No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

What a weird request!

Not really, I don't want to see nobbly knees. It's not a pub garden or a christening, it's a wedding- you wouldn't wear them in England wedding in a church?

I don’t think you’d be unreasonable to put ‘No shorts please’ at all, I’ve not been to many weddings admittedly but it’s not rude.

I think it would read better to specify long trousers rather than state no shorts.

You want people to go to Spain for your wedding and then you want them to be hot and uncomfortable?

well don’t you sound delightful!

seriously, if you wanted formal why did you chose a hot country 🤣

Saying no shorts is fine. Perhaps lose the caps 😁

Would you not just say lounge suits, that makes it clear, or as someone else said, long trousers.

If it's a formal venue, do they have a dress code?

Don't you run the risk of men in Speedos??

I don't think I've been this early to a bridezilla thread beofre. Any tips for a newbie?

YABU to be happy with women in knee length attire, but not men.

Nothing wrong with tailored shorts in hot weather.

If it's so posh why not make it Black Tie?
Ladies will still wear elegant dresses and men won't wear shorts!

Judging by MN though, prepare for the moaners.

Add ‘long trousers’ after the matching formal attire. Lose ‘no shorts’.

Absolutely fine. Just add, ‘no shorts at the ceremony please’ in brackets.

If you are having an evening party would it be ok for the men to change then?

Your guests are getting on a plane and taking time out of their lives to celebrate with you and give you the wedding you want. At least let them wear what they want. It would be really rude to tell people what they are and aren’t allowed to wear on their own holiday.

Indeed. It matters not what people in England do because it's rarely that warm that men would want to opt for shorts but having a wedding abroad and expecting your guests to not only pay through the nose to attend but also be uncomfortable just because you don't want to see their knees is next level batshit crazy behaviour.

Honestly not a hill to die on. Let people wear what they want. You will not notice or care on the day

I would never think to wear shorts to wedding, unless someone stated 'no shorts', then I would definitely be thinking about wearing them. 😂

Full length trousers is more polite than no shorts. If it is not actually the dress code for the venue I think YABU.

It seems unfair as the women can wear light dresses but the men have to be boiling hot in trousers.

How much are they forking out to go to your wedding? I have never known a cheap destination wedding so I think you need to suck it up and let them be comfortable.

What month is it?

You could have it on the wedding website with all the info for the day.

Having it on the invitation seems a bit off because you really shouldn’t have to say it.

I was at a summer wedding at the height of the hot weather in Greece last year (a Greek wedding with a good proportion of international guests) and nobody wore shorts. It also did not need to be said. Maybe there was something on the site about it being possible to change into something cooler for the disco.

This.

What a ridiculous request.

They are coming to celebrate YOU in a HOT country in summer and you want to ban shorts?!

I'd reconsider going after that audacity.

I went to a wedding last year during a heatwave. Formal attire but at least two of the men changed into shorts before they left for the ceremony because they were just too hot. I think you can request formal attire but really don't you want people to be happy and comfortable rather than have to leave because they're too hot? Is it an outdoor ceremony?

On one hand I’ve been to plenty of hotels/ restaurants in Spain where they’ve stipulated that trousers must be worn at dinner. So it’s not a totally uncommon request.

On the other hand I’m not sure I could be upset with my wedding guests wearing tailored shorts to a wedding either here or abroad. It’s not like they’re going to turn up in a full football kit.

could you not compromise and ask that trousers be worn during the day but the evening dress code is more relaxed?

Micromanaging much