To hate this current trend that girls should be raised to be fierce and fiery but boys shouldn't??

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Now I'm not saying one gender is better than the other. But as a mother of sons I feel worried for their future because it seems this notion is currently being pushed that girls can get away with being drama queens but boys need to keep their feelings to themselves and pander to them or they might grow up to be abusive men? What happened to equal rights? I don't condone violence of any sort but this is totally unfair that boys shouldn't be able to do what girls do in terms of sticking up for themselves.

But at no point in human history have we as a species managed to raise both our boys and girls to be assertive in a healthy way. It's not surprising that parents may do their best to counteract the messaging from society and history for both boys and girls.

It isn't. It's just a very old sexist trope.

The behaviour that gets girls called drama queens is praised as assertive in boys. As a woman that surely can't have escaped your attention.

Some girls are "spoilt". Some boys are "spoilt". Most often by their parents in both cases.

On a societal level, I have no idea what you're talking about. Unless you think it's "spoilt" for girls to be brought up knowing that they don't have to put up with sexism and misogyny any more?

This. 💯
The way forward isn't to believe that girls have it better or easier than boys.

In that instance yes! Boys and Girls are both capable of being dramatic

As you’re asking:
you are being sexist by using the term drama queen
you are being sexist by failing to acknowledge the patriarchal framework your boys have been born into
you are being sexist by drawing a comparison between the sexes and asking for ‘equality’ by which you mean ‘the same’ and not a consideration of the experience of women and girls which is different from the male experience.

Telling your son to kick the girl back (if true) is just plain bad parenting in my view and nothing to do with sex and gender. You must have known that he would get in trouble for kicking?

How come there's no expression "drama king"?

How many times have you called poorly behaved boys drama queens?

Quite. It's not a reasonable response.

This. In the real world men have absolutely no trouble speaking up for themselves and expressing their POVs. Sometimes forcibly.

What else am I supposed to do? The teacher has done nothing, it was a last resort, what is he supposed to do just take that shit? Everyone needs to stick up for themselves. He goes into school every day with a tummy ache because he has anxiety about this girl bullying him.

And anyone who's seen a football match knows there should be...

I know what you mean OP. I think people are offended by your use of “drama Queen.”
My son is 26 but I started noticing this when he started primary school.
My son got pushed over at sports day in reception class by a little girl. All he had done was to stop in the sack race and help her up after she’d fallen.
Several mothers in the audience started saying things like “Oooh she’s sassy, doesn’t need a man to help her.”
Even teachers used to smirk at the girls being bossy to boys. They encouraged it in fact.
I have witnessed it with friends and family who have teenaged daughters too.
I also find it worrying and sexist.

I wouldn’t be telling so many people you’re actively teaching your son to physically harm girls. You continue reporting to the school, you don’t instruct a child to attack another child.

Oh my god, you're right!

This is exactly, what I'm talking about and it's encouraged on social media. Hate it.

"girls being bossy"
What does that mean? It's a negative expression used to stop girls and women from speaking up and speaking out because it's perceived not as assertiveness or being self protecting.

This is exactly, what I'm talking about and it's encouraged on social media. Hate it.

This.

Fucking hell, you don't tell him to kick another child back.

You look at the behaviour policy, you meet the teacher, you set your reasonable demands in line with the policy e.g. moving her away, her being monitored closer at break time etc, and point out where the policy has not been followed or the need for escalation. You set a clear boundary that if it happens again you will be meeting head teacher and if it remains unresolved then you escalate to the Board, Ofsted, your MP, local authority, papers, whatever.

You, as the parent, deal with it. You don't put it back on son son. All you've taught him is that mum doesn't have his back and its his problem to sort through violence.

2 boys - 30 and 19, one daughter 16 - don’t recognise what you’re saying. Not the case for mine. My daughter is definitely not a drama Queen so maybe why

What is encouraged on social media?
I'm not on any of these sites apart from this one, but I find it hard to believe that it's just one hive mind of female supremacists.

Boys are never bossy are they. Bossy is negative. Boys get to just be the boss.

Yes, that's the negative part of all this.