Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

[Sugarandmoresugar10]

I had a first date with someone yesterday after work, it's someone I've already met as a friend of a friend, and we've always got on very well/I felt chemistry.
The date was about 2 hours, a drink and very quick bite to eat. Conversation flowed super well, we had a good laugh. I wasn't sure if I felt attracted to him if I'm honest, but I have felt that attraction previously so I'm willing to give it a try.

So he made comments about wanting to do it again, I agreed, and I sent a casual, good to see you, hope you got back ok. The convo naturally ended .

Wondering if I should hint at meeting him again? There are a ton of films coming out that we were both talking about that are out this month.
Should I text something like 'It'd be cool to see one of those films we talked about soon'

So to imply I want to see him, but it still lets him arrange details?
Or is that chasing/desperate?
I'm pretty paranoid now tbh, but I'm also paranoid that he got a vibe I didn't find him that attractive, even if I do like him.

I'm old. 30 years ago I'd have said no don't send, now I'd say life is too short, don't listen to the 'rules' and do what you feel

Good luck

No don't be too keen you've already spoke let him make the move men always like the chase imo

What if he's waiting for her to contact him?
I would send him the text maybe with a specific movie listed that you talked about.

I’m old fashioned and I vote to send it!

She’s initiated contact twice now since their date, with a lukewarm response from him.

What would contacting him for a third time achieve?

It's impossible to know his thoughts, but on average I think men would be happy to get a message like this. Maybe on this occasion he didn't like it for whatever reason. However, overall if you like a guy, it's the right play.

Send it and let us know!

i have given up reading signs and traditions, you will never know unless you try.

Cancel the cheque indeed. I'm losing my mind with this thread. Going hide it now!

He's not a mind reader send the text.
If a first date was good, go out again. And keep going out until it's no longer fun.

And if it doesn't work, be fond of your good times, learn from your mistakes and move on.

If he is a mature adult man looking for something more with you then he will apreciate the text and respond. If you send it and he backs off then at least you know he wasnt that into it or hes an idiot who likes to play games. Either way its a win win situation i knew my partner was the one when after our first date we had natural, no games, no waiting around for responses for three days, no cryptic messages. Just two adults who liked each other and were interested in a relationship making that happen. I would send the text

TO EVERYONE - SHE SENT THE TEXT AND HE'S NOT INTERESTED. gosh so frustrating those people still saying "send the text"

Surprise surprise she already sent it and let us know AGES ago. Hence why people tend to read updates before posting.

I want to know how these people unable to click on 'see all' or see the date of the OP are able to function in real world.

How many more of:
'go for it '
'send it, it's 2024'
'send it and good luck!' will we get before the thread is deleted? I think we might get to 40 pages actually 😂

I wouldn't text, no way. You text him after the date now I'd leave it for him to contact you.

Sorry to hear he wasn't interested 😔 his loss though. The person who is right for you is out there somewhere ❤️

Well at least you know now, OP

i don’t think you did anything wrong and I too am prone to overthinking, it’s a common female trait!

A dog on heat?? For being interested in someone?

So it's my fault because I didn't suggest a specific film and time, just the idea of seeing one of the films we mentioned?
Also surely I'd have had to look up the films to know that film X was showing at 8pm no?

@OldPerson You're coming off as deeply unpleasant and not that bright.

Read the OP's updates at least before commenting.

And comments like calling OP a 'dog on heat' are just revolting.

Are you sure you're allowed on the internet? I'm not sure you should be.

@OldPerson calling OP names like you do and belittling her emotions is totally unacceptable, you’re mean.
I m also of the advice of not making a move but there’s no reason to be so insulting and disrespectful.
So sorry, OP.

Rest assured I will never, ever be making a move again.

Noooo! Honestly you have done nothing wrong. Just head up and on to the next one.

The problem at my age is that there aren't many sadly :(

Because this one guy, who you weren't even sure if you fancied in the first place, didn't respond positively? He just wasn't the one for you. Forget about it! Go and have a nice a day - treat yourself to something you enjoy.