better.

Be assertive.

Say you need the seated seats or you can't go.

This is a clear case of Tell not Ask!

Be direct OP and stop pussy footing around.

Honestly, it all is a storm in a teacup as this is the only solution in any case, there’s no choice if you all want to go.

But, that is a choice of the OP. If I were her, I would not transfer any tickets except for the standing ones. OP went to the trouble to get them, so she gets first choice of what she wants.

Though she should probably see if her DH and friend's BF would use the standing tickets and let the girls have the seated.

But, it's OP's choice which tickets she wants and she has no obligation to transfer any tickets she doesn't wish to transfer. She can always give her friend's ex-BF his money back.

YANBU, she sounds entitled and selfish tbh. The fact she didn't even pay for her own tickets and only got them because of you, the cheek. A good friend would offer her seat to her heavily pregnant friend who helped her in the first place. If anything it's an upgrade for her.

Sorry at this point I’d just say “unfortunately we have to swap”.

As you say they’re all tickets in your name.

It’s poor form if you’ve asked outright and she keeps referring you to accessibility.

Be clear that you have already and it’s not helping so you have to swap.

Do the partners even want to go? I doubt it.
Sell the standing ones and you ansmd your friends take the seated tickets and enjoy the show?

Or contact the event and tell them you want to swap your tickets for seated. I'm sure plenty would jump at the chance to stand rather than sit.

I'd just say, when we go to Taylor swift I'm taking the seated tickets as I need them, you can have the standing ones,

Lol sorry not sure if this a serious post or not this made me laugh 💀😂 I have no strong feelings either way towards TS lol

The friend would be getting an upgrade so if anything the friend would pay OP the difference

When we went it Ed sheeran it said the same. My boyfriend went in a head of me as I had to do a bag search and no one stopped him even though tickets were in my name. Dont even think my id was checked. Obviously, it could be different for you

For goodness sake , be upfront and direct!

“Friend: I cannot go to this if I have to stand. I have to be there for these tickets to be valid. So the logical thing is that we swap tickets, is that ok with you?”

But she wouldn’t have them if the friends ex didn’t buy them and pay for them. It’s quite a blurry one

If you're swollen and waddling now I honestly think health wise you should sell the tickets if you can't sit down. Have you checked the average temperature for this country at the time you will be there.

Check your insurance for what happens if you become unwell. Carry that insurance to the concert. Make sure you have enough money on credit cards to pay for immediate care.

Baby's more important than Taylor Swift.

I think women sitting men standing is a good option. OP and friend are then together. OP's DH and friends DP can stand and whinge about it away from them!

But Op, you have to tell her that you need the seated ticket otherwise none of you will be going.