to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

The other thing you'll need to consider is that in the third trimester you could be suddenly unfit to fly. Then she'll also have 2 useless tickets.

Most stadiums have a couple of rows of seats reserved for standing tickets to have a sit down

But favours don't come with obligations. Why can't you see that you expecting someone to feel obligated to do something for you if you have done something for them?
Unless your pregnancy was unplanned, your situation is in your hands.

In that case it's a clear

Friend it's a straight swap or we all miss the gig. It's an ultimatum

She might still say no.

This is all a storm in a tea cup. If you don’t take the seats nobody can go. You let your friend know she can either stand or not go.

Alternatively, girls seated and the boys down the front.

Have you bought them via ticketmaster? Or similar? Needs to be original purchaser I.e. present on night with ID to get entry anyway, so assuming it's on your account the it s up to you

hmm, well, I can run marathons, but not stand for any time at all - just saying

I went to V festival when nearly 8 months pregnant. You’ll be fine but yes she should swap

Just tell her this.

Hi friend, because we have two seated tickets they won't help me because they expect me to use those, so we will have to swap tickets and you can have my ones in x area and I'll have yours. Looking forward to seeing TS! It's going to be brilliant! Xx

Don't ask her, tell her. They are in your name and she didn't pay for them, she's being a CF if she says anything.

It's standing at Taylor Swift not being in the mosh pit at Cradle of Filth, your friend will cope.

currently I have two seated tickets in my name meaning that Ticketmaster and the event won’t help me, because I can use those!

I think its time for a blunt conversation: friend, I finally got through to someone and they won't help me as, according to them, I have a seated ticket. The further along I'm getting, the more I realise standing for four hours isn't going to work. So either you swap with me, or I can't go - and, as you know, that means you're not going to be able to get in, so you're not going either.

I absolutely don't think you're being entitled by the way. It's not as if she's not getting to go.

She doesn’t sound like a great friend if that’s her response.

Id refund the boyfriend the price he paid, take the seated ones for yourself and sell the other 2.

So if they are all in your name in the app then I would just take them for yourself and tell her you’re using those ones. If she wants the standing ones she can have them but otherwise just sell them, she didn’t buy them herself anyway!
if they’re in your name and your app she does not have a leg to stand on here so I don’t know why she is trying to make it difficult

Thanks this is probably the way.

Also, the standing is going to be for about 8 hours as the entry time slot is 4 hours before the concert starts. I feel incredibly guilty asking her to do that when she wouldn’t really want to.

It will be the last resort. I’m praying that they last people I’ve emailed will help me with accessibility, so I’m just preparing myself.

You’re a better woman than me 😂 I am swollen and waddling, luckily seems healthy so far

Yes Ticketmaster and we can’t do anything with name changes etc as I’ve been trying to send them to her for a while.

You need to spell it out to her and be crystal clear. She’s being an arse but I do think you need to be clearer. If she still is being awkward, then she is BVU.

I had swollen ankles in my 3rd trimester. I wasn’t allowed to stand for long periods of time. (Dr said)

I'd be suprised if Ticketmaster will help.
My DD was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer recently and Ticketmaster won't assist with accessibility or changing venue. They just say sorry sold out sell your tickets.

She doesn't sound like a very good friend.

Is it a Ticketmaster thing or a Taylor Swift thing? I went to Olivia Rodrigo yesterday (tix bought though Ticketmaster) and it says that the original purchaser does not have to be present, so if it was a gift or if you've rebought tickets, all you need is ID of the original purchaser (a photocopy of their id would be fine)

It says specifically on the Taylor Swift tickets - it’s a lead booker event so the named person must be present.

There is no info on how we transfer yet, all options say unavailable- there’s a reddit thread of people wondering this because they’ve sold their tickets

That’s absolutely horrible, I’m sorry!

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable to ask her to swap. She didn't even pay for them so to refuse to swap to standing would be very churlish, especially as she can't go unless she accepts that she'll be standing.

It's not leadbooker anymore, that was changed a while back.

https://help.ticketmaster.co.uk/hc/en-us/articles/16284744793361-Taylor-Swift-The-Eras-Tour