No shorts at my wedding

[MumOfHals]

I'm getting married in Spain, in a really formal venue. I want to ask the men NOT to wear shorts for the ceremony, AIBU lol?

How can I word on the invite NO SHORTS?

Dress code:

Summer elegance for the ladies and matching formal attire for the men. NO SHORTS ( just doesn't flow well LOL)

Are women the allowed to show their knobbly knees 😂 or are they on a shirts and shirt dress ban too?

I wouldn't have a problem with shorts personally, it's hot! Plus these people will be spending considerable money to celebrate their day with you, isn't that the important thing here

I can promise you he wears shorts to the office. Longer length style

Also in a hot country and do not recall seeing shorts ever being worn at a wedding.

Just put formal dress code on the invite.

I don't think you can request no shorts unless you request full length dresses. I like tailored shorts. Can the women wear shorts?

You can't specify that women be elegant, some are not, nor advise men to match; what does that mean? Colour matched? Not very reasonable, nor attractive.
You can simply state 'full length trousers'.
I agree...shorts not suitable for wedding.

What about ladies dresses? Do they need to be ankle length to cover knobbly knees as well? Or is only men?

Google "wedding abroad menswear" and the vast majority of images in the shopping tab show men in smart shorts

Tailored shorts have definitely become more common of late for destination weddings. A family got married abroad in July, hot country, and I'd say 25% men wore shorts and 75% trousers. Most of the women wore above knee length/just above knee length dress. Do you have an issue with female guests having knees on show, or just the men?

I'm getting married soon and I couldn't give a toss what anyone wears..All I care about is that my guests have a great time and I will be happy they are there to celebrate with me and my partner.

Unless your venue has a strict policy on this, I think YABU to dictate what people wear.

Are you inviting the sort of people who would consider wearing shorts to a formal event?

I think it depends where and what time of day you're getting married. Lots of hotels have long trousers specified at the evening restaurant but that's OK as temperatures drop. If you are getting married on the beach at midday that wouldn't be fair. I'd personally rather have comfortable guests that don't smell of sweat (or feel self conscious that they smell).

But many women have knees out in dresses. In Scotland lots of men have knees out in kilts.
YABU to have a problem with knees?l 😂

“Full length trousers for men please”

It’s probably less the nobbliness of the knees than the hairy unkemptness of men’s knees you don’t want to see. They don’t feel the need to shave and moisturise them before getting them out, do they?

They’ll be as cool, if not cooler, in a pair of linen trousers as in shorts, so yanbu. It’s only that British men don’t know how to do hot weather smart.

I can't deal with people who care this much about stuff like this.
Honestly OP, lighten up, it's Spain.

Just say ‘no short please’, but I think YABU. The comfort of your guests should come first or you are being a bad host. They are your loved ones, not wedding props.

It astounds me that people think they have some right to dictate what other people wear. They're coming to your wedding, at no doubt considerable expense, and you want to go all bridezilla and demand they wear clothing you like?

I wouldn't go to a wedding in which the couple demanded I wear a certain colour, length, material etc because I'm a grown arse adult and quite capable of choosing my own, appropriate, clothes.

This. I've been married twice and couldn't imagine trying to tell guests what to wear.

‘Summer elegance’ makes me cringe! Very hyacinth bucket.

I would not put any clothes guidelines. Most people know what to wear to weddings and those that don’t can ask to check.

I have heard that some people stipulate guest colours as they have a certain wedding theme in mind. That level of rudeness astounds me.

I wouldn't know how to interpret summer elegance. But I'd save on the flights, I suppose.

I would also stipulate no tight trousers that give men sparrow legs.

I think "long trousers" is fine as a request. I think it's more helpful than "summer elegance". This sort of vague dress code for women is fundamentally unhelpful when trying to work out what to pack, and if going away, you aren't taking multiple dresses so don't want to get it wrong at the packing stage (the absolute worst is "women's equivalent" to some sort of extremely specific men's dress code). From "summer elegance" I literally don't understand if it's a summer/garden party dress or a formal/cocktail/ascot type dress? Could you wear a formal jumpsuit? Do I need a hat/fascinator? Is the venue high heels appropriate? Either have no dress code, or be specific in your descriptions so people understand the request. Being vague and then being upset when people don't read your mind isn't helpful when people are spending a lot of money to get there in the first place.

Missed the "summer elegance" bit. Wtf

DH has better knees than me. He's from Forrin so seems to be able to wear shorts better than most British men for some reason.
However, OP if you dont wish to risk the terrible sight of men knees I think long trousers on the dress code would suffice - you see it in slightly more upmarket restaurants in warm places

I would specify long trousers, but I also think it’s ridiculous to let women show off their knees but not men. I think you should allow tailored shorts. Let your guests be comfortable.

Do you think Spaniards go to weddings in shorts? I am 49 years old and have never ever seen this. And my brother got married in July in a heatwave.

Can they wear kilts?

Exposing more skin doesn't necessarily make you cooler, just more skin to burn, in many hot countries dress code is ultra conservative. Cotton or linen trousers not too fitted will be just as cool as shorts. I think men in shorts usually look like over size scouts, they really don't suit most men (or women come to that). Would look really odd in the wedding photos too