To be concerned with how my boyfriend acted when I was ill?

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I'm 30 and he's 31. I've been with him for 18 months, during which I never got ill. He even commented on this saying it's really good.

We've travelled to another continent for his work last week. I tagged along as he wanted me to but got very sick with sore throat and running nose 2 days ago.

We wake up at 6.30 for work (he goes to the office and I work from the hotel room we're staying). Last night we went to bed at 10.30pm and I woke up literally feeling suffocated at 10.45pm. He hadn't fallen asleep yet. I asked him if he could get me flu relief hot drink. It's the only thing that actually works for me.

He went out and got back saying the store 2 minutes away didn't have any medication. I tried to sleep but was really struggling so asked him if there was any pharmacy nearby. He Googled and said that the nearest one was half an hour away and couldn't walk. He did have a car but didn't offer to drive. I explicitly told him that I was really struggling and really needed some medicine. He wasn't doing anything so I asked him to at least phone reception for medication. The phone didn't work so he had to go downstairs. At that stage he was getting really mean to me, making comments like 'I want this over with, let's get you a medicine and be done' etc. It wasn't even 11pm at this point. He came back with one random loose tablet which had no expiry date on and I didn't know who touched it. Tablets never help me anyway so I told him not to worry. Made myself some tea and dozed off.

In the morning I found out that his foot was hurting. He didn't tell me this last night so I didn't know and it explains some of the irritable behaviour. I also understand maybe I was being slightly difficult as I was really physically struggling (first time in our relationship, I'm not a princess). Today he texted me at work to see how I am only once and when he got back I told him I didn't feel like having dinner and he went out alone to eat. Don't think he even asked me if I wanted anything. I find that lack of empathy/compassion a red flag. AIBU?

Hunter-gathering for your preferred brand of paracetamol, like real men 😂

Talk about over complicating an issue, it’s some paracetamol. I don’t have a husband that would think about this too deeply as I wouldn’t for him. Absolutely bizarre what people get worked up about.

@Goldenbear If you have paracetamol in your handbag it's got fuck all to do with your husband .

I have one like this at home, all about him and I could literally be dying and he would still expect me to look after the kids. Trust me, run now before it’s too late OP!

You don’t sound very compassionate tbh.

It has me doubting whether my thought processes are the same as others as I actually do not understand this point about the handbag. My Mum says that this world is leaving her behind (in terms of the thinking on things) I’m not that old, mid 40s (just) and am starting to feel the same!

@Italianita Do one .

Imagine the OP in childbirth! i pity her future midwives